How unlucky am i?

im 16 and had never had a real boyfriend, no lad was really interested in me that way untl i went to a party about 1/2 months before xmas. I met this lad who i thought was really nice, and luckily he asked for my number and things went on from there! You can imagine how happy i was when he asked me out and he genuinely liked me! So he started sleeping at mine often, and in the end i lost my v to him ( Early jan). He has always wanted to go in the army so i knew that its what he wants to do, so the other day he told me hes going in a few weeks time!
How devasted was i? so i thought i know we wont make it work but hadnt really had time to talk it through until last night i got a text saying how me and him are not meant to be and he justs want 2 get on with army, he will always love me etc.
Hes a very experienced lad and hes two years older than me, so last night to my complete suprise when i got that message basically i said no need for excuses lets face it you got what you wanted an then ****ed off and you couldnt even tell me to my face etc etc. He didnt reply so today i had time to think about things and thought maybe i was a bit harsh so i sent him message today saying sorry for being a bit harsh hope we can still be friends.
( Dont worry im not going to turn into a stalker, this will be last message i send unless he gets in touch)
So now you can imagine how upset i am! My first true love is completely over and now i really feel lonely and that i liked having a bf so soon i hope i can find someone else yet i feel nobody will be interested! Help me from feeling so ******! :frown:

Do you think he was just using me, was i out of order, was he etc Oh and i also went on pill, should i stop this ?
Sorry for chatting on its just i didnt want to go out tonight so i cant talk to my friends neither !
xxx

Reply 1

G4ry

1

You know the saying "it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" if you feel that way then maybe you're not so unlucky, and the people that haven't loved are actually unlucky.

I don't know his intentions, but why would nobody else be interested?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

I dont know, but i feel soo crappy! before him i had always wanted a bf but been to scared to do anything and no lad was really that interested but now i feel so crap thinking that im not going to have anyone :frown:

Reply 3

zooropa

If you can attract one person, what makes you think you'd never attract anybody else?!

I'd just chalk this up to experience if I were you. When you enter relationships, there is always a chance you'd get jerked around.

Reply 4

Apricot Fairy

16

Unfortunately you can't tell when a guy is what he seems and when he isn't. That's why many people prefer to wait a while before having sex to make sure the person is genuine. But this isn't your fault. You can't just never sleep with guys in case they turn out to be a jerk afterwards. Just put it down to experience and let it go. You'll meet someone nice, I promise. :smile:

Reply 5

Apricot Fairy

16

zooropa

If you can attract one person, what makes you think you'd never attract anybody else?!

I'd just chalk this up to experience if I were you. When you enter relationships, there is always a chance you'd get jerked around.

Your advice is good......are you the first TSR member ever to get a red shiny gem??

Reply 6

brimstone

7

Don't worry, everyone can always find love. Even if you lose it, it'll always be round the corner again.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

I just feel so bad at the moment, i know how pathetic it sounds but last night i basically cried myself to sleep and now when i think bout it i feel like crying which is so not like me :frown:

Reply 8

wednesburywench

2

I dont think he may have used you...it could have been the whole army thing..geuinly he may like you, he may be devastated himself, but maybe he just hasnt opened up about this and found it easier just to end it now. If it is what he needs to do then you must leave him to it.

Reply 9

chaoringmeister

Let me assure you that you will get over the period in which you just feel really down. A simple thing to do is just keep yourself busy so you dont think about it, and the whole thing will blow over in a few days. Just be optimistic, you will find love once more, perhaps it that relationship was never destined to be. I am 17 going on 18, and yet to find any love, I've not even come close, its tough sometimes, but you've got to believe in youself, this way you will overcome your difficulties.

Wish you the best of luck in the future, and a hug.

Reply 10

-TMG-

9

I feel very bad for overreacting too :frown:

"Baby I know I've been wrong to you
But these days are much too hard" :frown:

LOL...its not even funny how bad I feel.

But chin up, life goes on I spose.

take revenge

brimstone1

Don't worry, everyone can always find love. Even if you lose it, it'll always be round the corner again.

Even though it may be an extremely long corner...

Reply 13

Sabre

6

Anonymous

maybe i was a bit harsh

You can say that again :eek:

Luckier than me.

Unlucky? You're only 16!

Reply 16

zooropa

Mangaroo

take revenge

wahey!

If he was messing you around he worked hard if he stuck around for more than a month, this seems to me like quite a long time if he was only after one thing, but who knows, its late and my psychic abilitys aren't too up to scratch at the moment.

Reply 19

MNBStyle

9

I know this wont help but it looks like he did use you to me, all seems abit convinient how he already planned on going in the army, but decides not to point out how its not going to work out until after hes slept with you.
Still i can't see why noone else would be interested your only 16 after all

How unlucky am i?

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