men, uni and cheating

all the guys at uni seem to have one gf at home and one at uni. except for single guys. i can appreciate that it is hard to be alone at uni. i especially cant stand international students who have one gf at home and another over here. /rant

i have had 3 relationships (non sexual due to religion) since coming to uni and have been cheated on 3 times.

whats the verdict - do guys just come to uni to play around? do any guys think there s a possibility of a serious relationship at uni ?
im catholic and want to marry young but with the number of playas it seems my chances of meeting my match at uni is small :rolleyes:

Reply 1

pumpkin7

13

oh goody. another thread about uni and guys cheating. these are really REALLY making me dread my bf going. bah.

i guess not all guys are like that, but some just think 'ah, gf at home will never find out, i might as well have some fun..'

really not the right attitude if you ask me.
hopefully my bf will stay true because we want to spend the rest of our lives together (which will be when his best friend has moved to australia (i will personally shove him in a box and deport him) and computer games are non - existent.. or illegal for anyone over the age of 20 to play).
though if he does do anything, i will go to his uni, chop off his genitalia, make his best friend eat it, and then just like.. tell everyone that he is genitalia..less... hahahahahaha sucker. meh. i hope he doesn't so anything. :frown:

stupid university. I HATE ITTTTTTTTTTTT.

Reply 2

shinytoy

OP

18

are men capable of being faithful at uni ? or is it that they want to be young and have fun?

Reply 3

pumpkin7

13

depends on who it is i guess. some guys will cheat, some guys won't.. some probably are capable, but most probably just think that they are young, and they should just sleep with everything that has boobs and a pulse.

Reply 4

shinytoy

OP

18

so if i want a serious relationship should i wait until after i graduate before i resume dating?

theres no point ot me casually dating cos i dont want sex before marriage

Reply 5

grace

15

erm, just find a guy who won't cheat?! you can't just lump all men together and assume that if some cheat, all of them will. plenty of girls cheat, in fact i think i know more female cheats than males, but again, it doesn't mean we all do.

Reply 6

Angel Interceptor

11

shinytoy

all the guys at uni seem to have one gf at home and one at uni. except for single guys. i can appreciate that it is hard to be alone at uni. i especially cant stand international students who have one gf at home and another over here. /rant

i have had 3 relationships (non sexual due to religion) since coming to uni and have been cheated on 3 times.

whats the verdict - do guys just come to uni to play around? do any guys think there s a possibility of a serious relationship at uni ?
im catholic and want to marry young but with the number of playas it seems my chances of meeting my match at uni is small :rolleyes:

Maybe that's why people don't stick with you - they might think that the commitment that you want for them is too much. At this age, very very few guys go into a relationship looking to get married, while to me it seems that that's what you want as the end product of the relationship. Perhaps if you tried to not suggest that you wanted to be married young, etc, then people would stick out relationships with you for longer and no cheat, and who knows, it may lead to something wonderful.

Reply 7

34253

2

what are you talking about there being no point dating? Do you plan on having an arranged marriage or something or are you going to drag a stranger off the bus to the chapel?

I think that you should just keep trying to find the right person, i personally wouldnt bother starting a relationship if i wasn't going to be faithfull.

Reply 8

Nocturnalia

1

Just out of curiosity, why do you want to marry young? Is it something to do with your religion?

Reply 9

TKR

15

maybe if you put out they wouldnt have to get it from somewhere else

Reply 10

shinytoy

OP

18

i dont tell men i want to marry young, its just that in the catholic religion, the purpose of sex is to make children and i want to be young enough to have children. also it isnt easy not having sex!

i guess for me the reasohn guys are unwilling to date me is because with out sex they see no point to a relationship

but thats kinda selfish, sayng that all a guy wants out of a relationship is sex. surely there;'s more?

Reply 11

Angel Interceptor

11

shinytoy

i dont tell men i want to marry young, its just that in the catholic religion, the purpose of sex is to make children and i want to be young enough to have children. also it isnt easy not having sex!

i guess for me the reasohn guys are unwilling to date me is because with out sex they see no point to a relationship

but thats kinda selfish, sayng that all a guy wants out of a relationship is sex. surely there;'s more?

Of course there's more to a relationship than sex, however for many people sex is a culmination of emotion and a very intimate way of showing your partner how much you care for them. You don't need to get married that young - you can have kids in your 30s, so you could get married then. Also, perhaps men don't stick with you because you seem to be very needy and really want to always have a boyfriend. Why don't you just try being single for a while as opposed to going out looking for potential husbands?

Reply 12

CrispyDuck

1

My boyfriend's at uni and he's faithful...(i hope :p:

) lol only joking, i know he is. He's honest enough to tell me if he fancied someone else. If you get a guy that cheats on you, he's not worth it, that's my motto :rolleyes:

. Seriously, don't go searching for the perfect boy and i'm sure he'll land in your lap! :biggrin:

Crispy

xxx

Reply 13

bikerx23

1

shinytoy

are men capable of being faithful at uni ? or is it that they want to be young and have fun?

men? from experience of my last 2 serious girlfriends women are just as easy to blame...but considering you know this to be the case atleast the men are apparently admitting this, not leading their partners on for months at a time.

rant over.

Reply 14

MNBStyle

9

shinytoy

whats the verdict - do guys just come to uni to play around?

Yes i feel the majority do, but then again it can be the same case for girls aswell.
Takes 2 to tango after all, unless one of the 2 was expecting a relationship out of it

Reply 15

white_haired_wizard

16

shinytoy

all the guys at uni seem to have one gf at home and one at uni. except for single guys. i can appreciate that it is hard to be alone at uni. i especially cant stand international students who have one gf at home and another over here. /rant

i have had 3 relationships (non sexual due to religion) since coming to uni and have been cheated on 3 times.

whats the verdict - do guys just come to uni to play around? do any guys think there s a possibility of a serious relationship at uni ?
im catholic and want to marry young but with the number of playas it seems my chances of meeting my match at uni is small :rolleyes:

why are you at uni when you want to marry young? My personal beliefs are thats ridiculous, but hey, you have the rights to think that way etc....but the practicalities, independence issues of it all etc...i think you're crazy!! If you want to marry young, you want to be a mother fairly/relatively young too? So if so, this maintenance of traditions it seems with you, why go to uni when you are going to be very busy and well-kept, maybe as a housewife and childcarer - but of course, is your husband going to be a househusband?

hmm...i think its pretty reckless but good luck. Im incredibly far from being a this 'playa' type, and i'd be enormously put off and somewhat scared if i met someone like yourself with your particularly traditional, dare i say it, outdated ideals.

Reply 16

Scarlett_Jewel

1

In my meandering experience, all my bfs (all 2 of them) and most of my male friends want to find someone who's perfect for them and stay with them.

I may have just been very fortunate. I think the fact that you're with someone and won't sleep with them at uni will have an effect on the guy, and slims your chances of finding someone who is willing to wait and get married before they can sleep with you. They're hormonal creatures, teenagers, and ones who will wait are very rare finds, so don't be surprised if 1 in around 8 won't be prepared to do so.

I'd have a major problem with it.

try dating catholic men?

Reply 17

Mangaroo

12

i guess its just a little bit harder at uni to resist the temptation at a possibly stressful time at university (depending on the course) or if all their friends are doing it...

I suggest what scarlettl said above about dating men who dont want sex before marriage.

Reply 18

-TMG-

9

shinytoy

all the guys at uni seem to have one gf at home and one at uni. except for single guys. i can appreciate that it is hard to be alone at uni. i especially cant stand international students who have one gf at home and another over here. /rant

i have had 3 relationships (non sexual due to religion) since coming to uni and have been cheated on 3 times.

whats the verdict - do guys just come to uni to play around? do any guys think there s a possibility of a serious relationship at uni ?
im catholic and want to marry young but with the number of playas it seems my chances of meeting my match at uni is small :rolleyes:

I had initially thought my time at uni would be basically all about sex, partying etc from all the stories I had been told. I found a girlfriend as soon as (well about four weeks) I got here. We have quite a lot of sex but I only have it with one girl.

I think the environment and atmosphere of uni leans more to promsicuity than faithfulness, so it may be difficult for you to find a suitable husband. But you WILL find one, if not at uni then somewhere else. Just try not to get too down in the meantime. :smile:

Good luck.

Reply 19

Ferrus

19

And to think I'd be happy with one...

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