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knowing where a relationship is heading...
I have been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks or so and I am starting to really care about him a lot. We both see each other as much as we can, but we havent said whether we are officially going out or not!
the thing thats bugging me is that one of the first evenings we met up he admitted that he was weary of relationships after getting hurt by his ex and the fact that he's in his first year at uni. Ive also got hurt in the past and enjoy being single at uni... yet its not enough!
Whats weird is that he hasnt said anything similar to that since, and whenever we're out together we hold hands, stay with each other all night if we're at a club, watch DVDs together
, etc. When i mentioned something that was happening in a few months time, he kind of hinted that he'd still want to be with me even that long down the line 
But how can I approach the subject of where our 'relationship' is heading? After all if he wants to just be close friends I'll accept it but its not what i want
I think another thing thats sort of buggin me is the fact that its valentines day soon and its gonna be a bit awkward about how we spend it if I dont even know whether he wants us to be properly together or not!
Any advice people?! p.s. sorry the post is so long
the thing thats bugging me is that one of the first evenings we met up he admitted that he was weary of relationships after getting hurt by his ex and the fact that he's in his first year at uni. Ive also got hurt in the past and enjoy being single at uni... yet its not enough!
Whats weird is that he hasnt said anything similar to that since, and whenever we're out together we hold hands, stay with each other all night if we're at a club, watch DVDs together
, etc. When i mentioned something that was happening in a few months time, he kind of hinted that he'd still want to be with me even that long down the line But how can I approach the subject of where our 'relationship' is heading? After all if he wants to just be close friends I'll accept it but its not what i want
I think another thing thats sort of buggin me is the fact that its valentines day soon and its gonna be a bit awkward about how we spend it if I dont even know whether he wants us to be properly together or not!
Any advice people?! p.s. sorry the post is so long
Reply 2
hmm... but I'll feel a bit hurt if I dont get end up getting anything 
: I guess its a couple of weeks away so maybe things might clearer!!
I just dont want to bring up the situation outright in case its not what I wanna hear... I want things to carry on as they are, but the comment he made about not wanting a relationship keeps niggling away at me!
: I guess its a couple of weeks away so maybe things might clearer!!I just dont want to bring up the situation outright in case its not what I wanna hear... I want things to carry on as they are, but the comment he made about not wanting a relationship keeps niggling away at me!
Reply 3
surely someone else has been in this kind of situation where they're not sure what the other person wants?! God why are relationships so confusing lol
Reply 4
Hmm I had this a while ago. Sadly he ended up ending it after a couple of weeks due to the reason that he had been hurt in the past & didn't want to get hurt again. This doesn't mean he feels the same though! It obviously means he is starting to trust you. Yes, he has been hurt in the past but that is in the past. If he is a decent bloke then he won't let this relationship be effected. Just don't give him any reason not to trust you & you will be fine.
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