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Feel very alone...

I am 18 and at sixth form college college. I have no friends I see outside school (I have to travel every day), and find it extremely difficult to meet people since I am extremely shy. I spend basically all my time inside on my computer alone and my life pretty much stinks.

I do have a few friends in school, but I think a few only talk to me out of pity which makes me feel even worse.

And I'm not sure what to do about it. People say University is around the corner and everything will be better, but six more months like this is not a nice prospect to think about... and I'm even convinced I can be a social person 'cause I've never done it before.

I'm not really sure why I'm posting. I'm just frustrated with life.

Reply 1

redandgreen

put up a new thread sayin something like i live near here and want friends who else does.

you might get some responses.

and im not being sarcastic...it could work...

Reply 2

shinyhappy

Join something completely random like air cadets, or a musical club or a local sports team or a self defence class, or anything else like that. Big step to take, but it pays off. I'm an only child, and not particularly sociable, so pretty much everything I've done outside of school has been by myself. If you find a club or something, take a friend from school along with you at first if you can't face going alone. xxx

Reply 3

Zymoen

If you are shy now then you'll still be shy when you go to university so don't see that as a magical answer to the problem.

Being shy is more a state of mind, teach yourself to be more self assured. When you're standing in a queue or something, strike up a conversation with the person next to you. Something about the weather is always topical, or maybe how long you've been waiting... anything, but speak to a stranger.

Look around for a club to join, there must be something you've always wanted to do. How about joining a local theatre and help behind the scenes, painting sets or helping with make-up and costume. I know from experience that this works, they'll jump at the chance to get support of this kind and it'll do wonders for your confidence. You will surprise yourself too, you'll start wanting to be on stage yourself, even if only a walk on part, and then the lead will be tempting you. Whatever the outcome you'll make friends.

When you go to uni make sure you join societies or you will end up hiding away in your room.

You can do this, believe in yourself.