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How long were you and your gf/bf together before you said 'I love you'? I know it's like when you feel ready, blah blah, but I just wondered how long you all waited?

Reply 1

-TMG-

9

3.5 months and counting :P

I spose it depends, maybe some people who are 5'2" and purple would say love was too weak a word. Just wait? It's a ***** word to me, with all the people using it it loses its impact and meaning, at least to me.

Reply 2

pixiepeep

13

Less than a month, but by god I was crazy about him. It felt right to say it, and I never regretted it. Got overused in the end tho, and it's far more romantic if you only say it when you really really mean it, and not at the end of every phone conversation.

Reply 3

Snowfall

OP

10

-TMG-

3.5 months and counting :P

I spose it depends, maybe some people who are 5'2" and purple would say love was too weak a word. Just wait? It's a ***** word to me, with all the people using it it loses its impact and meaning, at least to me.

5'2" and purple?? What??

I'm just in a bit of a confusing situation right now as I love my boyfriend and we've talked about our future and he has said that he wants to be with me forever and that I'm the perfect girl for him. Yet he doesn't want to exchange these words with me...well it seems until we are engaged or something!

Reply 4

Amlea

1

well a month and a half!! Last saturday night actually beneath the stars!! awww :smile:

Reply 5

Snowfall

OP

10

pixiepeep

Less than a month, but by god I was crazy about him. It felt right to say it, and I never regretted it. Got overused in the end tho, and it's far more romantic if you only say it when you really really mean it, and not at the end of every phone conversation.

Yeah I know what you mean, but we've been together 6 months and we have said it to each other before but now he has said he doesn't want to say it anymore because he's not sure if he's ready to because although he does want to spend his life with me, he doesn't know what the future will bring.

(we are in a LDR and won't actually be together properly for a fair few years - uni, work experience, etc)

Reply 6

cat_meiow

1

Ive been with my bloke nearly 2 months now but known him for like 7 yrs and liked him practically that long but we havent said it to each other. He told me he loved me in a text on xmas morning but i think he was just drunk lol.

Reply 7

jayne87

8

my bf told me he loved me after about 2 months it was a bit of a shock and unexpected so i didnt say it back straight away i ran away making an excuse to get a drink from the kitchen haha but it gave me a few minutes to think it through and i went back and told him i felt the same :smile:

happy days

Reply 8

Scarlett_Jewel

1

As much as I make life-changing random decisions in lightning speed, I fall in love equally so.

With my first love, I think it took approximately 3 hours after meeting him. (Though we had been in communication for around a month previously) And with my second, still reeling from the first, it took me a few weeks.

I think you say it when you feel it, and as with any feeling, it intensifies and develops as it goes along. I don't think you can easily pigeon-hole it. As my ex once said to me "it's just a word used to describe something you feel which can't be described any other way", so as long as you mean what you say, I don't think you can put any 'acceptable' time restraints on when you should say it or not. It just depends on the individual.

Reply 9

never_ending

12

He said it after about 3.5 months. I said it back. Although i don't think it was love for either of us, just a really strong sexual connection. So I think it's sensible that your boyfriend wants to wait, it sounds like he's being mature and when he says it, it will be forever.

Reply 10

pikaboo

13

Erm, minus a month or so. :redface:

Reply 11

Scarlett_Jewel

1

NB: you can never make promises on your feelings. Love can be forever but so rarely is.

Reply 12

Snowfall

OP

10

Scarlett_Jewel

As much as I make life-changing random decisions in lightning speed, I fall in love equally so.

With my first love, I think it took approximately 3 hours after meeting him. (Though we had been in communication for around a month previously) And with my second, still reeling from the first, it took me a few weeks.

I think you say it when you feel it, and as with any feeling, it intensifies and develops as it goes along. I don't think you can easily pigeon-hole it. As my ex once said to me "it's just a word used to describe something you feel which can't be described any other way", so as long as you mean what you say, I don't think you can put any 'acceptable' time restraints on when you should say it or not. It just depends on the individual.

3 HOURS? that's pretty nuts.

I do like what your ex said though. I'm sure I'm past infatuation, exciting new relationship feeling and that it is now what I would call love. I just seem to go in circles when i speak to him about this.

I know that I can't 'make promises on my feelings' but I truely do think this is it for me. I was with my ex for three years but knew that I would never actually end up with him. With my current boyfriend, it's completely different. I really do actually believe that we are going to be together forever. It may sound naive, but from my experiences, I have never felt like this about somebody before and I can't imagine feeling any different about it.

Reply 13

ciara

13

2 or 3 months I think, but then I've only said it to 2 guys ever. I'm still totally in love with my ex and it's really hard not being able to tell him any more :frown:

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Reply 14

The Albatross

12

he said it to me. after about a week. we knew each other for about 3 weeks before we got together, so not long really! It kind of shocked me, so i said, something like, 'I think I love you, but I think its too soon to know for sure'. It wasn't long tho, before I realised I did love him, a lot! We are still very much in love, nearly 18 months later.

Reply 15

my ex-bf said it to me virtually 5minutes after we had got together... i knew him 4 3 yrs previous 2 that.

18 months.

I think he said it after about 2 months. I had been wanting to tell him for a while but I didn't dare (fear of rejection or something). Even when he said it I didn't say it back until he said it again the next day - just to make sure lol.

Reply 18

The Albatross

12

Anonymous

my ex-bf said it to me virtually 5minutes after we had got together... i knew him 4 3 yrs previous 2 that.

43 years lol :p:

i know what you meant

Reply 19

Drogue

19

Snowfall

3 HOURS? that's pretty nuts.

It was

Snowfall

I know that I can't 'make promises on my feelings' but I truely do think this is it for me. I was with my ex for three years but knew that I would never actually end up with him. With my current boyfriend, it's completely different. I really do actually believe that we are going to be together forever. It may sound naive, but from my experiences, I have never felt like this about somebody before and I can't imagine feeling any different about it.

I think I know exactly what you mean. Indeed, I would tend to agree. However I would also have to agree with Scarlett that forever is a lot longer than most people think. You won't be you forever, because you'll develop and change. As will your boyfriend. You may be right for each other, and change and develop together, but nothing is ever certain.

To me, that's what makes love so special. It isn't about forever, it's about the here and now. It's about how you feel at that moment in time, while you're the person you are and they're the person they are.

But I ramble :redface:

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