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    I guess I'm not your typical 22 year old. I live with my partner of 5 years, who is 32, and our children aged 3 and 2. I have been staying at home with the children up until last september when I decided to bite the bullet and go to college to study an Access course. I had no intention of returning to education but I have been getting bored of being a housewife and so decided that I was going to pursue my ambitions of having a career in accounting.
    I've been offered a place at cov uni for accounting and I am waiting to hear from Warwick.

    The course itself at college is going great but I don't really fit in there. There are 2 groups, the older crowd (generally aged 30-40) who aren't my kind of people. i'm sure that this is not the case for every student over the age of 30 but the ones on my course are just not my cup of tea at all.

    Then there's the single or 20 year old group which consists of a few single mums, 20 year old people and 20 somethings who are single. They all tend to go out together and I guess I really don't fit in either group. I feel really alone and spend most of my lunch times in the library getting on with my work. It means that my essay and exam marks have great but I feel like a right loner!!

    I don't drink or go out like other people my age do and I am really concerned that I will be an outsider at university. I certainly won't be at student union nights out as I will be going home which is about 20 miles away from both cov uni and warwick uni. I am so worried about not fitting in at university.

    5 years ago I had lots of plans to go to uni, and I was very much into drinking and having a great time with my friends. Then i met my fella and settled down and because I have been at home with the children I haven't been drinking or going out much at all. I'm not complaining as I have a really easy life, but I want to enjoy my time at university.
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    maybe join some societies?whats important to you? or if you spend alot of time away form uni, maybe join groups in your local area. find friends not on your course
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    you could join daytime clubs and that way meet people who share your interests, there'll probably be other people like you with kids etc!
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    I guess charity work is important to me. I've done a lot of volunteering in the past and fund raising. My last fund raising event was a parachute jump for Childline! But I'm not sure that I'll have time for much volunteering and charity work once I'm at university.
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    (Original post by lauradelightful)
    I guess charity work is important to me. I've done a lot of volunteering in the past and fund raising. My last fund raising event was a parachute jump for Childline! But I'm not sure that I'll have time for much volunteering and charity work once I'm at university.
    lots of people do volunteering at uni, study work doesn't take up all your time!
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    There's usually some older students on any course, so dont worry about being the only one. Try and talk to people, make some friends. Some people I know at least don't socialise that much with people from their course, they go out with their housemates, so you might not miss out on that much with them. I'm sure that if you explain your situation, and find some decent people who understand it, then you will make some friends in your lectures.
    My aunt is 42 and just did a chemistry degree. She was a bit of a geek- did lots of work because I think she appreciated the opportunity of going to university more than some 18 year olds did. But she made friends of all ages, and went out for meals/cinema etc with some of them. She has enjoyed uni more than working, thats for sure!
    Im sure you will have a great time at uni- its not all about going out at night and getting drunk at all. There's so many new people to meet and lots of opportunities to be had for everyone!
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    study work doesn't take up all your time!
    I guess I just don't know what to expect! At the moment I'm doing A Level maths via a distance course and my Access course at college. It seems every walking minute I've got something to do and I don't know what number work hours is required from me at degree level. I am really looking forward to going to uni though, but it makes me feel a bit nervous too.
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    you get a varied number of contact hours (lecture, seminars, tutorials etc) each week depending on the subject and have to do independent study as well (reading, assignments) but it still leaves a fair amount of time free. Volunteering extra-curriculars are encouraged at most unis especially during the first year when your timetable is likely to be lightest
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    atleast you have your life sorted
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    (Original post by lauradelightful)
    I guess I just don't know what to expect! ....

    .... I am really looking forward to going to uni though, but it makes me feel a bit nervous too.
    I feel the same (23yrs old - 3yr old son - seperated). I think what you have to realise is that there are many people with the same feelings as you have expressed and by doing that hopefully it'll make you feel better to know you are not alone
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    I am working-class and feel slightly it might hold me back, but only ever so slightly.
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    Just mingle in, have a coffee with people, stuff like that, get to know them a bit, a someone might end up being your best friend!

    The one thing I learnt from starting at uni is that there is no such thing as specific groups, everyone just tends to cling to each other in the first year because nobody knows any better! :rolleyes: So they group up with people who may seem to be like them.

    I didn't really fit it at first because I have a long term partner who was living back home, had to do a lot of paid work to fund my studies, and didnt have bottomless bank accounts to fund 7 nights a week social activities!!
    But give it time and you find more out about people, and you find people you have stuff in common with - not all 20 year olds want to go out and get hammered all the time, but may give this impression especially in the first year.

    I would have loved someone like you on my course to have a 'quieter' time with, but still do loads of fun 'uni life' stuff I'm sure there are plenty of people on your course who will feel the same too.

    I barely made any proper friends in the first year, just masses of mates, then when everyone calmed down a bit in the second year, we all actually talked properly and got to know each other, and now I have at least 5 friends who I am confident that I will be friends with for life, and plenty of other great friends besides. :cool: Yay!
 
 
 
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