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Let myself go

Hey this is probably going to sound weird but recently since the start of this school year, i've completly let myself go. I really dont bother any more. Before i used to take care of my appearance and how i dress, and i felt really confident and good about myself, and i knew guys liked me. Now i just cant be bothered, i dont pluck my eyebrows anymore ( but they havent grown back yet which is good), i'll wear the same clothes days on end, and i even wash my hair less. They same goes with my work. I used to be a complete perfectionist, and would rather hand nothing in than a crap essay, now i do all my work in one night, and do it really sloppily just to get it out of the way.

I dont know whats wrong with me, i just wish i could be the person i used to be. Since 6th form everyones really found there friendships group, personality etc but i've gone completely backwards, and am even starting to lose some of my friends simply because i cant be bothered to go out, because i feel ugly in comparison :frown:

I really just dont have time for me anymore. After school im completely exhasted so i usually nap and laze about for the rest of the day. I work all day Saturday, and that only leaves Sunday to cram in all of my work, so its all rubbish.

Now i feel like a complete ugly worthless ***** and i wish i didnt

Reply 1

Stikatoo

You're now a teenager, congratulations!

Don't worry about it - you should be enjoying being able to do all that with no long term consequences at all.

ps. oh god...why would anyone pluck their eyebrows?! mine are screeching just at the thought of the idea!!! :eek:

Reply 2

_poptart_

2

I think everyone has phases like that... but if the way you are is making you feel worthless and ugly then u definitely need to sort out the problem! Maybe you need to find something in your life to cling onto to feel a bit more upbeat - I dunno, making more of an effort with friends, taking up a new sport etc.
You never know, it might just be that the toll of all the homework and revision of the past few years has caught up with you! Do u give yourself enough time to work through things, or do you tend to just rush through life and then end up feeling exhausted? Force yourself to spend at least one evening a week pampering yourself, and maybe invite a friend round to watch DVDs etc so that ur social life doesnt suffer either!
Im sure its just a phrase and that pretty soon you'll be fine. If not, theres no harm in going to a doctor and seeing whether theres a medical reason 4 how ur feeling.

Reply 3

brunswick

It sounds a bit like you could be suffering with depression, in which case you should try and see your GP, or alternatively a school counsellor if you have one, and see what they suggest. Feel free to PM me if you want more advice :smile:

Reply 4

~the_one~

1

Do u give yourself enough time to work through things, or do you tend to just rush through life and then end up feeling exhausted? Force yourself to spend at least one evening a week pampering yourself, and maybe invite a friend round to watch DVDs etc so that ur social life doesnt suffer either!

I just dont have anytime what so ever, everything is rushed, i try to make time but there never is any, and i cant stop working to make time either. I live minimum 40mins tube journey from my nearest friend, so it takes so much effort on both our parts to see eachother frequently.
At the very beginning of this year i was really quite severely depressed, i definatly feel better than i did then but i dont know, im just not the same.

Reply 5

~the_one~

1

im the OP by the way, dont know why i posted anon

Reply 6

Mark S

17

I dont bother with much either, i couldnt hold down my latest part time job for more than a month, i never do hwk, way behind with coursework, and why? Because im lazy, cant be bothered and do what i want because it suits me. Amen

Reply 7

parag

10

I've felt like that a lot ever since starting my A2s....it's weird in a way because you know that there's things that ought to be bothering you that you just don't give a toss about anymore. I guess it was a little bit of depression, but I know the feeling, it's really surreal. I'm only really going doing the daily slog through school just to get my 2As and a B and be off to uni asap :frown:

Reply 8

Sithius

16

Markus

I dont bother with much either, i couldnt hold down my latest part time job for more than a month, i never do hwk, way behind with coursework, and why? Because im lazy, cant be bothered and do what i want because it suits me. Amen

Why bother going to school then?

Reply 9

Mark S

17

Sithius

Why bother going to school then?

Because i need the grades, and i can still pass my exams without doing much of the hwk

Reply 10

kmr89

Sounds a lot like me. I havent let my image slip anymore than usual. but my subjects are going badly. i have **** loads of deadlines and work for the upcoming week and it doesnt bother me 1 bit. i doubt ill finish the wrok, but i couldnt care less.

Your social life has a massive effect though, if i was replying to this thread about 4 hours ago before having had a fight with my gf it would be positive... but fake cus i still dont do work... this post is so useless to the OP... sorry.

/elegy

Reply 11

Scots_Law

2

It is a difficult stage in life, don't worry most people have been there. It's probably something you'll just have to go through (and you'll be a stronger person for it) unless you can think of underlying issues which might explain why you have been feeling this way. Maybe you could talk to someone at school (a member of guidance staff) and explain your situation, they may be able to offer counseling/ support which might make you feel more comfortable.
Remember your not alone. Good luck with everything and I hope you feel more like your self soon. :smile:

Reply 12

Shake 'n Bake

14

Anonymous

Hey this is probably going to sound weird but recently since the start of this school year, i've completly let myself go. I really dont bother any more. Before i used to take care of my appearance and how i dress, and i felt really confident and good about myself, and i knew guys liked me. Now i just cant be bothered, i dont pluck my eyebrows anymore ( but they havent grown back yet which is good), i'll wear the same clothes days on end, and i even wash my hair less. They same goes with my work. I used to be a complete perfectionist, and would rather hand nothing in than a crap essay, now i do all my work in one night, and do it really sloppily just to get it out of the way.

I dont know whats wrong with me, i just wish i could be the person i used to be. Since 6th form everyones really found there friendships group, personality etc but i've gone completely backwards, and am even starting to lose some of my friends simply because i cant be bothered to go out, because i feel ugly in comparison :frown:

I really just dont have time for me anymore. After school im completely exhasted so i usually nap and laze about for the rest of the day. I work all day Saturday, and that only leaves Sunday to cram in all of my work, so its all rubbish.

Now i feel like a complete ugly worthless ***** and i wish i didnt

OMG I feel exactly the same. I'm so depressed now my friends have gone to uni and I'm retaking and I just don't feel like me no more.

Reply 13

Shéamais

11

Anonymous

Hey this is probably going to sound weird but recently since the start of this school year, i've completly let myself go. I really dont bother any more. Before i used to take care of my appearance and how i dress, and i felt really confident and good about myself, and i knew guys liked me. Now i just cant be bothered, i dont pluck my eyebrows anymore ( but they havent grown back yet which is good), i'll wear the same clothes days on end, and i even wash my hair less. They same goes with my work. I used to be a complete perfectionist, and would rather hand nothing in than a crap essay, now i do all my work in one night, and do it really sloppily just to get it out of the way.

I dont know whats wrong with me, i just wish i could be the person i used to be. Since 6th form everyones really found there friendships group, personality etc but i've gone completely backwards, and am even starting to lose some of my friends simply because i cant be bothered to go out, because i feel ugly in comparison :frown:

I really just dont have time for me anymore. After school im completely exhasted so i usually nap and laze about for the rest of the day. I work all day Saturday, and that only leaves Sunday to cram in all of my work, so its all rubbish.

Now i feel like a complete ugly worthless ***** and i wish i didnt

GET A GRIP

Reply 14

Jayjayjay

1

Try quitting your job if you really do not need it. That will give you more time to concentrate on your work and studies. Just do what you feel comfortable with, maybe you have just come to realise that perfection is not everything. Try something new or go back to an old favourite past time to raise your confidence again. Maybe suggest an evening in with friends or choose a day in the week where you do really make an effort, just for the fun of it.

Reply 15

Ferrus

19

poptart86

I think everyone has phases like that

For me it had been a permanent state of existence.

Reply 16

bluejeansdave

9

Hey if you can afford to give up work, suppose you can get ' help outs' Why not figure something you really like, and hell what ever anyone say........your only here once

Reply 17

Lauren Hart

3

I havent read it all, but i would say this, if your in your A2 year, it happens! Seriously, its like as soon as you move into upper sixth you stop caring, its most odd. It seems like you're upset about it, which believe it or not is a good thing, because it means you want to change the way things are, and you can! Did your exams not go as well as pleased last year? Are you working harder to overcompensate maybe? I know what its like to have distant friends, I used to live in the middle of nowhwere and some of good friends were over an hour away!

My advice would be to sit down and try and think about what it is you want to change, and if it seems like everything, then choose a specific thing you want to work on. And then just write down a timetable of when you're gonna do things. like, Monday,5 o'clock Geography (15 min break at end) , 6 o'clock English (15 min break at end), 7 o'clock History, 7:45 bath/shower etc etc. And make sure you have time off. Whats between you and your friend on the tube? maybe you could meet in the middle somewhere and go for coffee or a film or something? Its all about comprimise. or you could do one week at hers, one week at yours, one week somewhere random. Its important you take that time off with your mates though, because they make you feel better about yourself.

And if you need a quick happy fix, eat a bar of chocolate! Daily serotonin is important for women, expecially depressed ones (sorry im assuming you're female). Maybe try and go for a daily run, or a swim, it works wonders. I swim personally, less strain on my body so i feel like ive achieved something after. I also go climbing on wednesdays. Maybe try and get involved in something like that.

Keep your chin up, im sure you're just stressed out! It gets like that when you're the top of the school.

Reply 18

elr_moran

2

Lauren Hart

I havent read it all, but i would say this, if your in your A2 year, it happens! Seriously, its like as soon as you move into upper sixth you stop caring, its most odd. It seems like you're upset about it, which believe it or not is a good thing, because it means you want to change the way things are, and you can! Did your exams not go as well as pleased last year? Are you working harder to overcompensate maybe? I know what its like to have distant friends, I used to live in the middle of nowhwere and some of good friends were over an hour away!

I agree with Lauren. I was doing fine in AS level year. I suddenly went to Year 13 and bam! everything changed. When I started 6th form I was certain I wanted to go to Uni- now I just want to get a job as soon as I've finished my A levels. But it doesn't bother me much though, as I'm looking for alternative things to do, like apprenticeships (advanced). I think, reading your post, this is quite a common reaction. Doesn't happen to everyone though. Maybe you're realising that 6th form isn't what you wanted. That's what happened to me.

Reply 19

CrispyDuck

1

I'm in my A2 year, this is happening to me, i can't be bothered anymore and i hate it, i don't know what to do! :rolleyes:

Let myself go

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