does anyone ever feel like

does anyone ever feel like you have to better yourself for your other half? I mean, since I met my boyfriend I've put on weight (about a stone or so) I guess thats what all the staying in with a movie and popcorn does for you. anyway, I feel now like I have to 'better' myself, or he'll risk losing interest. does anyone else ever feel like this sometimes? I know he loves me, for me, who I am inside, but sometimes I just can't help wondering..

Reply 1

topcrabcakes

Well I always feel that I should keep in good shape, dress well, act in a decent manner etc. If you don't then you both become too comfortable in the relationship, it isn't as exciting, and eventually it will become dull and monotonous. I think your putting on weight reflects the fact you feel you don't need to try anymore, and it sounds like neither of you are really enjoying the relationship if you just stay in and watch movies all the time. Even if you both are, how long will you both be satisfied for? There's a whole world out there to explore with your other half, but you guys have chosen to stay in and watch tv?!

Reply 2

annagruber

yeah, i used to feel like that the whole time. while it is nice to try for someone, and it's something you should do (and they should do for you), i found i was taking it to excessive amounts. so i stopped the relationship, and havnt had anything since until i sort myself out.

dont feel pressurised into losing/gaining weight unless you really want to. No one is worth that, so dont worry about it. if he really loves you, it wont matter as much (althoguh that doesnt mean you should completely let yourself go.)