Hey TSR,
I am about 9 weeks into uni. I went through sixth form with few friends and a lack of social life and was determined for that not to be the case at uni. growing up, my parents were very protective and therefore I didn't get to experience much until I came to uni.
When I came to uni, I was scared to try new things at fresher's week and therefore felt very out of place on all the nights out because I had never tried anything like this before. It wasn't natural for me and I felt very uncomfortable. I made a couple of friends in my halls who were like me and didn't want to get drunk and we would go home early. then slowly as time moved on, my flatmates eased me into going to bars and clubs and I slowly started to experience the wonders of alcohol. Now I enjoy going on nights out and am learning to enjoy it.
but now everyone is split into groups at uni. there are those that drink excessively, those that don't drink that all through choice/experience/age, those who prefer to stay in and do work and therefore are invisible, muslims, and a few that do not fit into a clear group because they do not live at halls and haven't made many friends. I seem to not fit into any group.
people in my halls are the extreme clubbers and I cannot do this because I am a first year medic and my work is my priority and it is hard for me to just join their group because they already have formed frienships and it's too late, I can't just want to tag along. people on my course also go out a lot and sometimes I want to join them but because the friends that I made are all non clubbers I can't go out with them. and because people are in groups already its hard to tag along. and I feel left out.
I feel like I don't fit in with the quiet girls that do not go out and I don't fit in with the extreme clubbers because I am one of those that needs time to do my work and although I am asian I do not fit in with the hindus and muslims. and I feel that I can't just tag onto a group because people have made their friends already. what can I do? atm I go out with my flatmates one a month but when we go out we have a big night out and I have so much fun. but next year when we go our separate ways and after 3 years when my friends (mostly non medics) move on who will I have left? I am scared I will be alone. people have all made lots of friends and I don't seem to fit in what can I do?
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if you can't be bothered to read the above,
basically, everyone seems to fit in and have found a group of friends at uni but I haven't. I have a few friends that I see irregularly and each have their own group of friends and I don't seem to fit in anywhere. how can I make more friends at uni? its already 9 weeks in and it may be too late.