Mourning

is it wrong to go out/party while in mourning?

i suppose its a mark of respect.

how long should it last?

can you still go to a bar?

Ok iv just re read what iv wrote and it sounds so unsensitive and so stupid but i really don't know?

Reply 1

vicky600

2

no its not wrong.. your still mourning, but your whole life does not need to stop.. it will probably help take your mind off things..
on the day my grandad died i went bowling with my friends in the evening. It doesnt mean i wasnt mourning, but it did help take my mind off it, my dad completely understood and im sure my grandad would have liked me to go out xx

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

im torn as to whether i should go visit my friends at sheffied for a girl's bday - iv booked the tickets ages ago and although they only cost £19 it would be a waste if i didn't go.

im so confused. this whole thing is hard.

Reply 3

Segat1

16

I would recommend you go. It sounds like you need to do something other than think about it all.

Reply 4

jen1987

Go, i just lost some one close to me so i know what you're going through. I felt disresepctful going out and having fun but then i realised that he wouldnt have wanted me to sit around grieving for him, he'd have wanted me to get on with my life and it definately does help you take your mind of things. Getting over someones death can apparently take 2 years but that doesnt mean you have to put your life on hold for this long

Reply 5

kateykat

I think you should go and take your mind off things. There's no point in moping around doing nothing.

Reply 6

Garfield_007

I also lost someone recently aswell and I think that they would want me to go out and enjoy myself because life is just too short! However, at the moment I still don't feel like going out but every person is different so do what you feel is best :smile:

Reply 7

Helenia

20

Anonymous

is it wrong to go out/party while in mourning?

i suppose its a mark of respect.

how long should it last?

can you still go to a bar?

Ok iv just re read what iv wrote and it sounds so unsensitive and so stupid but i really don't know?

We're not living in the 19th century any more, so there aren't fixed rules about what to where/do and how long you have to be "in mourning." I would say that your life should not stop because someone has died; it's not being disrespectful to them because it doesn't mean you're not thinking of them or being sad, but you're carrying on your life.

If you want to go out, then do.

Reply 8

Tyler Durden

17

There is no real ritualised process of mourning in our culture today; I would follow your instincts - I am sure that the person who died would have wanted your happiness. It might cheer you up. Sorry for your loss.

Reply 9

username30638

13

Anonymous

is it wrong to go out/party while in mourning?

i suppose its a mark of respect.

how long should it last?

can you still go to a bar?

Ok iv just re read what iv wrote and it sounds so unsensitive and so stupid but i really don't know?

No it's not wrong for you to do that. It is possible to mourn without dressing in black and staying indoors crying all the time. As long as you are not neglecting others who are grieving and need your support, like family or friends. Because if that's the case, it would be quite a selfish thing to do.

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