Gossip/How much others talk about you

Do you think that other people talk about you and your business a lot? Or do you more think that people are too concerned with their own lives to really talk about you? For example, if I say something silly or unintentionally mean to a friend, would she mention it to other friends she was hanging out with later that night? Or would she most likely forget about it? Hypothetical, but you get my point :wink:

Reply 1

awkward_eagle

1

I get kinda paranoid that people are talking about me a lot. I know they're probably not, but I can't help feeling like that.

Reply 2

galadriel100

15

If someone said something unintentionally mean to me I wouldn't tell it to other people. If someone said something funny, a joke or something then I'd tell someone else.

Reply 3

lostinfantasies

2

Well, with me being the way I am (i.e., I take a while to get used to things/I'm clumsy), I wouldn't be surprised, especially where I work. But I'd rather not know about it (ignorance is bliss, etc.). If it's to do with my job and is something I can improve on, I'd rather they'd let me know, so I can change that.

I *know* my "mates" from my old school did/do it. We were all as bad as each other; Person A would go up to Person B and tell her that Person C said so-and-so about her, when it was in fact Person A. And then A & B would bitch about C, A would bitch to C about B, and SOMEHOW, B & C would bitch about A, even though deep down, they hated each other.

Reply 4

zooropa

For example, if I say something silly or unintentionally mean to a friend, would she mention it to other friends she was hanging out with later that night?

Yes, people talk.

Reply 5

Leigh

15

I wonder this sometimes. It's not uncommon for discussions about people who are not there to start up among me and my friends. They aren't always nasty, but sometimes we are a little mean. That often makes me wonder if the same happens when I'm not there; I presume it does. I'd like to know what my friends say behind my back, but I guess I'd never know.
We sometimes ask if we get talked about, but of course, everyone is always told no, but you aren't going to answer that question honestly are you!?

Reply 6

white_haired_wizard

16

Seemingly so a couple of years ago when i was in my first year at uni. I even had the honour of notes being made about me and posted on others rooms! Hardly an honour i must say, i didn't like them and they didn't like me, and they had 'code names' for me which was bemusing to say the least. Nothing openly nasty towards me but they didn't like me, rather one didn't and chose to kind of turn others against me, just to ignore me really - some people just want to be liked by everyone and you know i'm not into that personally, its not normal/natural. From what i gathered i come across as very weird and random, good thing or not...just odd that i was completely civilised towards them all, they had no idea how much they bugged the hell out of me - i did absolutely nothing to bug the hell out of them but they were very noisy, immature people, they each thought and described each other as 'cool' - they were the 'cool' group, the 'cool kids' they liked to call themselves - they were just housemate acquaintances, and i treated them with respect but then some started to blank me out whenever i was about to say a polite 'hello' so **** em, didnt bother after that.

**** em, they were arseholes. :smile:

Reply 7

iamgenius

i bitch about others alot so i would expect no less from them..hehe

Reply 8

Evil Phoenix

2

ladygrey

Do you think that other people talk about you and your business a lot? Or do you more think that people are too concerned with their own lives to really talk about you? For example, if I say something silly or unintentionally mean to a friend, would she mention it to other friends she was hanging out with later that night? Or would she most likely forget about it? Hypothetical, but you get my point :wink:

it all depends on what kind of a person you are and what kind of friends you have. gossip tends to be very common, and i know for a fact that many people talk about "me and my business" a lot :rolleyes:

, i just sort of get used to it, it's life after all

Reply 9

kmr89

I have been thinkin about this quite a bit, i would guess that judging by how my mind works that i think people do talk a lot about my business and read a lot into what i say.

So much so that it sometimes takes me about 15 minutes to write a txt message because i keep writing things and thinking "that could be taken wrong" and deleting... anyone else like that? really look into what u say to take out any ambiguity?

Reply 10

Schroedinger's Pandora

13

I'd love to think my friends don't discuss my business with others, but in my circle there tends to be a lot of two-faced bitchiness. My best mate at uni ****-stirrs between me and some of the others, just as they all ****-stir about each other. Im gradually realising that its just a sad fact of being a woman and associating with women, a psychologist could have a field day explaining it all. Women are bitchy. Women always love to feel better that they have some kind of highground over other women.
I really should make friends with more guys :hmmm:

Reply 11

MNBStyle

9

ladygrey

Do you think that other people talk about you and your business a lot? Or do you more think that people are too concerned with their own lives to really talk about you? For example, if I say something silly or unintentionally mean to a friend, would she mention it to other friends she was hanging out with later that night? Or would she most likely forget about it? Hypothetical, but you get my point :wink:

Who cares

Its there problem and i would just find it a shame they cant say it to my face

Reply 12

Apricot Fairy

16

I don't think my friends talk much about me because most of them aren't really the gossippy type. Maybe I'm wrong though.

Reply 13

Gem

14

ladygrey

For example, if I say something silly or unintentionally mean to a friend, would she mention it to other friends she was hanging out with later that night? Or would she most likely forget about it? Hypothetical, but you get my point :wink:

I think it would depend on how much your friend was upset. I mean if she knew you didn't mean it she'd probably ignore it but if she was upset, she'd want someone to talk to about it.

As for my I don't bitch about people, well I mean unless they've majorly upset me but normally I just ignore it. I reckon everyone talks about someone sometime, but say if I found my mates were talking about me then they wouldn't be true mates would they?

Reply 14

Fluent in Lies

2

I would feel special if people talked about me.

Reply 15

Gem

14

Fluent in Lies

I would feel special if people talked about me.

You don't need people to talk about you to be special, you are special :smile:

Reply 16

zooropa

wizard

Seemingly so a couple of years ago when i was in my first year at uni. I even had the honour of notes being made about me and posted on others rooms! Hardly an honour i must say, i didn't like them and they didn't like me, and they had 'code names' for me which was bemusing to say the least. Nothing openly nasty towards me but they didn't like me,

So? No one has to like anyone else.

Reply 17

white_haired_wizard

16

zooropa

So? No one has to like anyone else.

had you properly read my post you stupid fool, then you would have seen that i'd put that point in my post.

Reply 18

RachelBabyfrog

14

We all talk about each other all the time, but never maliciously. It's more a case of what we're up to, funny stories and saying, 'Oh, so and so is such a great person!'... So friendly gossip!

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