Quiet people

For those who dont consider themselves or are not considered to be quiet or shy, how do you percieve people who are? Do you not notice them as much as louder people? Do you find them boring/rude/weird? Have u had a relationship with soemone who is quiet and found it difficult?

Im asking because Ive always been a quiet person and lately people seem to be commenting on it...Im finding it quite offensive and im not sure whether i should be.

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Reply 1

kmr89

I think people who are seen as quiet aren't really seen as rude or weird. I don't really think about it that much, think abotu yourself in a typical situation with a group of people talking... what do you do? if you don't talk what are you doing while you're with them. I'm intregued.

And i have been in a relationship with someone who i thought was quiet, and am now with someone who is quiet around me... which should bother me but doesnt really because you can say a lot with your eyes.

What are people saying exactly? i really cant imagine how you can accuse someone of being quiet and talk to them about it.

Reply 2

beecher

Curse you awkward silences! Why do I never know what to say!?

Reply 3

ChanandlerBong

p00p

Curse you awkward silences! Why do I never know what to say!?

"So, the ebola virus. That's gotta suck, huh?"

Copyright (C) Chandler Bing.

Reply 4

Ceri327

quite reserved people for me are the most interesting porbably because they are the opposite of me

more layers to unravel i guess

i dont find them rude at all

they are usually the most interesting as when they do say something its usually really interesting that had not occurred to anyone else

everyone goes quite, ponders and is in awe of the person for a while

Reply 5

zooropa

You've only just realised that people have different personalities?

Reply 6

Whizz

I've been in a relationship with a reserved person. It was difficult at first, because he found it hard to open up around me, and as i'm the kind of person who shares feelings fairly easily, i found this difficult to understand/ get used to. But as time went on, he relaxed and we had a perfectly normal relationship. We later broke up, but for unrelated reasons.

People who are introverted arn't necasserily rude or boring. Some are, some arn't. Just like how some extroverted people can also be rude and boring.

Reply 7

Bailey

Quietness can be percieved in so many ways. Are you quiet out of choice or because you are shy? I often choose to be quiet and am accused of being stand-offish or rude, often the most confident person in a room is the quietest and the ones who comment on this are uncomfortable with it. Its bred from fear..... *its always the quiet ones*

Reply 8

ChanandlerBong

Bailey

Its bred from fear..... *its always the quiet ones*

Doubt it...

Reply 9

Ceri327

You've only just realised that people have different personalities?

yes thats absolutely correct before today i assumed everyone was exactly the same

Reply 10

zooropa

So if people aren't the same don't complain if people are quiet.

Are you quiet out of choice or because you are shy?

Because I have nothing to say.

Reply 11

Lirael Abhorsen

i used to be really quiet, but now i'm fairly friendly.. so it's all good. i don't mind if people are initially quiet and then they open up to you but if they're just untalkative essentially this gets to me as i prefer people with a lot to say :biggrin:

and to have well formed opinions of their own

Reply 12

aSian_cUtY

i guess quiet and shy people can sometimes be seen as cold and standoffish...because maybe they are scared of the situation or sumthing..but yeaa i definitely agree that quite people have alot of mystery to them and thats more interesting to me then someone whos jus loud and brash

Reply 13

worried_mess

Im naturally a quiet person, but I dont think im shy. At least I never feel shy around people, but I often feel like I have nothing to say- even around my closest friends

Reply 14

Apricot Fairy

I can sometimes be a bit quiet. It just depends who I'm with and how I'm feeling. I can talk a lot when I'm with someone I really connect with though.

Reply 15

Mark_UK

Im quiet and I know what you mean. To some people I can come over as arrogant for not talking etc but its not my fault im not very talkative. I have to realy know the person to feel comftable and be my normal self.

Reply 16

saywhatnow

It depends. Soemtiems I get the impression with quiet people that they want to say more bu they're just too shy. Other times I get the impression they just really relly don't want to talk. Either way I don't find them rude because, even though I'm pretty loud, I've been in situations where I've felt too shy to speak and it's not a nice feeling. The awkward silences are sometimes pretty annoying but I'm not bad at getting around them....even if it does mean I say something dumb. But I definitely don't consider quiet people boring or rude at all, I think a lot of people have to overcome shyness at some point so they know how it feels.

Reply 17

white_haired_wizard

zooropa

You've only just realised that people have different personalities?

zooropa always coming in with his/her snappy quips. I think you're very insecure zoo. Drop the act babes.

Reply 18

princess-anna

well i think i must be wierd, i wouldn't consider myself shy or quiet, but when i do feel shy, insecure or anything i tend to be louder and more chatty. I suppose i try to hide my insecurities by presenting a facade to hide behind so i dont have to deal with the real emotion; a sence of inferiority or whatever.

Thinking about it I suppose this does make me shy doesn't it? But i suppose i'v found a way to deal with and overcome it.

hehe iv analysed myself!!!
sorry i havent rlly helped you zooropa but ii wouldnt let it get to yo, and to use the expression - just be yourself !!!