Is my girlfriend different?

My girlfriend and I are in our 3rd year. She was bullied throughout school as she was in the 1st year that her school decided that their all boy school should admit girls. Being 1 of only 3 girls in the whole school, she was bullied terribly. This has made her very insecure. She is very mature for her age and now she is at college, she is finding it difficult to make friends. Sure, she is liked, but she is just too mature for them, and eventually, they begin to shun her . . . not in a bad way, just a tad dismissive. I love her to bits and it breaks my heart to see her get upset over this. I play the macho guy in front of her, but it's starting to get me down. She has loads of potential, and the chance to do well. I give her all the love I can, all the cuddles and kisses she needs. But I am running out of things to say. What can I do/say to make her feel better? After all, this is between her and her mates. HELP!!!

Reply 1

MNBStyle

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Pau1212

Sure, she is liked, but she is just too mature for them, and eventually, they begin to shun her

No offence, but if anyone made comments like that towards anyone shes trying to make friends with, then shes bound to get some stick.
Because alot of people hate comments like that, just because she maybe more mature, it dont stop her talking about the same things like the others do.
Theres nothing much you can do really apart from being there for her and keeping her thinking positive about herself, unless you could somehow convince certain people at college that shes a great girl. You not said anything yet to make me think shes any different.
What do you think makes her Different apart from the fact she maybe more mature??

Reply 2

Jayjayjay

1

Keep doing what you are doing. Give her encourgement, keep her positive. Maybe help her to make friends outside of college or approaching new people at college, students who seem maturer or who have the potential to be thus.

Reply 3

jessicar

You sound like a very lovely boyfriend..and she definately seems damn lucky to have you! Now I have a girl in my school in the same situation, yet us girls who find her too mature just make the extra effort..why should she change? Its not your girlfriend who has the problems but her friends so there is nothing you can do for her. Especially don't worry just be there.
...eak not sure that helps at all. :confused:

Reply 4

Pau1212

OP

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Everyone else there is single . . . they like going out on the pull, getting laid, getting off their head. But she's been there, done that. So because she turns down offers of going out, they eventually stop asking her, which in turn stops them talking to her in total! Madness!

Reply 5

MNBStyle

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Pau1212

Everyone else there is single . . . they like going out on the pull, getting laid, getting off their head. But she's been there, done that. !

How old is she then??? because its either reallistically she couldn't be bothered with that sort of thing, or she started very young :confused:

The fact there all single shouldn't be a problem, but i can see how the rest might be a problem.
But i doubt shes the only very mature girl in her college

Reply 6

Jayjayjay

1

Maturity is not necessarily a negative and she should not have to conform to their ways. Maybe meet half way but not attempt to change her self as a person. Where do her insecurities lie - try and resolve that issue if possible.

Is my girlfriend different?

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