Does anyone else feel like they keep drawing the short straw?

It's just something I need to get off my chest. I keep looking back on a lifetime of setbacks. Other people seem to have it so easy.

A friend of mine has parents were so wealthy, they retired in their 40s/50s, his parents put money in stocks and shares when he was born and paid for his entire Uni education and social life. He was still entitled to student grants and pocketed the money given to him.

He's only worked for a year and lived quite a full life, he's moved out and living with his girlfriend. I've worked for five years, saved up about 70% of the money I ever earned and yet it's less than a third of what he has. I was born to a single mum who's now got a s*** load of debt and she partially relies on my income to support her. She's not emotionally supportive of me at all, whenever I'm angry or upset, she usually has a go at me for "taking it out on her" and then her partner starts having a go at me as well.

Then on the relationship front, I met a girl earlier this year who was probably the most awesome person I'd ever met and various setbacks meant we weren't able to keep in contact, I slipped into a depression which I'm still not fully out of after 6 months and she's since found another guy who's become entrenched in all of her friends and been abroad with her and everything. I was sitting at home yesterday literally sobbing about how lonely I feel, thinking about how lucky this guy is. It just seems such a sorry state of affairs, especially for someone my age (mid-20s).

I've gone above and beyond the call of duty to try and make friends and meet people and others seem to come along and acquire it with little/no effort. You can't just say to me "Get out there", because I am "out there" and nothing seems to be changing.

Whenever I happen across a negative situation, I always try and make a positive out of it, but everything I do ends up seeming superficial, because I'm still lacking the only thing I crave, which is regular human interaction.

Is there anyone else who just keeps being dealt a s**t hand?

Well clearly you don't always look on the positive side given that you made this thread...

Life isn't fair. No one ever said it was. Get over it, and make the best of what you have.

You far luckier than so many people. In the news recently, there has been a story about a woman who was jailed FOR BEING RAPED, and then forced to marry her attacker. There are thousands of poor children in developing countries, who have worlds less to live for than you.

It's just something I need to get off my chest. I keep looking back on a lifetime of setbacks. Other people seem to have it so easy.

A friend of mine has parents were so wealthy, they retired in their 40s/50s, his parents put money in stocks and shares when he was born and paid for his entire Uni education and social life. He was still entitled to student grants and pocketed the money given to him.

He's only worked for a year and lived quite a full life, he's moved out and living with his girlfriend. I've worked for five years, saved up about 70% of the money I ever earned and yet it's less than a third of what he has. I was born to a single mum who's now got a s*** load of debt and she partially relies on my income to support her. She's not emotionally supportive of me at all, whenever I'm angry or upset, she usually has a go at me for "taking it out on her" and then her partner starts having a go at me as well.

Then on the relationship front, I met a girl earlier this year who was probably the most awesome person I'd ever met and various setbacks meant we weren't able to keep in contact, I slipped into a depression which I'm still not fully out of after 6 months and she's since found another guy who's become entrenched in all of her friends and been abroad with her and everything. I was sitting at home yesterday literally sobbing about how lonely I feel, thinking about how lucky this guy is. It just seems such a sorry state of affairs, especially for someone my age (mid-20s).

I've gone above and beyond the call of duty to try and make friends and meet people and others seem to come along and acquire it with little/no effort. You can't just say to me "Get out there", because I am "out there" and nothing seems to be changing.

Whenever I happen across a negative situation, I always try and make a positive out of it, but everything I do ends up seeming superficial, because I'm still lacking the only thing I crave, which is regular human interaction.

Is there anyone else who just keeps being dealt a s**t hand?

I was born in communism, we had rations like 1kg of sugar a month and 2 slices of bread per day, etc etc. Imagine what that **** was like, only eating enough food to survive. One hour of TV a day, electricity goes out by 9PM and hot water was a luxury.

There's at least 2 billion people on this planet that have it worse than that. So...were lucky trust me. Lucky to live in the west, lucky to live in the UK. Even if you are in debt afterwards you're lucky the government supports higher education and they don't come knocking on the door for the money the second you get out of Uni.

Yeah I see people that were born in wealthy families and have everything handed to them, and it sucks that we weren't part of that, but that's life, it's not fair, there is no karma. It's survival of the fittest, or the luckiest, or whatever you want to call it. But do everything to survive, that is the point of life. Everyone wants to be on top.

Look, I was born in the remote village of habibi in the outskirts of djibouti to an albanian prostitute where i was raised by an ascetic monk in the Azerbaijan mountains before moving to Croatia at the age of 5. At the age of 15 I was conscripted into the croatian military where I served as a janitorial technician in Iran. After moving to florida at 19, I followed my auntie's footsteps and roamed the streets as a prostitute, selling blowjobs for 5 bucks.

After a brief stint in rehab, I turned my life around and became a personal trainer. In the past several years I've hunted with the indigenous tribes of Sri Lanka, discovered 3 previously unknown star clusters with nothing more than my grandmother's magnifying glass, some ducttape and tinfoil and and have had a statue erected in honour of me in Uzbekistan for peace negotiatians with the native titthibhalad tribe.

**** happens.

Yes, except I was actually being honest. Thanks for trolling me though. Appreciate it.

It's just something I need to get off my chest. I keep looking back on a lifetime of setbacks. Other people seem to have it so easy.

A friend of mine has parents were so wealthy, they retired in their 40s/50s, his parents put money in stocks and shares when he was born and paid for his entire Uni education and social life. He was still entitled to student grants and pocketed the money given to him.

He's only worked for a year and lived quite a full life, he's moved out and living with his girlfriend. I've worked for five years, saved up about 70% of the money I ever earned and yet it's less than a third of what he has. I was born to a single mum who's now got a s*** load of debt and she partially relies on my income to support her. She's not emotionally supportive of me at all, whenever I'm angry or upset, she usually has a go at me for "taking it out on her" and then her partner starts having a go at me as well.

Then on the relationship front, I met a girl earlier this year who was probably the most awesome person I'd ever met and various setbacks meant we weren't able to keep in contact, I slipped into a depression which I'm still not fully out of after 6 months and she's since found another guy who's become entrenched in all of her friends and been abroad with her and everything. I was sitting at home yesterday literally sobbing about how lonely I feel, thinking about how lucky this guy is. It just seems such a sorry state of affairs, especially for someone my age (mid-20s).

I've gone above and beyond the call of duty to try and make friends and meet people and others seem to come along and acquire it with little/no effort. You can't just say to me "Get out there", because I am "out there" and nothing seems to be changing.

Whenever I happen across a negative situation, I always try and make a positive out of it, but everything I do ends up seeming superficial, because I'm still lacking the only thing I crave, which is regular human interaction.

Is there anyone else who just keeps being dealt a s**t hand?

I realize it's been over a decade and chances are you won't read this, but I got to ask... I got here because I googled feeling the exact same. Life just keeps dealing me the worst hands, just when one sh** situation end two new ones presents itself, no matter how positive I try to think or be. I know everyone gets to deal with sh** in their life, however some people seem to get less and others more of it.

So I'm wondering: did it get any better for you? And do you now, 9 years later, have any advice for me and others on how to get through?

Well, yes it did. About 4 months after this post I decided to volunteer abroad for 6 weeks. That was a good way for me to meet new friends. After the volunteering ended, I would travel around the UK and Europe to meet up with them and some of us are still in touch.

2 years after my post I decided to get myself out of the house and meet people who were likeminded nearer home. I like rock music so I started going to rock gigs and rock bars in London. I changed my style to look more rock and roll. I went from being a 20-something year old virgin to going home with a different woman on successive Friday nights. I'm in a long term relationship with one of those women now and we are getting married next month.

In the middle of all that I decided to go to University as a mature student and I got a degree. Now I live abroad and manage a team of 25 people.

Don't get me wrong though, I've had tons of setbacks along the way and I still meet people from time to time who try to put me down or try to stuff things up for me. I have to fight really hard against it and it gives me a lot of stress every time. Maybe I just attract that kind of thing.

I guess the moral of the story is don't give up the fight. Get out there, find ways to meet people. Change your lifestyle. Move to a new city. If anyone treats you badly, get rid of them. Don't allow toxic people in your life at all. Focus on your own needs instead of trying to make other people happy. Get a good haircut and dress smartly or in a way that makes you feel comfortable so you don't have to care about your appearance. Try a few things you've never tried before. Go places you have never been before. Venture outside your comfort zone from time to time. In my opinion, a person is merely the sum of their own experiences so changing the way you experience life will change the way you are too.

Hope in the last year since your post you have made some progress.

Well, yes it did. About 4 months after this post I decided to volunteer abroad for 6 weeks. That was a good way for me to meet new friends. After the volunteering ended, I would travel around the UK and Europe to meet up with them and some of us are still in touch.

2 years after my post I decided to get myself out of the house and meet people who were likeminded nearer home. I like rock music so I started going to rock gigs and rock bars in London. I changed my style to look more rock and roll. I went from being a 20-something year old virgin to going home with a different woman on successive Friday nights. I'm in a long term relationship with one of those women now and we are getting married next month.

In the middle of all that I decided to go to University as a mature student and I got a degree. Now I live abroad and manage a team of 25 people.

Don't get me wrong though, I've had tons of setbacks along the way and I still meet people from time to time who try to put me down or try to stuff things up for me. I have to fight really hard against it and it gives me a lot of stress every time. Maybe I just attract that kind of thing.

I guess the moral of the story is don't give up the fight. Get out there, find ways to meet people. Change your lifestyle. Move to a new city. If anyone treats you badly, get rid of them. Don't allow toxic people in your life at all. Focus on your own needs instead of trying to make other people happy. Get a good haircut and dress smartly or in a way that makes you feel comfortable so you don't have to care about your appearance. Try a few things you've never tried before. Go places you have never been before. Venture outside your comfort zone from time to time. In my opinion, a person is merely the sum of their own experiences so changing the way you experience life will change the way you are too.

Hope in the last year since your post you have made some progress.