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    I'm a 17 year old lad and I have never had a girlfriend or any sexual experience. I put this down to my looks mainly as I am very small for my age and perhaps don't look 17. I am not socially great and don't generally talk to girls at 6th form. Despite all this I feel like I should be having sex as I am having urges to try and get the whole 'virgin' thing out the way. Next year I'm going to uni and I feel like my social experience won't be that great as I will find it difficult to socialise with girls because I will feel like they will make fun of me.

    Basically, in an ideal world I will have had sex before university as for me it will give a boost in confidence to socialise more at university.

    Can anyone relate to this or offer me any advice on what I should do?

    Thanks in advance. It's much appreciated.
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    I wouldn't sweat the whole sex before university idea, I hadn't and I've still socialised fine despite having a similar time as you've had (well bar the looking young - Apparently I look a fair bit older than I am).

    Also, don't fear being made fun of, it's more likely to happen if you do. Just don't care too much about what people think about you and try to be comfortable with who you are. From prior experience, when comfortable with yourself you have more of an air of confidence about you which does help in pretty much everything in life.
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    The whole virgin thing is in your head - if you have sex once, will it affect your life in any way, shape or form?

    I'll say the same thing I always do: If you think sex is meaningful it should be with someone you connect with, if you think it's meaningless and you don't care who it's with it should be much easier to "get laid".

    Despite what you might think, lots of people go to university without having had sex (though they may hide this from everyone as the whole virgin thing has a vicious stigma attached to it).
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    Unless you're planning to have sex with every girl you meet at uni, your status as a virgin shouldn't really have any impact on your ability to socialise. Try joining some clubs at sixth form (Or outside of it), it will get you talking to new people.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a 17 year old lad and I have never had a girlfriend or any sexual experience. I put this down to my looks mainly as I am very small for my age and perhaps don't look 17. I am not socially great and don't generally talk to girls at 6th form. Despite all this I feel like I should be having sex as I am having urges to try and get the whole 'virgin' thing out the way. Next year I'm going to uni and I feel like my social experience won't be that great as I will find it difficult to socialise with girls because I will feel like they will make fun of me.

    Basically, in an ideal world I will have had sex before university as for me it will give a boost in confidence to socialise more at university.

    Can anyone relate to this or offer me any advice on what I should do?

    Thanks in advance. It's much appreciated.
    i know how you feel. i had similar thoughts when i was 18 in the summer holidays before university. i have had strong sexual urges since i was 14.

    i am 21. still a virgin. still never kissed a girl. i want to kiss and have sex. i am not waiting for anyone special. i dont think its looks because i would say i am average looking and i have been working out for over a year. i predict i will still be in this situation when i hit 22.
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    people talk about sex a lot at university. there is a whole stigma around virginity. i dont tell anyone that i havent kissed nor had sex. i would be the subject of ridicule if i did. if girls found out, they would have a much lower opinion of me. sex was a topic when people had alcohol. usually in drinking games. i became very nervous when anyone talked about it and wished they would change the subject.
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    Im 18 and a virgin...

    I can tell you one thing: More guys seem interested in me in the fact that I havent had sex...

    And Im sure there are girls out there that will appreciate the fact that you are not the sort that just goes round sleepin round wit every girl you like the look of...

    Shows u have some self-respect for yourself...
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    I'm a 24 y.o. virgin and I've felt quite desperate myself lately. My first sexual experience with another person is probably going to be a prostate exam. At least it's free on the NHS and I'll just have to keep my fingers crossed the nurse is a female.
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    Why do people have such a fixation on losing their virginity. I was just 19 before I lost my virginity, and you are 2 years younger than me, so you still have time. But don't focus on it too much, as it'll just eat you up inside and make you feel pressured to lose it. Take it easy and enjoy your life, don't focus on sex so much. Girls will come along when you are relaxed and not so tense about losing "it" for the sake of it. Do you go to parties? Do you talk to any girls in your class? Do you go to any after college classes, such as Martial arts etc? The more people you meet, the more chances you will have of making contacts and meeting girls.
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    The above poster is right. People are too obsessed with losing their virginity. Most people I know here were still virgins when they started university. The truth is that no one really cares about whether you're a virgin or not; at least not anyone who is a decent person. I think there can be too much focus on it sometimes. For example I'm not a big fan of certain drinking games like "Never Have I Ever.." which people use sometimes to brag about their sexual prowess. People make out sex to be much bigger and better than it is. The fact is though, that it doesn't change anything about who you are fundamentally.

    FTR I have never asked anyone I know about whether they're a virgin or not because, quite frankly, it's none of my business. I don't even ask people I'm dating. There's no need to tell any girl that you're a virgin because it's quite likely they'll know already or you can just fake it with your confidence.

    I lost my virginity aged 17 in Freshers' Week to someone who became my boyfriend for the next year. I wasn't planning to and it just happened (this is often the case). I think generally speaking the first time isn't that great. It's better that it's someone you trust as sex is where people are their most vulnerable selves. Of course it's up to you whether you see sex as encompassing romance or not and that will affect when it happens.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a 17 year old lad and I have never had a girlfriend or any sexual experience. I put this down to my looks mainly as I am very small for my age and perhaps don't look 17. I am not socially great and don't generally talk to girls at 6th form. Despite all this I feel like I should be having sex as I am having urges to try and get the whole 'virgin' thing out the way. Next year I'm going to uni and I feel like my social experience won't be that great as I will find it difficult to socialise with girls because I will feel like they will make fun of me.

    Basically, in an ideal world I will have had sex before university as for me it will give a boost in confidence to socialise more at university.

    Can anyone relate to this or offer me any advice on what I should do?

    Thanks in advance. It's much appreciated.
    as soon as i read that you're 17, stopped reading.

    what's the problem? you're a baby
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    Find a *****, offer her some money and that's pretty much it.
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    So what if you're a virgin. It's really not a big deal. And most girls would prefer a guy who hasn't slept around.
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    your frustration will only get worse once you've had sex. 'getting it out of the way'is possibly not a great idea.
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    Get it out the way asap. And don't whatever you do tell the girl that you're a virgin. If a girl thinks she's sleeping with a virgin then it makes her feel cheap cos it makes us think 'well if nobody else wanted to sleep with you then why should I?'. Sorry but I think brutal honesty is probably the best thing in this case.. I mean you're not gettin any younger! You need to become confident, assert yourself, don't be fussy. Maybe try laughing her into bed if your appearance isn't your best feature? Also.. act older and steer clear of virgin girls. Ideally you should look for a drunk ****.
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    (Original post by littleone271)
    Get it out the way asap. And don't whatever you do tell the girl that you're a virgin. If a girl thinks she's sleeping with a virgin then it makes her feel cheap cos it makes us think 'well if nobody else wanted to sleep with you then why should I?'. Sorry but I think brutal honesty is probably the best thing in this case.. I mean you're not gettin any younger! You need to become confident, assert yourself, don't be fussy. Maybe try laughing her into bed if your appearance isn't your best feature? Also.. act older and steer clear of virgin girls. Ideally you should look for a drunk ****.
    i think this is advice is brutal but true. it puts my situation into persepctive.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a 17 year old lad and I have never had a girlfriend or any sexual experience. I put this down to my looks mainly as I am very small for my age and perhaps don't look 17. I am not socially great and don't generally talk to girls at 6th form. Despite all this I feel like I should be having sex as I am having urges to try and get the whole 'virgin' thing out the way. Next year I'm going to uni and I feel like my social experience won't be that great as I will find it difficult to socialise with girls because I will feel like they will make fun of me.

    Basically, in an ideal world I will have had sex before university as for me it will give a boost in confidence to socialise more at university.

    Can anyone relate to this or offer me any advice on what I should do?

    Thanks in advance. It's much appreciated.
    Wait til freshers week, you'll be a mad thing then haha
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    (Original post by Jaidenh)
    Wait til freshers week, you'll be a mad thing then haha
    i never got any action at freshers. not even a kiss. i am 21 now. advice for me plz?
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    (Original post by snowman77)
    i never got any action at freshers. not even a kiss. i am 21 now. advice for me plz?
    That's your own fault for not making friends and not going out and socialising like everyone else would have done :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by snowman77)
    i never got any action at freshers. not even a kiss. i am 21 now. advice for me plz?
    Damn i'm out of advice
 
 
 
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