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Every so often when out with friends it always seems like the entire 6th form is there, yet we are always grouped in a certain way. There seems to be a social standard where the 'cool' people sit over there and not so cool people sit over there, with others inbetween. This could be just the way the friendship groups formed but there does seem to be a pattern, for instance everyone in one group has more or less slept with someone, everyone in another group thinks theyre macho, whereas my group just seems to be the average get drunk group. All through 6th form however I have always wanted to be in another 'group' and actively communicate with a few from there, but it seems the friendship group is set in stone and not open to new members as theyre from the same village (6th form covers a few).
Anyway, thing is I want all the things that this other group has, ok they have popularity and are considered the people to be with in my year but theyre all dating now and at parties ect its kinda boring to sit down when the theme tune for dirty dancing is played and the rest of the people in your group are more concerned with how much alcochol they can consume before last orders. Its not that i dont like these people its just i know i cannot and wont want to change them but at the same time want something more. Its not as easy as simply mingling as very often its a case of hmm what i can talk about whereas with people your comfortable with, conversation flows, i guess i just want to be comfortable with these people but dont know how. I dont know whether ive confused you or you do understand but either way your advice on how to handle this situation would be great, also is this likely to change in uni, will be grouped into certain types of people?
Anyway, thing is I want all the things that this other group has, ok they have popularity and are considered the people to be with in my year but theyre all dating now and at parties ect its kinda boring to sit down when the theme tune for dirty dancing is played and the rest of the people in your group are more concerned with how much alcochol they can consume before last orders. Its not that i dont like these people its just i know i cannot and wont want to change them but at the same time want something more. Its not as easy as simply mingling as very often its a case of hmm what i can talk about whereas with people your comfortable with, conversation flows, i guess i just want to be comfortable with these people but dont know how. I dont know whether ive confused you or you do understand but either way your advice on how to handle this situation would be great, also is this likely to change in uni, will be grouped into certain types of people?
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Well to be honest the other 2 groups you mentioned sound worse than the 1 your in.
One group sounds like one for sluts and male whores and the other sounds like a group for hardman wannabes.
Why would you want to be involved in them groups when the group your in could easily go to partys anyway or have your own.
I wouldn't worry about what group is the IN group or anything as thats all just opinion or overhyped
One group sounds like one for sluts and male whores and the other sounds like a group for hardman wannabes.
Why would you want to be involved in them groups when the group your in could easily go to partys anyway or have your own.
I wouldn't worry about what group is the IN group or anything as thats all just opinion or overhyped
Reply 2
Just appreciate that you aren't in the arse-whipped group that carries pocket protectors.
Reply 3
You should be a detective with those powers of observation.
Its like that at my 6th form, but not so bad , i talk to everyone from all the groups but the "popular" ones are really just vain insecure ********s at the end of the day, and i'll feel sorry for them next year when they retake the year ..again. The best times are to be had with people you really trust, its such a cliche but soo true. If you actually got to know those people like i did , you really wouldnt want to be friends with them.
Reply 5
They may seem slutty and wannabes but when youre with people who just dont seem to want to do the dating thing anything seems better than nothing.
Reply 7
Fluent in Lies
You should be a detective with those powers of observation.
I know, its quite sad lol
Reply 8
MNBStyle
So not wanting a relationship is a bad thing??? that dont stop you going out and having fun with them anyway.
not saying its a bad thing, but everyones different
Reply 10
its a mixed sexed group, i want to look for a gf but it seems they are on edge with the idea, not that they think its their business but they do make it obvious that they dont like the idea of going through a few gfs until you meet the right person, which is the opinion of the girls in the group, so its like if any boy in the group looks for girls theyre considered players unless they stay with one for a long time
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its a mixed sexed group, i want to look for a gf but it seems they are on edge with the idea, not that they think its their business but they do make it obvious that they dont like the idea of going through a few gfs until you meet the right person, which is the opinion of the girls in the group, so its like if any boy in the group looks for girls theyre considered players unless they stay with one for a long time
Well there opinions seem fair enough to me, i was going to say if you ended up with the other group however it would seem you will end up looking abit of a player anyway.
I think personally the group your in is fine as it dont stop you looking for a girlfriend
Reply 12
it doesnt stop me no, but when youre with these people all the time theres nowhere really to look as meeting new people rarely happens
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it doesnt stop me no, but when youre with these people all the time theres nowhere really to look as meeting new people rarely happens
You dont have to be with them all the time, sure you could go make other friends that will be prepared to go out and meet new people.
But at the sametime make sure you dont upset your current group as they seem like a nice group.
Reply 14
i could but really where to start
Reply 16
aye, happens in my school too.
cool people *there*
goths *there*
asians *there*
whiggers *there*
skaters *there*
losers *here*
I don't think it's possible to switch between groups because they exist for a reason. Imagine a school without these groups!
anarchy would break out.
cool people *there*
goths *there*
asians *there*
whiggers *there*
skaters *there*
losers *here*
I don't think it's possible to switch between groups because they exist for a reason. Imagine a school without these groups!
anarchy would break out.Stikatoo
aye, happens in my school too.
cool people *there*
goths *there*
asians *there*
whiggers *there*
skaters *there*
losers *here*
I don't think it's possible to switch between groups because they exist for a reason. Imagine a school without these groups! anarchy would break out.
cool people *there*
goths *there*
asians *there*
whiggers *there*
skaters *there*
losers *here*
I don't think it's possible to switch between groups because they exist for a reason. Imagine a school without these groups!
anarchy would break out.And everyone would accept others for who they are and all be 1 big happy group of people
Reply 18
argh!
but seriously, no, it wouldn't work because people obviously share certain interests with other people in their group which is why the group exists. I really can't imagine goths and the 'popular kids' getting along because:
a) goths scare popular kids (pathetic I know)
b) popular music scares goths
c) they would have almost nothing in common.
ps; oops, I made a terrible mistake; for 'cool people' read 'the popular ones/slags'.
but seriously, no, it wouldn't work because people obviously share certain interests with other people in their group which is why the group exists. I really can't imagine goths and the 'popular kids' getting along because:
a) goths scare popular kids (pathetic I know)
b) popular music scares goths
c) they would have almost nothing in common.
ps; oops, I made a terrible mistake; for 'cool people' read 'the popular ones/slags'.
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