Bf is on holiday

My bf has just left me to go to america for 3 weeks. I know it sounds sad but i don't know how i'm gonna survive! We havent been more than 3 days apart in all the time we've been together (2 yrs 3 months) I havent got any money coz im saving for the holiday that we're going on (lucky b****** goes on 2 holidays) so i really don't know what to do with myself. Im constantly thinking about him and just want to pick up the phone and ring him but I can't, his phone don't work out there and he's staying in a villa!

Reply 1

xXMessedUpXx

15

Make yourself busy, go out with friends, take up a hobby, spend your days on the internet, read a book, cook, sleep-anything!

And be grateful for the fact he's only gone to america for 3 weeks, my ex went for 3 years-and we split up

Reply 2

Niaya

13

aw huni you'l be fine time apart can be good for you, my boyfried is going on holiday for a week with his best mate and i'l miss him but im not gonna be callin him everyday and i dont think he'l call me everyday when away for a moth in the summer. just keep busy it will give you a chance to spend time with friends you might have been neglecting

Reply 3

Lush Law

15

get over it, tramp

Reply 4

happydinosaur

15

Three weeks will pass much quicker than you actually think. Trust me. Anyway it is good to spend time apart.

Reply 5

Leigh

15

Just try to stay occupied. And if that doesn't work, think about how amazing it'll be when he comes back :wink:

Reply 6

cheeky0011

OP

1

red_roadkill

get over it, tramp

does missing my bf make me a tramp? and I thought i had issues, why don't i dedicate this thread to you!

Reply 7

cheeky0011

OP

1

red_roadkill

get over it, tramp

does missing my bf make me a tramp? and i thought i had issues, maybe i should dedicate this thread to you!

Reply 8

white_haired_wizard

16

cheeky0011

My bf has just left me to go to america for 3 weeks. I know it sounds sad but i don't know how i'm gonna survive! We havent been more than 3 days apart in all the time we've been together (2 yrs 3 months) I havent got any money coz im saving for the holiday that we're going on (lucky b****** goes on 2 holidays) so i really don't know what to do with myself. Im constantly thinking about him and just want to pick up the phone and ring him but I can't, his phone don't work out there and he's staying in a villa!

absence makes the heart grow fonder?

And also, you know, there's 3rd world drought, horrible government corruption in areas, etc....and you complain about something so unbelievably petty - just think about the context of things and you'll survive i'm sure....email him if you can't get through to him, thats if he has a computer around the area. Perhaps you also spend far too much time together - i mean only 3 days apart in 27 months? That's absurd and could be so unhealthy, maybe not now but in the long run? To make occasions like this in the future pass more smoothly with less of the emotion, spend a little more time apart perhaps - some psychological conditioning of sorts.

Wow...going by those numbers, and if i was in such a relationship, i'd feel so claustrophobic, i simply wouldnt let that situation materialize, and nor would any other sensible significant other. :eek:

Just seems really childish all of this.

Reply 9

Mrs_F

15

Aw man it will fly by. It's only 3 weeks afterall, some people are apart from their partners for a lot longer than that.

You really will survive - you have no choice - you aren't realy going to not survive just because he is away for 3 weeks!?!

Chin up, you'll be fine.

Reply 10

amie

14

lynseyweth

Aw man it will fly by. It's only 3 weeks afterall, some people are apart from their partners for a lot longer than that.

You really will survive - you have no choice - you aren't realy going to not survive just because he is away for 3 weeks!?!

Chin up, you'll be fine.

I agree

3 weeks is really no time at all, and it'll probably do you and your relationship good to have some time apart. My boyfriend and I spent months apart last year because he was at uni so far away, but we're much closer as a result. It gave us each a chance to experience some things alone, which is helped too. You'll be fine! :wink:

Reply 11

Vetinari

8

wizard

And also, you know, there's 3rd world drought, horrible government corruption in areas, etc....and you complain about something so unbelievably petty - just think about the context of things and you'll survive i'm sure....

She hasn't submitted her worries to some world problem solving tribunal, she posted on a board that is clearly for relationship questions and worries, such as this one.

Your reply just seems... bizarre.

Reply 12

pedy1986

13

Get a life outside your bf, seriously.

Reply 13

Mrs_F

15

cor

Get a life outside your bf, seriously.

Good point.

To Cheeky - why not spend lots of time with your friends? Time to yourself just to chill out and relax. Do things that you don't normally do when you are with your boyfriend. You will enjoy yourself and then you won't be sitting around wondering about him as much. Have fun - it will take your mind off him!

Reply 14

white_haired_wizard

16

Vetinari

She hasn't submitted her worries to some world problem solving tribunal, she posted on a board that is clearly for relationship questions and worries, such as this one.

Your reply just seems... bizarre.

my reply is realism. And i think that there are good points in it which she could perhaps consult.

Look its my take on it ok? Do you have a problem with that? It seems so, now get over yourself. She has posted to get peoples opinions and i have done. Thats what a forum is all about, and look ok, let her reply to my post and see what she feels towards it, before making a dumb ass comment.

Reply 15

MNBStyle

9

Ask him to get a better phone so you can ring him :biggrin:

He should of given you a villa number in advance anyway or something

Reply 16

dede

11

wizard

my reply is realism. And i think that there are good points in it which she could perhaps consult.

Look its my take on it ok? Do you have a problem with that? It seems so, now get over yourself. She has posted to get peoples opinions and i have done. Thats what a forum is all about, and look ok, let her reply to my post and see what she feels towards it, before making a dumb ass comment.

Yeah ... but it was a bizarre post, because you discredited her feelings.

And don't get so defensive, because after all, Vetinari was only posting his/her opinion, right?

Reply 17

white_haired_wizard

16

dede

Yeah ... but it was a bizarre post, because you discredited her feelings.

And don't get so defensive, because after all, Vetinari was only posting his/her opinion, right?

i was putting her feelings into the GRAND PLAN/CONTEXT of things, just like many other posters have done. There's a recurring theme with the replies to the OP.

Yes Vetinari was posting his/her opinion and the majority here would comply with me - it seems they have done regarding their own personal takes of the issue. The minority here, generous description it must be said, has made no constructive comment and has seemingly discredited bigger problems. He/she should go to a poor, LEDC like i did a couple of months back - people AIDS and disease ridden, in horrific living conditions - then she would realize her 'problems' are very very trivial. Look b/f is away for 3 weeks, there's nothing you can really do about it.

Reply 18

kobrakai

1

Think yourself lucky he's only gone for 3 weeks.

Mine went to Australia for FIVE weeks, missing our 6 month anniversary, my birthday AND Christmas.

Reply 19

randdom

20

I spent two weeks away from my boyfriend this summer and to be honest it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Just keep yourself busy meet up with friends and have a good time, you will be surprised how fast the time passes. Personally I am worride about when I am going away for my elective for 2 months now that will be a challenge.

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