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    There are many situations in which you can meet a future boyfriend/girlfriend: through friends, in a bar, in a club, at work, at uni, or on the net...

    Which situation do you prefer to meet future boyfriends/girlfriends: is it somewhere like a bar and then you meet up several times "one-on-one" on dates, or is it when your friends are involved in the whole process too?
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    Anywhere. It's never planned when I meet someone and it just happens. So I have no preference. Not on the internet though. That's not good.
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    Anywhere, i'm not a fussy person. Who cares anyway if they're "special"
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    Same as G4ry. I'm not fussed. As long as somebody is met lol.
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    not bothered as long as they live close, and it isn't going to be an internet thing.. because they usually fail.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There are many situations in which you can meet a future boyfriend/girlfriend: through friends, in a bar, in a club, at work, at uni, or on the net...

    Which situation do you prefer to meet future boyfriends/girlfriends: is it somewhere like a bar and then you meet up several times "one-on-one" on dates, or is it when your friends are involved in the whole process too?
    prob in the least expected circumstances... but anywhere really i guess its probably better if its in some place i go often thou, or it will b hard to keep the relationship going smoothly (eg NOT in a trip to antartica)
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    When you go for number 2, there's your special someone!
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    Couldn't care less. TSR is notorious for its seedy, match-making underbelly; perhaps, I shall exploit that propensity to my advantage.
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    It's not a big deal to me. I am curious why you posted anonymously though.
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    I'd love to meet someone somewhere unusual, ie not at a bar or club. Like when I'm travelling around the world, or a bit simpler, on a bus or in a queue, you know when you just catch someones eye and theres that instead attraction, a bit movie-esque i know =p
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    When doing a sport. I like women who do sport...
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    (Original post by -x-buttercup-x-)
    I'd love to meet someone somewhere unusual, ie not at a bar or club. Like when I'm travelling around the world, or a bit simpler, on a bus or in a queue, you know when you just catch someones eye and theres that instead attraction, a bit movie-esque i know =p
    I don't think that many people meet their better half in a bar or club. I personally think it's more "movie-esque" than people who just go out with a friend or a friend of a friend. The latter option seems so opportunistic and unromantic: as if you're just going for the easy option because you want a boyfriend/girlfriend so you take what's available among the few friends you know.

    I know some girls who have gone out with pretty much every single one of my friends and friends of friends back from high school. There's something like 10 of them. She's clearly been opportunistic and gone through them one after the other. I'd be seriously bothered to go out with someone I've known for so long and seen with other people: if I'm so great, why did she go out with all these guys while still knowing me (and knowing me well!) ?

    In the bar/club environment, it's like you find that one person out of a crowd of people. Out of the hundreds and hundreds of people you come across there's that one person who catches your eye, with whom there's a spark as soon as you start talking. Sure there's also the "sleazy, pull anything at arm's length" attitude and plenty of people just get random snogs from people they've barely spoken to and will never speak to again. But there really aren't that many people who actually try to meet and meet their boyfriend/girlfriend that way. I think it's because it's a more difficult option that I find it so attractive. It's not easy to find that person with whom there's instant mutual attraction.

    I'm still uncomfortable going on dates with someone I haven't started anything with... There's that ambiguous feeling of not knowing if you like eachother, yet you're in a situation where you implicitely have said that it's a possibility.

    As for the internet, it can be a nice way when it's used properly but I would always be a bit uncomfortable with the idea that "I met this person through the net". I think it lacks the magic you get when you first meet someone although, if you make sure nothing serious is said online and just meet casually, no reason why that spark can't appear...

    Meeting someone in a random place is good but then going through the uncomfortable dating part can be very awkward. Meeting in a museum or at a café or whatever is always neat but none of that instantaneous sudden attraction...
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    That "special someone" doesn't exist. Nobody would ever care enough. I look about 13, and frankly, I'm pretty sure most people don't even know I exist, even when I'm in the same room as them.
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    In real life please.
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    preferably somewhere they won;t end up behind bars at the end of the night!
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    eyes stare across a crowded room, both turn away but can't resist looking back, then all of a sudden, the couple lose sight of each other, and wonder around looking hard. Walking out of the place, feeling empty, the phone rings, it's your girlfriend/boyfriend asking where are you.
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    It depends on the stage of life you're at. I met my ex-boyfriend at school, although we didn't start going out until about two years later.

    Last year I worked in an office. All my friends were at uni and I didn't really get many opportunities to meet guys. The result? I had a bit of a fling with a guy I met at work. It's easily done. Your hands brush together when you're both in the kitchen making coffee. He gives you a cheeky look when he passes your desk. You send each other flirty emails. Then one night everyone goes out for a drink and it happens.

    Now I'm at uni, and I've met guys in all different places. I like quite a few guys at the moment. I've met loads in halls, one or two in societies, quite a few on my course and a few just randomly, in clubs or on the union bus. On student nights in various clubs, it's quite likely that the person you end up dancing with lives in a hall fives minutes' walk from you, and so if you exchange numbers, it's easy to see each other again. If you like someone on your course, it's easy to suggest you go for lunch or a quick pint after your class together. If you like someone in hall, the chances are they'll go out in the same group as you at some point, and you can offer them a bacon sarnie when you get home if you want an excuse for them to come back to yours.

    But when I graduate, I know it'll be more like last year. The social pool will suddenly get smaller, and the most likely places to meet people will be at work, or through friends. But it will also be much easier to go out with someone who isn't your age. The guy I met at work last year was 5 years older than me. At the time I wished we could be a proper couple, but now I realise that having a 25 year old boyfriend when I'm 20 and at uni would have been much harder than having a boyfriend my age and at a different uni. But if I happen to meet a 28 year old man when I'm 23, and we're both living independently with the freedom to do what we want, there would be nothing stopping us.

    So in a nutshell, if you're under 18 you'll probably meet them at school. If you're 18-22 you'll probably be at uni, and so you could meet them absolutely anywhere. If you're older, you'll probably meet them at work, through friends, or possibly in a bar or club.
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    im not picky.

    im not very sociable, well thats a lie...i am *when* i know the people. initiating contact and actually meeting the people is the bit i dont reconcile. so i guess i'd probably meet people more easily through the interweb
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    I've already met him, years ago.
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    (Original post by Profesh)
    Couldn't care less. TSR is notorious for its seedy, match-making underbelly; perhaps, I shall exploit that propensity to my advantage.
    Tis notorious, eh? I might exploit that as well. I'm just sick and tired of not having someone to be with, it really gets me down sometimes :bawling: Any blokes out there who want a girlfriend? Anyone ....?
    Oh, well.
 
 
 
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