social problems

Hey im at university and im in my first year. At home i was always a bit of a loser and when i got to uni i wanted to re-invent myself as a cool guy. So in the first term i was the life and soul of the party and every one was like coming into my room talking just being really friendly.... and i know it shouldnt mean that much but I was the most popular guy in the kitchen and a nite wasnt as good if i wasnt there.... over xmas a few kitchen m8s came to visit and all was fine, but later on over xmas i broke up with my girlfriend of 9 months and got really down.

So at uni at the beginning of term 2 we had to decide housing and there are 13 of us in our kithen and we had to split it up. So after 2 nites and a lot of tears and someone going home we got it sorted. But the next week was very strange i mean every1 was v v quiet and only like 9 people came out for my birthday. But now 2 weeks later i can't be arsed to go out. I would much prefer to stay in my room on an internet forum....
I also am constantly thinking that people don't like me (after analysis this probably is in my mind) but im definately not as popular as i was and now i'm not needed as much. (sounds lame but hey, i am) and now i feel if im out on a night i just make it less fun and a social leper.
I know i sound like a teenage drama queen but does any1 have any advice, cause i honestly can't keep on going like this.

Reply 1

There is people worse off than you. i am totally on my own think your self lucky you have friends at all.

or maybe those people we'ren't our real friends so they don't care now.

Reply 2

wendizzle22

1

I don't think this means you're liked any less. It's probably as everyone has settled down now and become comfortable with each other, and don't think they have to spend time with the popular people to get friends. I'm sure if you went on nights out with the people you were closest to, it'd be great again.
Also, there's no need to only to consider arranging housing with people you already live with, there may be people on your course that you may find have the same interests as you and therefore you may get on well with them. There's no need to be 'cool', as long as there are a few people you can rely on, go out with and have fun with really!

Reply 3

brwnz007

Thosepeople obviously aren't your real mates coz real mates would stick around during the good and bad times..esp the bad times..so take it as a sign ..they may hurt you in the future so dont bother with them..you'll meet new people dont worry about it...we all through our ups and downs in life..theres always a light at the end of the tunnel! Dont hesitate to go off with new people..join clubs and societies..if you lock your self in your room you'll never make friends

Reply 4

MNBStyle

9

brwnz007

Thosepeople obviously aren't your real mates coz real mates would stick around during the good and bad times..

How did you work that out?? all there doing is being less Social, its not as if there treating the OP like **** all of a sudden.

Reply 5

ebonyphoenix

1

Well, just bare in mind it's not about how many friends you have really but about the quality of your relationships with those people. I have lots of people I get along very well with and talk with, ect., but only a few close friends. Popularity isn't nearly as important as really connecting with the friends you do have, IMHO.

Reply 6

sophieliz

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ebonyphoenix

Well, just bare in mind it's not about how many friends you have really but about the quality of your relationships with those people. I have lots of people I get along very well with and talk with, ect., but only a few close friends. Popularity isn't nearly as important as really connecting with the friends you do have, IMHO.

Well said. It isn't about how popular you appear on the exterior, but about having solid friendships with a few people.

Reply 7

34253

2

Sounds like these are the kind of people who follow anybody, its just not your term matey.

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