To cut a long story short, i have 'broken up' with my boyfriend of 3 years. I say 'broken up' because inevitable we will get back together *sigh*
In short, he was just a liar, lied about everything, i found stuff behind my back, he would lie about the smallest of things. He was physically abusive, immature, irresponsible, and pretty much useless. He loves me an awful lot, but he just doesnt respect or appreciate me as a person. I dont want to be vain but i have a lot going for me- im intelligent, motivated and very hard working and ambitious, and i never give up in the face of failure. He, on the other hand, is the laziest most useless person ever. I wouldnt even care, but he doesnt appreciate me at all. He treats me like im just always going to be there (because ive always let him walk over me)
We broke up over a week ago because he was physically abusive AGAIN and i need to make my point. But the thing is its still ME contacting HIM. He saying hes changed but he clearly hasnt. in fact, he just hung up on me now and hasnt bothered contacting me back.
Ive been asked on dates by other guys, and I was going to go on one to try and make him realise what it would be like if he lost me. (not going to physically/sexually do anything, just a date to make him realise other guys want me). The thing is, he said he would never talk to me again if i dated another guy (i think he would as long as i didnt actually do anything with them).
So yes, do you think this is a good idea? I just want him to realise that i deserve to be respected. love isnt enough and i want fun times, not constant misery.
I know he loves me, but how do i make him realise that im not always going to be there (even if i am).