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I'm 26...she's 31...can it work?

What do people think of this age gap in a relationship? Are we both at an age it no longer matters or is it still a factor?

Very interested to hear some feedback on this!

Thanks in advance!

Paul.

Reply 1

username447608

14

I dont think it matters once your past 20 tbh! it be different if you were both teenagers but your not! i say go for it!

Reply 2

Berbalicious

It's not really a big deal, it just depends what stage of life you are both at.
If you both make each other happy, then go for it.
What's the worst that can happen? :smile:

Reply 3

Erich Hartmann

13

It will work if both of you want it to work and don't let age get in the way.

Reply 4

alawhisp

9

Anything can work as long as you're honest with each other and have the same expectations.

Did you ever ask out that friend you posted about liking OP?

Reply 5

Paul911

OP

Hey alawhisp, I unfortunately haven't seen her face to face as yet and don't want to ask anyone else for her number bar her as I want to do it right but I have decided that next time we are on a night out together I'm going to ask her direct and just hope I get the right answer! Fingers crossed :smile:

Reply 6

alawhisp

9

Original post by Paul911

Hey alawhisp, I unfortunately haven't seen her face to face as yet and don't want to ask anyone else for her number bar her as I want to do it right but I have decided that next time we are on a night out together I'm going to ask her direct and just hope I get the right answer! Fingers crossed :smile:

Ooo yay, good luck! Hope you see her soon, for your sake :biggrin:

Reply 7

Paul911

OP

Original post by alawhisp

Ooo yay, good luck! Hope you see her soon, for your sake :biggrin:

Thanks alawhisp! It certainly would be a lovely early c'mas present if she says yes...infact I wouldn't ask for anything else...so hope it works out! :smile:

Any other comments reference the age gap?

Thanks guys + gals!

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by Paul911

What do people think of this age gap in a relationship? Are we both at an age it no longer matters or is it still a factor?

Very interested to hear some feedback on this!

Thanks in advance!

Paul.

The age gap itself is a non issue. But, I wouldn't consider it for anything more than a short term relationship or a fun encounter. At 31 she is near the end of her fertility. If you are thinking about starting a family some day, do you really want to worry about the hassles of getting her pregnant? Artificial insemnation? IVF? They can cost thousands of pounds with no guarantee of success.

Of course if you are not interested in starting a family and have no interest in kids, then it's not an issue. However, keep in mind that in 5 years, you will still be getting looks from 21 year olds, while at 36, she won't be looking so good anymore. She might be an exception, but those 20 somethings are going to be mighty enticing when you compare them to your 36 year old girlfriend.

Reply 9

LonelyTimeLord

I think at that age, you are ok with the age difference... as long as you are both happy and comfortable with it, then I don't see a problem :smile:

Reply 10

superduper34

Don't think it matters!!

Reply 11

alawhisp

9

Original post by Anonymous

The age gap itself is a non issue. But, I wouldn't consider it for anything more than a short term relationship or a fun encounter. At 31 she is near the end of her fertility. If you are thinking about starting a family some day, do you really want to worry about the hassles of getting her pregnant? Artificial insemnation? IVF? They can cost thousands of pounds with no guarantee of success.
I hope you're trolling. Near the end of her fertility? Take a biology class - menopause doesn't start in some women until 50+.

Original post by Anonymous

However, keep in mind that in 5 years, you will still be getting looks from 21 year olds, while at 36, she won't be looking so good anymore. She might be an exception, but those 20 somethings are going to be mighty enticing when you compare them to your 36 year old girlfriend.
You don't know the OP, how do you know 21 year olds will find him attractive? He seems like a nice guy from his posts (and don't take offence Paul911, this is for argument's sake and you know I'm rooting for you) but he might not be particularly good looking. She might be a stunning woman who holds her looks well into old age. And have you considered that maybe he might love her enough (certainly indicated by his other post) not to be interested in ditching her for a cheap fling with a young'un? :facepalm2:

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

Original post by Paul911

Any other comments reference the age gap?

Thanks guys + gals!

5 years is nothing. However, why are you going for a 31 year old woman? Do you have trouble getting younger women? Be totally honest here. You don't have to tell us on the forums. But, just be honest with yourself.

If you could have a hot 21 year old with a tight firm body and perky breasts, would you still want this 31 year old woman who is past her prime?

There is plenty of time to date 31 year olds, like when you are 50. But, for now, focus on the young ones, or you will regret it later.

Reply 13

YorkieLad101

sure, its only 5 years, not much difference in a relashunship

Reply 14

Paul911

OP

Original post by Anonymous

5 years is nothing. However, why are you going for a 31 year old woman? Do you have trouble getting younger women? Be totally honest here. You don't have to tell us on the forums. But, just be honest with yourself.

If you could have a hot 21 year old with a tight firm body and perky breasts, would you still want this 31 year old woman who is past her prime?

There is plenty of time to date 31 year olds, like when you are 50. But, for now, focus on the young ones, or you will regret it later.

I am far from a 'super stud' but I would say I have fair/moderate success with women my age. I have been very fortunate to date two gorgeous girls recently (one was in my class at Uni and has just turned 24 and the other is the same age as me). While they were lovely girl's I didn't have the connection I have with the girl who is the subject of this thread - she is just perfect in my eyes!

I originally met her when she was my age and I was 21, at that stage I thought the age gap would have been too much of a concern for her and didn't pursue anything at that stage but we have been friends. The age gap was never ever a concern to me however, I do believe as we have both got older it has became less of a factor to the point it no longer matters.

Only recently she has started to say things and act in such a way that I'm getting a vibe that she may like me on some level in that way, I could have gotten that very wrong ofcourse, but if there's a chance, I would love to give it just that!

At 31 I definately don't see her as being 'past her prime', she is stunning both inside and out. Yes, she is likely to be after some long term commitment early on but this would not be an issue to me, I'd be proud to call her my girlfriend!

Ps: no offence taken alawhisp! :smile:

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 15

shinytoy

18

Original post by Anonymous

5 years is nothing. However, why are you going for a 31 year old woman? Do you have trouble getting younger women? Be totally honest here. You don't have to tell us on the forums. But, just be honest with yourself.

If you could have a hot 21 year old with a tight firm body and perky breasts, would you still want this 31 year old woman who is past her prime?

There is plenty of time to date 31 year olds, like when you are 50. But, for now, focus on the young ones, or you will regret it later.

yes, but maybe the OP isnt looking to bang hotties anymore? maybe he wants a woman with a decent mind?

i mean im 25 (girl) but would choose a mature 40 year old dude with grey hair over a 22 year old TOWIE type anyday. sure i'd bang the hottie, but you need MORE in a relationsihp. i say in a couple years the OP is ready to marry, and believe it or not, most marriages are within a coulpe years age diff. not 30/21 male/female!!!

Reply 16

Paul911

OP

Anymore thoughts?

Reply 17

ManAbout

Original post by Paul911

Anymore thoughts?

5 years isn't an age gap. Personally, I wouldn't consider a woman over 30 for a serious relationship. But, in your situation, I really don't think you have a choice in the matter as you already appear to be too smitten with her to pull back. So, just go with the flow and see where it leads. Attraction really isn't a choice.

Reply 18

Anonymous #2

Well,my ex-boyfriend was 28 years old and i'm 18 years years old ,dont think about the age gap ,as long as you can understand each other then go for it !! Don't let the age gap comes and ruins everything :smile:

Age is just a number .
Good luck :smile:

Reply 19

Paul911

OP

Original post by ManAbout

5 years isn't an age gap. Personally, I wouldn't consider a woman over 30 for a serious relationship. But, in your situation, I really don't think you have a choice in the matter as you already appear to be too smitten with her to pull back. So, just go with the flow and see where it leads. Attraction really isn't a choice.

Thanks for the reply...I must add when I say this girl is 31 she literally has only just turned 31 - shes very special to me and I can confidently say no girl has ever came close in terms of things in common and similarities, certainly from my side of things I feel a connection but I just hoping that is felt both ways.

Obviously I'd be lying to a certain extent if I said her being slightly closer to my age wouldn't be the icing of the cake but it honestly doesn't bother me, and I think in another fews years it will mean less again.

Personally if I was out to find the 'package' and the person I can see a possible future with (obviously I won't know this from sure until or if we go out in a dating capacity) this girl is all I've ever wanted in that respect! :smile:

(edited 13 years ago)

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