Had a frenuloplasty...Watch
I don't post here often at all (last post in 2010 I think) but I wanted to just make this thread as I'm sure some people will find it helpful.
I realised my foreskin was tight some time ago but I didn't do anything about it. I couldn't pull the foreskin over the head properly, although sometimes I could (but it'd be very tight). It made me lose a lot of confidence and for that reason I never had sex (for the fear of snapping the frenulum). After some looking into it I found I have frenulum breve (short frenulum) and I wanted to go to the doctors to get it sorted. I never plucked up the courage though.
Finally, I decided to go to the doctor. The doctor had a look and referred me to a urologist at the main hospital. A month or so later the urologist had a look and confirmed it was frenulum breve. He said I should have a frenuloplasty. He put me on the waiting list and I heard nothing for another month or two. I rang the hospital and they got me a operation date as there had been a cancellation.
I went to the pre assessment where a nurse goes through the information and checks you're OK to have the operation. Five days later I had the operation. I went into hospital at around 8 and I was taken to the theater at 8.45. Met the surgeon and the guys who did the anesthetic. I had it done under general anesthetic. They gave me some gas which knocked me out (so they could put this 'tap' in my arm for the anesthetic) and the next thing I knew I was coming round in the waiting area. I felt no pain, just a slight discomfort. I was kept in the hospital for around 3 or 4 more hours where they gave me some tea and toast to check I could eat. I also went toilet which was OKish (no pain, just slightly messy...)
After that I was given paracetamol and ibuprofen and discharged. That day I just rested and despite there being no pain I took some paracetamol before bed. I woke up a few times and got some erections but it wasn't painful. I saw near the top there was a black dot/line and some white stuff (not smegma). I remember the surgeon telling me he was going to burn it instead of using stitches as there's more chance of it going back to how it was with stitches. The next day was the same, just rest. Yesterday I showered (48hrs after op, as advised) and I pulled back the foreskin. There's a white line from just under the 'japseye' to part of the foreskin itself. There's also some black stuff on it, which I guess is where it was burnt. Doesn't look too pretty but I've had no pain or bleeding. I washed it and dried it as they said. Didn't smell too great. Today I showered as well and washed it a bit better with some Sanex showergel that has no smell or anything. Dried it and an hour or two later it kinda smells bad again. I guess this is from the wound... not much I can do.
So today is 3rd day after I had the operation and there has been some discomfort but no pain or blood. Glad I got it done as it was so detrimental to my confidence with girls. Need to wait ~2 weeks before I do exercise and ~4 weeks before any sexual activity. Oh lawd.
So that's that. I remember when I was looking into it I wanted to read other people's experiences and get as much info on it as I could, and I would have appreciated this post so I'm sure others will. Feel free to ask any questions. If you don't know what a frenuloplasty is then look it up (it's basically the lengething of the frenulum, aka banjo string).
After looking around the net I think that I need this operation I'm nervous about going to the doctor for anything though so I can't see myself being able to get my penis out for him... I really hope that the last posters fears are untrue and that he doesn't have to check me out with an erection. I'd probably rather just go without ever having sex than have to deal with that embarassment... [silly I know]
Anyway, not sure why I'm posting this as I've already seen all the advice given over the past posts. Cheers everyone though for talking about this it's been good to read in a way and the operation doesn't seem TOO awful so maybe...
Diagnosis is pretty easy. Just go see your GP. They'll ask to see the problem, look at it for a few seconds, then say "yeah" and refer you to a hospital. They'll then look at it, and maybe ~3 months down the line you'll be able to get the surgery.
So yesterday I had my surgery. They said they did a combination of cutting and burning. I have quite loose foreskin so no problems there, and apparently I didn't even need the stitches in the end, just gauze. I was able to retract it immediately - not pulling it back, just gently rolling, which is now very easy thanks to the surgery. It'll take a while to get used to that. The frenulum is still attached but now it's towards the base of the head rather than just under the peehole. There's a line of white gauze stuff over where they made the cut, which I try not to touch directly as it's very sensitive (obviously). But very pleasantly surprised as there's no pain even after the anasthetic wore off.
I was told not to shower the day after or take baths, so I haven't washed it yet, but after peeing I've been dabbing the tip with a bit of damp TP just to try and make sure it's clean and minimise any dribbling that could irritate the wound. Being very gentle. I've gotten very slight semi-hardons when pulling it back and when I pee, which hasn't caused any discomfort yet, though obviously I am lucky and have no stitches.
Very pleased with the results as I can see parts of my penis that were borderline 'inaccessible' before due to the tightness of the frenulum. Very looking forward to trying it out when it's healed, I suspect I will get new sensation from that area. It's still a novelty having it just roll back without stopping. I also seem to pee easier now with it rolled back. Before, if I rolled it back and peed I'd get the worst case of spray-peeing everywhere, probably because the frenulum was pulling on the head. That seems to have gone.
Overall, couldn't be happier with the results. I was expecting blood and pain, but in my case none whatsoever (though I expect there might be a bit of blood when I try to take the gauze off). The only hard part will be the next month of no using it. Yes, it's going to be ... very hard.
It occured to me that I have a little more empathy for women's plight now ...
I've read all your posts, wondering if there's anything else I should know about the post operation phase?
It's really nothing to be worried about and you've really no need to be scared, staff are very professional and have had to deal with far worse things I'm sure.
One thing that I found is that if you don't feel like visiting your family doctor then take yourself down to the local sexual health clinic (be sure to book an appointment though - walk in's can takes ages to be seen....) as they specialise in sexual health (obviously) and deal with this kind of thing on a day to day basis.
Obviously, you should be getting tested for STI's etc. regularly anyway if you change partners frequently but I digress.
There is nothing to fear. Even though I haven't had the op yet I take solace in the fact that I'll be asleep throughout the whole thing though.
Although, there was once this virgin with whom I had a ****en awful experience and it pained like hell and back. And without any much lubrication, it's not an amusing experience. Infact I've been really low in confidence and fearful after that last painful experience. Though I did have sex after that, but couldn't enjoy fully and was never at my A-game. Infact a couple of times, I even didn't do that and just masturbated in my safe hands after some amount of foreplay.
Having said al that, I myself have been thinking of going to a doc and get rid of this problem forever. Coz I just can't keep living in denial and obviously can't keep delaying gratification. It's so frustrating believe me. There have been times when I could have had one night stands but just didn't dare to coz I alwz felt low in confidence to perform. (You won't believe how hard I've masturbated after those missed opportunities and kicked myself for avoiding to go to the doc for this). I was thinking of getting a circumsission done so as to bloody get rid of this al at once. One of my friend got it done and spoke so merrily about the benefits and an enhanced sexual experience after the removal of skin. I just didn't believe his words but the relaxed look on his face definitely caught my attention. So I decided to go about it (circumsission). I read a lot about it, the plus and minus around it. Still was making a decision to go about it when I realised that the only thing really which is stopping my buddy from going out there without bounds is just a small shackle at the bottom of the head of the penis. If I could get it snipped, I could keep myself the whole skin as well as my confidence. I searched on the net and found just the thing I had guessed. Have been researching about it for the last 1 day and found this post and your experiences. I think finally my prayers have been answered. I'm definitely going for the procedure now. I'm nt afraid of the embarrassments at the hospital or at the operation theatre. I know if I go to a good doctor, I don't have to worry about anything. I can just lie on the bed and let the experts play around with my buddy for whatever time they want. If they can get me and my buddy back in the game, both of us would be amazingly elated. Doesn't matter they twitch it, insert a needle, give me a Viagra or even blow it. I want my buddy to not be a caped crusader any more.
With all this, my only question to people here is - HOW ENHANCED YOUR SEXUAL EXPERIENCES HAVE BEEN AFTER THE 4 WEEK MARK?
That is the only concern. Even if you think you've had like 50% increase, would be good enough for me. Coz I'll make it a 100 with the untapped energy within.
FYI I saw another urologist before this, he's older than my current doctor, and shortly after examination he immediately recommended circumcision as the only option. I thought that seemed quite extreme so I looked for a second opinion. Just a tip for others, try getting an honest doctor you can trust and actually give you all the information before going into surgery.
I've been prescribed the steroid cream for now, but I'm thinking it's likely that i'll need surgery. I'm kinda favouring the frenuloplasty at this point as I'd like to keep as much of my foreskin as possible, just personal preference I guess. I need to leave for uni abroad soon so the surgery will most likely be over christmas break. He said the surgery should only take 20 mins, with 4-5 injections of local anesthesia which I'm quite worried about. He also said he'll be using a scalpel instead of laser, and will require stitches.
Just a question for those who's done it with local anesthesia, as this is going to be my first surgery, I'm freaking out at the fact that i'll be awake during the operation, what was your experience with it? Also, if anyone has more info on their experience 4 weeks post-op I'd like to hear that too