ghosts of the past

Hi, about 18 months ago i had a bad split from a girlfriend. she cheated on me with someone in the same school, different classes :mad:

. she was my first love essentially, and though we'd both slept with other people before, she'd had a lot more experience than me. it hurt a lot at the time, but i am a much stronger person for it.

she left to go to uni about 100 miles away and lives there pretty much permanently. however i saw her in the street the other day and friends say she's dropped out. if this is the case, i'll see her out in town in bars and i don't know whether to say something. there's a lot that could be said knowing what i know now (that she'd lied to me and cheated on me more than once).

but after all its a long time ago, and is it really doing anyone any good by dragging up the past :confused:

Reply 1

bret

12

Anonymous

Hi, about 18 months ago i had a bad split from a girlfriend. she cheated on me with someone in the same school, different classes :mad:

. she was my first love essentially, and though we'd both slept with other people before, she'd had a lot more experience than me. it hurt a lot at the time, but i am a much stronger person for it.

she left to go to uni about 100 miles away and lives there pretty much permanently. however i saw her in the street the other day and friends say she's dropped out. if this is the case, i'll see her out in town in bars and i don't know whether to say something. there's a lot that could be said knowing what i know now (that she'd lied to me and cheated on me more than once).

but after all its a long time ago, and is it really doing anyone any good by dragging up the past :confused:

I'd just strut around and let her know you're the boss. That'll hurt her more than anything you could say or do. Being nasty will only show she's gotten the better of you.

jay

Reply 2

strawberry

13

it's times like these where I'm ashamed for these people who represent my gender.

Reply 3

redandgreen

1

just totally ignore her if you see her and be flirty wi ppl infront of her but make sure you have a friend who will stop you saying something to her if you get too drunk

Reply 4

Steve Stifler

Try and get off with her mates.

Reply 5

hugatree

11

Nah don't talk to her. :smile:

Reply 6

34253

2

Bang her best friend.

Reply 7

Catski

If you see her... be civil, be polite but don't seek to make any more contact than that. Dwelling on this will only hurt you more and it reflects poorly on you if you decide to act like a **** by trying to get with a friend of hers. Be the grown up here and you'll come out on top (figuratively speaking) in the long run.

Reply 8

pixiepeep

13

Act as if you've forgiven her entirely and that she can't get a rise out of you anymore. That'll feel worse than anything to her, I promise

Reply 9

bret

12

I've changed my mind. She sounds like a complete bitch and i think you should set her straight.

Reply 10

I don't think it would be a good idea to drag up the past like that. It won't be worth the time and effort, and could just all go badly. I know how you feel as my ex bf is back after being away for several months, and after he had left I found out that he'd lied to me about quite a few things. It would be so easy to start going on at him about what a **** he is, but I don't think there's much point as I can't really see what it would achieve!

Reply 11

jojo26

Hello

I would just put it down to being one of your experiences of life and relationships, if you feel nothing for her either way, then there should be no issue with being polite if you accidentally bump into her. If you don't have trust you have nothing whether it's a friendship or a relationship.

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