If you've never had a relationship by 20 does it mean you're ugly?

BTW i'm one of these people (in case you think i'm trying to mock). Well, I'm 19, never kissed anybody, never had a gf etc. I usually put it down to having low self esteem but I'm starting to think I'm just ugly.

What do you think anyway?

Reply 1

precious7

pics? for better judgement? but seriously i'm sure ms right hasn't appeared yet

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by precious7

pics? for better judgement? but seriously i'm sure ms right hasn't appeared yet

I really don't want to post pics here. Girls have told me I'm hot in the past but I persuade myself it's because they're desperate/have low standards.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Original post by precious7

pics? for better judgement? but seriously i'm sure ms right hasn't appeared yet

Several 'ms rights' have come and gone and i just end up not doing anything about it, hoping that something will magically happen. And when nothing happens i just get more depressed.

Reply 4

hatemylife

I am also one of these people and am ugly, so that supports your theory.

Reply 5

joey11223

no, reason being that even if someone is "ugly" by someone else's standards, there will be other "ugly" people for them as well. I work in a shop...some chav couples I see look almost sub-human, I imagine partly from a few generations of inbreeding depression. Now they are together, so really even if you are rather unattractive, it isn't a barrier to anyone ever wanting to be with you.

I wouldn't consider myself attractive, not ugly, but not desirable. My first serious relationship didn't start until I was 19 going on 20. Now what if I hadn't met that person? I have no interest in anyone else, and thus if I hadn't got with them, I'd be 20 and in your position, which is only a difference of a year really.

So no...I really doubt your ugly. But your lack of self confidence and self esteem because you doubt yourself, may be reflected in how you behave.

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

No, in my case it genuinely meant I hadn't met the right person. I didn't get a boyfriend til I was 20 and just never felt ready to have those experimental relationships teenagers have, and was always too shy to make a move even when I knew boys fancied me back. Weirdly when I met my first and current boyfriend we got on so well and I felt so comfortable that it was actually me who made the first move, and now I'm thankful I waited it out as I am extremely happy and treated really well by my boyfriend, which is far better than a lot of girl mates' earlier relationships.

So it could just be a case of not having met the right person or not having subconsciously been ready for a relationship. It'll happen eventually and unexpectedly, as is the cliche.

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

No, I was an equally late starter despite being relatively good looking. A lot of it boils down to self-esteem and taking the chances that come your way.

Improving your looks does help though, there's no doubt about it. Deck yourself out in good clothes and get a smart haircut and I bet you'll get a fair bit more attention.

Reply 8

Frankio

I haven't, but would you say I was ugly? I certainly wouldn't!

Reply 9

rockrunride

I'm 21 and I haven't ever been in a relationship either. I just put it down to the right person not having come along yet :smile:

Reply 10

extom

I've never had a relationship or a date. I am a loner with no friends and not much of a life. This means I have no confidence to approach girls as i have nothing whatsoever to offer them! I'm trying hard to change that by getting a decent job