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    I dont know what to do...well, I just know that I dont want to break up with my bf, so I need an advice how to forgive him and save the relationships. OK, we were sooo perfect with him, and now we are together for more than 2 years already, i started to feel so unloved (though i know he loves me) he just doesnt show it...I used to be on the 1st place for him and now i am not, for exapmple, I was comming to him and was arriving very early at 6 in the morning, and instead of going to bed early he went to his friends till 4 in the morning to play this pc game and as a result overslept the time he had to meet me...and i came for just one day and all this day he was sleepy as a result... (just wondering why could not he play this game some other day, not before I was comming for just one day to be with him) then, he used to have my picture on his cell, desktop and now there is this character from this game, on msn nickname smth about that this game is more important that girls..I feel like all his world is around it and there is no place for me anymore... even when i came to him this time he told me jokingly 'it is all ur fault, if you would not come i would not miss my raid and now my brother has to play with my character'(we are in a distant relationships and dot see each other so often) he was like joking but I got so hurt...we didnt see each other for 3 weeks and I thought that when I come he will just forget about all games...then the same night, I opened to him and told that one time I was almost was raped, the story that i never ever told to anyone and he told me that I was looking for this to happen:confused:
    he tell he loves me...but all these things say about the opposite right? I dont know what to think or do... I am so desperate
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    He's playing World of Warcraft isn't he? This wouldn't be the first time someone's split from their bf due to its influences...
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    ah geek love
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    (Original post by Vitriol01)
    He's playing World of Warcraft isn't he? This wouldn't be the first time someone's split from their bf due to its influences...
    yeah, he does..i am in despair...what can I do???
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    Tell him he must choose between the game and you. That hopefully won't be a very hard choice.

    Then break his computer.
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    (Original post by Handy)
    Tell him he must choose between the game and you. That hopefully won't be a very hard choice.

    Then break his computer.
    I just dont want to be pushy...dont want to force him, i want him to get it himself and show me that...I know if i push him he will be unhappy al the time, remembering me that...but I just cant stand it any more...I cant...I am on the verge on breakdown and breaking up with him coz of that... but i dont want it..
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    The guy seems to be acting like a jerk. You need to talk to him and tell him how hurtful his behaviour is, if you dont want to break uop with him then its just going to carry on this way even if hes only joking. Maybe he doesnt realise that what hes saying is upsetting you. (Cant beleive he said that about the rape though, that was pretty unsensitive and hurtful.)
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    get the same game as him and go on it with him
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    I think you've lost him, but you just can't accept it.

    Sorry blunt truth :hmmm:

    *Jaded
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    He seems like a weirdo to me. No offence. Choosing a computer game over his girlfriend? And then being so ****ing insensitive and horrible about the rape thing... It sounds like you'd be best off without him to be honest. Find someone who is better for you.
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    (Original post by Hanzing)
    The guy seems to be acting like a jerk. You need to talk to him and tell him how hurtful his behaviour is, if you dont want to break uop with him then its just going to carry on this way even if hes only joking. Maybe he doesnt realise that what hes saying is upsetting you. (Cant beleive he said that about the rape though, that was pretty unsensitive and hurtful.)
    yes, it was really painful to hear that from him, i thought he was the closest person to me, and I could share that just with him, and his reaction just shoked me so much, It put a big wall between me and him, even though he was apolozizing so much and calling himself an idiao, but i know from the tone of his voice that he really mean those words...
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    Honey, I know you said you wanted to try and save it, but what's the point in trying to save something when it would be, quite frankly, damaging. You'll get hurt again by this guy, and it wouldnt't be fair. You should end it in my opinion.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    and now we are together for more than 2 years already, i started to feel so unloved (though i know he loves me) he just doesnt show it
    I reckon he just needs a shock to show him that he is taking you for granted and shouldn't be.

    Threaten him (with ending it). But if he doesn't seem bothered you need to be prepared to actually go through and end it.
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    I sympathise with your boyfriend. In my case, Football Manager >>>>> girls. =P
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    (Original post by The Mudman)
    Honey, I know you said you wanted to try and save it, but what's the point in trying to save something when it would be, quite frankly, damaging. You'll get hurt again by this guy, and it wouldnt't be fair. You should end it in my opinion.
    Sound advice.
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    (Original post by crafty bison)
    I sympathise with your boyfriend. In my case, Football Manager >>>>> girls. =P
    But you're gay...
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    Heh the greatness of FM and PES is incomprehensible to those not in the know.

    But if I were female and in your situation, I'd just try and join him in the game, try and show interest in it. Perhaps he'd appreciate the effort and make some concessions?
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    I simply cant join this game, coz I dont have this good pc...they have to many requers...and after this game took my place in his life I just hate it!!!! I still cant forget how i came just for one day, and I travelled more than 12h, and all he wanted was not to spend every min with me but be near his brother playing his character in the game to see what is going on, I was so hurt...and then how he told me that i 'was asking myself to be raped' it was just the most cruel thing i ever heared in my life...
    he is asking for forgiveness but I just had too much, I had enough and reached my limit...cant forgive him and cant stand it
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    If it was just the computer game...well, some men are like that. My boyfriend is really into computer games... but even then, if I was only coming for one day he wouldn't spend the day complaining about not being able to play his sodding game. I am in a long distance relationship too, so I can sympathise with that bit.

    However, what he said about you almost being raped is uncalled for and just plain insensitive. You could try to save it but, as someone else said, you're just waiting for the next blow.

    Have you tried explaining to him how you feel when he says these things? Maybe he simply doesn't realise. You often have to be blunt with men.
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    (Original post by Handy)
    But you're gay...
    omfgzzzzxx~~!!!11 stp fl4m1ng meeeeee!!!11

    bann dis boi
 
 
 
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