Successful Cambridge Applicants Chat - 2006

KAISER_MOLE

I'm sure some have tried, must be some out there

It wouldn't have any passion. (Jolly good thing too...)

Reply 5141

friendlyneutron

KAISER_MOLE

I'm sure some have tried, must be some out there.

In the bargain book store, under a stack of Mills & Boon novels. :p:

Reply 5142

Gravastar

friendlyneutron

I do think sex is responsible for a lot more than it's given credit for though!

Yeah - Europe is waking up from the groggy denial of the last 2000 years of Church authority...

Reply 5143

That Freudian stuff is weird though. I used to read my friends' Psychology texts when they were working and I was bored, and I'd be sat there either a) laughing my head off, b) going "That's just gross!" or c) going "Well that's blatantly wrong!".

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wanderer

2

Damn, I turn my back for a few hours and people go and have an interesting convo without me!

Attraction can be all about sex (which it is at base, assuming we're outside DnD religion so we're accepting evolution) and still include non-physical stuff, as Gravastar said. On completely biased, anecdotal evidence, I'd guess that humour and confidence can swing things strongly in someones favour, intelligence depends on the kind of intelligence (worth a lot more if you're articulate), and 'kindness' and 'being a nice guy' are overrated for attracting someone in the first place, but will probably matter a lot if you're talking about hanging on to a relationship once you've got that far. And saying that relationships between men and women are all about sex is a bit wide of the mark unless you broaden 'sex' to 'reproduction in general'. Remember that the reproductive impulse involves more than just looking for the right set of genes to pass on to the child - for women in particular, there's also a push towards looking for a partner who is going to be an effective protector/provider for the child/children.

Dragon Girl, thats how most people react to Freud. I can think of no more convincing evidence that he was on to something.

Reply 5145

And on that mind-blowing and thread-killing note . . . :wink:

Why does everyone on this thread have to be so smart? :p:

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wanderer

2

Dragon Girl

And on that mind-blowing and thread-killing note . . . :wink:

Why does everyone on this thread have to be so smart? :p:

We're not, we're all copying and pasting from the web in the hope that Cambridge will stumble upon it, think we're great, and let us in when we miss our grades.

Or is that just me? :cool:

Reply 5147

Well it's alright for you, Mr "A,A,1,2" :p:

Remember the less fortunate!

It made me feel a lot better when I was applying that all my friends said "If Cambridge don't want you it's their loss." :smile:

Now they're all busy bricking it about their results, like me.

And I can't even go out and drown my sorrows until Sunday. :frown:

Reply 5148

Loocy

wanderer

for women in particular, there's also a push towards looking for a partner who is going to be an effective protector/provider for the child/children.

And then of course there's the old adage that women are attracted to men with power... which makes the intelligence/confidence over looks thing make a lot more sense, as intelligence/confidence would point to being more likely to become powerful than the typical nice guy, yes?

Laura, totally empathise about the intelligence thing :wink:

Confidence would probably be the most important thing for me, don't want to go out with a wee mouse...

Reply 5149

Camford

12

Power is like a good apple pie. Absolute pie corrupts absolutely.

Reply 5150

KAISER_MOLE

7

I'm sorry, but you ever seen Speedy Gonzales, now that is a confident mouse!

Reply 5151

KAISER_MOLE

I'm sorry, but you ever seen Speedy Gonzales, now that is a confident mouse!

Reply 5152

Gravastar, the stalking was a massive misunderstanding. all that needs to be said really!

Reply 5153

Who can really say what attracts one person to another? You can waste a good long time talking about things like that and not get anything conclusive from it, because theres too much variation on what people find to be "attractive".

Reply 5154

uz_master

Gravastar, the stalking was a massive misunderstanding. all that needs to be said really!

What's all this about stalking? :confused:

Recently loads of people have been going on about people stalking them.

Reply 5155

*twiddles thumbs*....

Reply 5156

Gravastar

wanderer

'kindness' and 'being a nice guy' are overrated for attracting someone in the first place, but will probably matter a lot if you're talking about hanging on to a relationship once you've got that far.

Truesay, but 'hanging onto a relationship' is not what I was talking about when I was discussing society's concept of 'love'. As a relationship goes on, and the people involved become old and hoar, it's going to be more about comfort (or less ideally, convenience) than it is about lust. However, I'd still say that the great romances that people read about and use as examples of true love are fundamentally based on lust (and usually never get to the comfort stage because the lovers in question generally get killed). Take Helen and Paris for instance - they're very typical exemplars of 'love' in literature, but when you think about their relationship, their attraction was immediate and can quite clearly be attributed to lust. The perceived purity of their love, in my eyes, comes down to the fact that countless thousands of soldiers then died for their right to express it (which is probably very sexy, if you happen to be Helen/Paris and not a soldier).

Reply 5157

well, basically my ex accuses me of stalking, shes off to camb this year too. sorry, dont wanna talk anymore about it, because its stupid and ridiculous and way in the past now. she wasnt worth the time anyway

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