Making Friends

Its been so long since ive tried to make new friends, that im affraid, that when i go uni next year i wont be able to make any!
im worried that i wont have anyone to talk to.

Am i just worrying for no reason? what shall i do? what is the best way to make friends with people that you've never seen before?

thanks guys!

Reply 1

Shooting_Star

Don't worry about it! Everyones the same when they are starting uni, I know I was! My advice is to go to freshers week, you will meet loads of people there and beacuse everyones in the same position, they are all really chatty and friendly. Well it was at my uni anyway!

Just be yourself, have some confidence and talk to people! You'll be fine!

Reply 2

chocmonster

1

you will have no problem, in the first couple of weeks you talk to anyone and everyone, regardless of what they look like or where they're from and friendship develops from that!!!

Reply 3

NotQuiteCornish

A couple of years back when I started at College, although I'd gone to one a load of my mates had applied to, I had a meeting with no-one else I knew. Back then I was shy as anything, and didn't have a lot of confidence, so I was bricking it a little.

But I told myself, say hi to people and be open, and I'd made three good friends by the end of the day, one girl who was even trying not to let me go home!

My advice: don't worry! If you do, try and hide it, as it does show and that's not what you want. Be yourself, be smiley and approachable, and look interested in other conversations!

Reply 4

joeybee

11

I worry about being lonely at uni and not making any friends. But i think that the fact i worry puts pressure on me to make friends and build up relationships, and i think that can be a bad thing as it makes you force friendships when they just come naturally.
So i am going to try to just be myself and hope that people like me for that, instead of doing what i used to do!

Reply 5

NotQuiteCornish

I'm a little bit nervous but I reassure myself that at the end of the day, if I'm applying to study, say, landscapes for three eyars, then at least say twenty others will instantly have one thing in common with me. Then you'll have 5 to 500 ppl living around you who have that in common, and also people lost at freshers' week too.

Breaking the ice is the barrier to instant acquiantances, and if you've something in common with someone, it's so easy.

"Where are you staying?", "What do you think of...?", and "Want to go out tonight with our class to get to know each other?" seem like good starters.

People WILL like you for that; perhaps not EVERYONE, but I don;tknow anyone who's friends with everybody they've ever met!

Your attitude is the right one IMHO, so best of luck!

Reply 6

Leigh

15

I guess it's daunting for everyone, including me (I'm far from the most social person!) but everyone is in the same boat, and everyone wants to make friends and meet new people, just take all the opportunities you can get; freshers' week, societies, nights out etc.
Shouldn't be too bad anyway; you've got more to talk about than meeting people in the usual places! General questions like "where are you from", "what are you studying", "which hall are you in" are boring, but oh so easy ice breakers!

Reply 7

wednesburywench

2

freshers week will be fine, you will have some unfound confidence and talk to anyone! however its when people start forming groups where problems start. I have neevr had any problems but at uni have found myself not really having and good friends that i click well with. Shame really, makes uni a whole less enjoyable. Dont worry tho, aslong as you like your course :smile:

lol. I'm hoping next yr will be better!

Reply 8

sheepgirl

2

I found going to college and making friends impossible - but I think uni will be much better because everyone will be new - and everyone will be feeling just like you. Making friends with people on your course is a good starting block, then they can introuce you to other people etc. etc. Im sure u'l be fine. Everyone gets worried about making new friends but im sure you will

Reply 9

bullyfish

12

I found going to college and making friends impossible - but I think uni will be much better because everyone will be new

Would have to agree with that, its much harder to join into a group of people, but easier to set one up!

Reply 10

neaera

NotQuiteCornish

I'm a little bit nervous but I reassure myself that at the end of the day, if I'm applying to study, say, landscapes for three eyars, then at least say twenty others will instantly have one thing in common with me. Then you'll have 5 to 500 ppl living around you who have that in common, and also people lost at freshers' week too.

Breaking the ice is the barrier to instant acquiantances, and if you've something in common with someone, it's so easy.

"Where are you staying?", "What do you think of...?", and "Want to go out tonight with our class to get to know each other?" seem like good starters.

People WILL like you for that; perhaps not EVERYONE, but I don;tknow anyone who's friends with everybody they've ever met!

Your attitude is the right one IMHO, so best of luck!

Perfect advice :smile:

i was really worried about it, too, but you want to make friends enough to overcome your shyness!

Reply 11

Luvbug

9

Really don't worry about it. Everyone is going to be so desperate to make friends that you'll make them really easily! Plus you have all those questions to ask 'Where are you from...Ohhh I know it!/Is it nice?' 'What are you here doing?' 'What did you do at A-Level' 'So do you have any brothers or sisters?...A cat/dog/pet kimodo dragon maybe?!' Then this leads onto other random stuff. Start with the mundane and you never know where you could end up!

Also is it just me but when making friends you don't really notice it happening, and then suddenly you feel like you've known them for ages? (Or is this just me being odd?! :wink: