urgent help needed!!!

well there is this guy, that i kinda like, he has a gf but is very overly friendly to me! can anyone think of any surefire methods of gettin this lad to dump his gf??? i am at my wits end!

Reply 1

strawberry

13

that's kinda mean y'know......I mean, for all you know, his girlfriend's mad about him too. but I don't know any methods of getting rid of a potential boyfriend's current girlfriend so sorry, I'm no help.

Reply 2

kobrakai

1

He could just be over-friendly with you. My best friend was exactly the same with our entire friendship group and he had a girlfriend at the time.

Reply 3

albowonderer

OP

no when i mean overly friendly i mean really really overly friendly he has even said to me that i wud have him at hello! i aint meaning to be evil wantin to split them up but they dont see eachother ever and he said he loves her "considerably" i mean wtf?!?! and he is always sayin how he can see us 2 together and how we wud b a brilliant couple and last nite when he had a wee problem he called me coz he apparently wanted to see me and no one else not even his gf ^o) i dont get it!

Reply 4

Segat1

16

Wow, this sounds like great boyf potential. He has a gf but he's hitting on you? Do you want to go out with a guy like this?

You may also wish to use punctuation. Otherwise you sound like Vicki Pollard, innit.

Reply 5

kmr89

That is very mean, and a bad attitude to take... but its same attitude as me and i was in your situation (but switch genders around) about 2 months ago.

I just hung around with her loads and was just super flirty... and it worked for me :biggrin:

but yeh, generally this kinda thing isnt a great idea :p:

Reply 6

Samsara

Did he suggest he's having problems with his girlfriend or is everything perfectly fine between them?

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

You shouldn't be actively trying to break up his relationship. If he does break up with her it should be his decision. If you really like him then just talk to him and admit how you feel and then allow him to make a decision. If he really likes you liek he says he does he will choose you. My boyfriend was with his ex when I first met him and one night out we got drunk and both admitted we like each other. I then left him to make the decision over his ex or me. He chose me but I still felt very guilty about the whole situation. I gave him space to think about what he wanted and didn't make decisions for him.

Reply 8

Samsara

^ The exact same thing happened to me. Except we weren't drunk. And he was having big problems with his girlfriend (which is why I asked if there were any problems between the couple in mind). I did feel guilty but I also went though a lot of pain at the start of our relationship as he didn't want his ex to know he met someone else, and she kept phoning him even when he was with me (he wouldn't tell her I was there) as she wanted stay friends with him. When she did find out, I got hassle from her friends. Silly things like one time when I left the library to go to the toilets, I'd come back to find my seat missing and it sitting beside her and her friend as they giggled. It took me months to get over the whole ordeal.

Reply 9

Apricot Fairy

16

You should never try and split up a couple. Bear in mind that if he's prepared to dump her for you, he'd also be prepared to dump you for the next pretty girl to come along. I was in a situation once before where a close friend of mine started going out with someone and I realised too late that I wanted to be with him. I just dealt with it. I concentrated on being his friend, and hers, and made a conscious effort not to flirt with him in any way. As it happened, we did end up getting together, but I only told him how I felt once he was single again.

Reply 10

Samsara

susiemakemeblue

You should never try and split up a couple. Bear in mind that if he's prepared to dump her for you, he'd also be prepared to dump you for the next pretty girl to come along. I was in a situation once before where a close friend of mine started going out with someone and I realised too late that I wanted to be with him. I just dealt with it. I concentrated on being his friend, and hers, and made a conscious effort not to flirt with him in any way. As it happened, we did end up getting together, but I only told him how I felt once he was single again.

It was different for me though. My boyfriend and I live the exact same lifestyle and his previous girlfriend was completely different than me. We're now best friends as well which is great :smile:

And we've been together for over a year now. I doubt he'll do the same thing to me. However, in this topic's situation the guy sounds to me like he's not serious with any relationship.

urgent help needed!!!

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