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21 seeing a 18 year old

I've met this girl and she just turned 18 last week and Ive just turned 21. I feel abit weird about it, am I just being silly. Is anyone else in a similar situation?

Reply 1

Belizibub

Yes, you're being silly, I have a 23 year old friend dating a 17, and it's perfectly cool.

Reply 2

irdan

Yes, silly indeed.

Reply 3

pineapple86

9

Its only 3 years difference, not that much. Theres nothing wrong with it.

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 4

WoWlookathat

OP

I know im proberly being stupid, its just that she's in 6th form and im in my 2nd year of uni, thats the bit that I worry about.

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 5

Belizibub

Original post by WoWlookathat

I know im proberly being stupid, its just that she's in here first year of 6th form and im in my 2nd year of uni, thats the bit that I worry about.

No, you're worrying about what other people think. Well don't she's of legal consent, so it's perfectly fine by admission of the "state"

Reply 6

pineapple86

9

Wh cares what other people think as long as you both happy. If you dont want to be with her cos of this or cant handle it then dont bother stringing her along. But noone cares where you are in life or where she is in life, as long as you both want it then its ok.

Reply 7

RainPours

Only three years :smile:

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by WoWlookathat

I've met this girl and she just turned 18 last week and Ive just turned 21. I feel abit weird about it, am I just being silly. Is anyone else in a similar situation?

I am, seeing a girl who is nearly 16 and I just turned 18 last month, and it's cool because she's one of my best mates too and she hangs around with my year. We get on like two lovebeans do, and age doesn't matter.

I can tell you that you are being silly. If you genuinely like this girl, go for it. Three years isn't much difference in the scheme of things, especially at your age :wink:

Best of luck and if you do like this girl, treat her well. Otherwise I'll find you and rip your balls off :wink:

Reply 9

NOBODY MOVE!

14

why this would worry you? being younger she probably has not had enough time for large alcohol consumption and other things to ruin her looks so much yet ;D

Reply 10

Hevinha

6

Yes ure being silly... :tongue:

Reply 11

sheepy18

8

Christ I was 17, my partner 24. It doesnt matter.

Reply 12

littleone271

18

I'm 18, nearly 19 but still.. and yeah you'd be too young for me lol I'd only date guys aged 23-28ish. But then again that's because I don't find guys under that age particularly attractive and I'm not really like any other 18 yr old I've ever met. I'm certainly not on the same wavelength as any 18 yr old guy I've ever met anyway. Not cos I'm trying to be older, I'd love to be 'normal for my age' but I can't pretend to be something I'm not. I think it's just because I've had a bit of a strange sorta life so far I guess and it's made me a lot older in the head. Plus I'm kinda used to guys who are a little bit older now. Anyway, yeah you're not doing anything wrong. If she was 17 then it could make things awkward with going out drinking and stuff but she's an adult now. There's such a massive paranoia thing attached to paedophilia these days it's ridiculous. I mean if a well developed 15 yr old was in a sexual relationship with a 25 yr old, that's not paedophilia. It's illegal because she's underage and depending on her maturity it could be seen as immoral and let's face it... it's pretty weird! but she's not biologically a child and a proper paedophile wouldn't be particularly interested in her because of that. Paedophiles don't want boobs and pubes lol. Just think of all those 18 yr old porn stars and the ages of the men that they're recorded having sex with.

Reply 13

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Reply 14

Plumstone

16

Yes you're being silly. Please don't let your age gap get in the way of a good relationship!!!

I'm 18, my boyfriend is 31 (no, I'm not being naive or taken for a ride; we've been together two years and intend to continue for many more to come). He still feels guilty sometimes about me being so much younger than him and worries what other people think of it. I don't care at all and when he stops worrying about it, neither does he.

The only thing that matters is whether or not you two are compatible. If you are, then you have nothing to worry about, legally, morally or socially. And it's only three years anyway!

Reply 15

Doskey

2

I know somebody who went out with a 33 year old when she was 18 and they're still together two years later. Don't worry you are both adults, you can do what you want.

Reply 16

username807367

8

My parents met when my dad was 21 and my mum 17, they've been married for 33 years now. It all depends on how you view the age gap. My mum wasn't bothered by it when they met, but I'm 18 and I can't see myself wanting to be with someone 3/4 years older than me.

If you're both comfortable with it, it's fine!

Reply 17

h-g-1

14

Original post by WoWlookathat

I know im proberly being stupid, its just that she's in 6th form and im in my 2nd year of uni, thats the bit that I worry about.

What is it that you're "worrying" about exactly?

If you don't feel right with her, then that's a problem and you're not being silly.

However, if you're worrying about what others will think even though you like the girl then that is silly because it's not that big of an age gap at all. :smile:

Reply 18

AlisC

2

Original post by WoWlookathat

I've met this girl and she just turned 18 last week and Ive just turned 21. I feel abit weird about it, am I just being silly. Is anyone else in a similar situation?

No ur not being silly, it is ok to question these things. PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD do not listen to the people who are “18 and dating 30+” cuz that is not a good comparison. Thats straight up jail. Talk with it with ur person, ask opinions within ur age group or people who dated in a SIMILAR age gap. FR are yall mad?????

Reply 19

amaryliss

9

Original post by AlisC

No ur not being silly, it is ok to question these things. PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD do not listen to the people who are “18 and dating 30+” cuz that is not a good comparison. Thats straight up jail. Talk with it with ur person, ask opinions within ur age group or people who dated in a SIMILAR age gap. FR are yall mad?????

Bruh! This thread is a decade old. :K:

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