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A sign of love when your eyes light up and your heart flutterS?

Ive never been in love. But recently, eveytime I see this one person, i just get a sudden, like, chill over my body and I feel happy. Its completely weird. I have never talked to this person before and they have no idea who I am. But I am suddenly atttracted to this person ever since I saw them for the first time when they started at my school.

So, do you guys think that is 'love' and 'in love' with a stranger. Its weird and I dont know what to think.

I am a guy. He is a guy. :eek:

Reply 1

Steve Stifler

Heart flutter might be a dodgy heart. Best see your GP.

Reply 2

-TMG-

9

Its just an attraction. I bet blood rushes to parts of your body too...

Love is a lot of trouble lol stay away :P

"Its love that tears you up, when you need love"

Reply 3

Harv616

9

Thats lust, not love.

Love is giving somebody the power to destroy you and trusting them not to.

Reply 4

Helenia

20

That's adrenaline, not love.

Reply 5

Nuheen

12

them? You like a few?

Reply 6

Amlea

1

LUST...initialk attraction..

Love is like WHAMMO....indescribable!

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Lust? So you think its lust?

I am male, and have never felt this before for another male, but when i think about it there were a only a few girls i felt this for. There is just something about this boy i cant work out.
I will just have to lust him in secret then..

Reply 8

Eien

16

-TMG-

Its just an attraction. I bet blood rushes to parts of your body too...

Ahem....

Well I also believe it is almost certainly attraction - love can only be built with an emotional connection, and feel completely accepted and connected exactly as you are with them. I get that with guys as well as I have bisexual tendencies, but I have only ever had feelings that even come close to love for females.

Reply 9

SamTheMan

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Anonymous

Ive never been in love. But recently, eveytime I see this one person, i just get a sudden, like, chill over my body and I feel happy. Its completely weird. I have never talked to this person before and they have no idea who I am. But I am suddenly atttracted to this person ever since I saw them for the first time when they started at my school.

So, do you guys think that is 'love' and 'in love' with a stranger. Its weird and I dont know what to think.

I am a guy. He is a guy. :eek:

I can't identify with the homosexual nature of the situation but I definitely believe that you can have strong feelings towards someone as soon as you meet them and exchange a few words.

I totally disagree with the "social norm" of what love should be. Of course you can be in love with someone you've just met. What you won't have is that feeling of dependency that comes with long-term relationships but I'm the kind of person who says that that dependency is not love but simply dependency. In return, someone might tell me that that feeling when you've only just met someone is infatuation. But to me, infatuation is closer to love than physical, social and emotional dependency...

In the past, I've been told "you can't have any feelings for her. She's like 3 years younger than you, you can't have any intelligent conversations" or "You've only known her for a couple of weeks". All untrue, just because people believe that love has to correspond to some norm.

Reply 10

SamTheMan

17

Eien

love can only be built with an emotional connection

True. But it depends what you mean by emotional connection. It doesn't have to work both ways. It's possible to be in love with someone without them feeling much. Unrequited love remains love. It's what creates very unfortunate situations.
The only problem in this chap's situation is that he doesn't seem to know anything about this person apart from the way they look. But it's a start...

Reply 11

minimo

15

Unrequited love, that phrase ALWAYS reminds me of Ian McEwan's Enduring Love. :p:

Reply 12

SamTheMan

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minimo

Unrequited love, that phrase ALWAYS reminds me of Ian McEwan's Enduring Love. :p:

I wasn't even sure I spelt it correctly.

Unrequited love can be a killer
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/england/london/4240579.stm

That article doesn't surprise me.

Reply 13

minimo

15

And even more so, seeing as the OP is writing about a male-male relationship.

OP: technically, your stomach should feel funny too. :p:

Reply 14

Eien

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SamTheMan

True. But it depends what you mean by emotional connection. It doesn't have to work both ways. It's possible to be in love with someone without them feeling much. Unrequited love remains love. It's what creates very unfortunate situations.
The only problem in this chap's situation is that he doesn't seem to know anything about this person apart from the way they look. But it's a start...

I would imagine that "most" of the time love is built through some kind of emotional connection, although I do agree that love can be individual between any two people - one example I always remember is a husband who was noisy, lazy, stubborn, set in his ways, a wife who was domineering and pushy, but they still loved each other for who they were.
I hate it when people describe their ideal partner as having a "good personality", almost EVERYONE says it, being such a vague statement. I believe true love has very little to do with being helpful, offering gifts or being unusually kind - although these can sometimes reflect a true connection and are always great to have in a friendship.

Minimo

Unrequited love, that phrase ALWAYS reminds me of Ian McEwan's Enduring Love

Oh yes, Parry with De Clerambault's syndrome...how 'love' can be distorted into compulsion and obsession...

Reply 15

wednesburywench

2

that my dear is the first signs of a teenage crush...not love!

Reply 16

ciara

13

Not love, just a crush. Still fun though :p:

.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

wednesburywench

that my dear is the first signs of a teenage crush...not love!

No its not. I am older. The fact is, never felt this for a male before I dont know why....confusing you know. Thanks fro everyone who responded :biggrin:

Reply 18

SamTheMan

17

Anonymous

No its not. I am older. The fact is, never felt this for a male before I dont know why....confusing you know. Thanks fro everyone who responded :biggrin:

Well I'd only say that you're probably not in love because you haven't interacted with this person. Maybe you should try and talk, get to know them a bit and then you'll see clearer.

But don't let anyone label what and what isn't love. If you listen to some people, if you don't go out with someone who is the same age as you, in the same geographical place as you, that you haven't been with them for at least 6 months, haven't slept with them, then it can't possibly be love. That's just *******s. Personally I've felt strong feelings in totally unconventional relationships (not necessarily serious, or long-term) and been totally blasé in long-term relationships despite having become dependent on being with that person.

I know friends (well one friend in particular) who was with their partner for several years but one day, woke up and realised that there were no strong feelings there: just emotional and physical dependency which had resulted from being with someone for so long. No that many people can see through that.

People all work differently emotionally and that's why you get situations where there's a total misunderstanding and someone ends up getting hurt. We like to think that, according to some social norm, we all function emotionally the same way and that anyone who gets feelings we wouldn't have in the same situation must not be normal.

Reply 19

Whizz

1

It's called a crush...

A sign of love when your eyes light up and your heart flutterS?

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