messed up family

basically, my family is gonna split and i feel like **** i just feel like i need to write it down and let it all out. my sister left a few years back to study and she has found her husband. but my dad refuses to accept him so she hasnt got married yet. my dad has given my mum hell for 25 years and now its all come to a head. they have planned to sell the house and go their seperate ways and im left in the middle. i hate my dad for all he has done but he is still my dad. i feel like **** and cant concentrate on any work or anything, but my tutors will kill me if i dont and i cant exactly tell them, i just feel like crawling up and not existing right now.

Reply 1

sr4470

Is there someone you can confide in?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

no.

Reply 3

G4ry

Anonymous

my tutors will kill me if i dont and i cant exactly tell them.

Why can you not tell them? Are you in University or A levels or GCSEs?

Reply 4

sr4470

From what you've said, its better in the long run if everyone does go their seperate ways. How old's your sister? Unless shes under 18, your parents dont have any right to interfere if she wants to marry someone. As for your mum, well, 25 years is a long time - having said that, my own mum has put up with similar **** almost as long. (I left home over a year ago).

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

they would never look at me the same and i dont want their sympathy

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

she's 23, but the guy she has found is traditional and wants to ask my dads permission, i cant tell him that its a bad idea and he is genuinly the nicest bloke i know, but my dads being an idiot.

Reply 7

Sithius

My parents split up when I was 6 years old, I remember it well...

You're like 20 or whatever? and saying you want to crawl into a hole and not exist?

Right... that isn't really a screw up family from what I read but to be fair I don't know what went on in those '25' years.

Oh well...

Reply 8

sr4470

Anonymous

she's 23, but the guy she has found is traditional and wants to ask my dads permission, i cant tell him that its a bad idea and he is genuinly the nicest bloke i know, but my dads being an idiot.

Hate to be stating the obvious, but why does he bother? Having patience is one thing, but if your dad's anything like mine (and he sounds like it) then whats the point? As for tradition, isnt it usually the reverse, with the girl not wanting to marry?

Reply 9

Amlea

Try and concentrate on ur own life. Ur mum and dad shud do whats best for them in the long term. This feelin will pass.

Reply 10

sr4470

Sorry for all the questions, just trying to understand the situation better.

Amlea

Try and concentrate on ur own life

Probably the best course of action.

Reply 11

sheepgirl

Im guessing you are at uni or atleast an older teeanger. Any break up is tough but what you need to do now is to focus on your own life and ambitions. You shouldnt have to deal with this on your own. Have you got anyone you can talk to? A friend, tutor, family member? It will probably be better if you talk about this to osmeone so that it doesnt stir up inside you. Good luck. I hope things work out for you and your family

Reply 12

Sithius

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Reply 13

Anonymous #2

My mum and dad broke up when I was 6. Me and my sister have been living with my mum since then (11 years). If I had to choose between mum and dad i would certainly choose mum. Surely your mother wont deny taking you with her? You can meet your dad occasionaly.

I was way too young when my parents broke up so I never mis my dad much. Mums been everything. I can continue my studies well. It is difficult for you since you will miss your dad more I believe. You will have to leave your parents sooner or later, unfortunately it is 4 or 5 years earlier for you. Atleast your parents are alive, you can meet them. Many grow up as orphans. Try to comfort yourself with that.