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Dad beating me up
Ok well basically I'm really scared - had argument with dad about him teaching my little brother (who's 4) to call me a swear word and things got out of hand and he started to get really mad and beat me up by kicking me in stomach and legs, slapping me. Woke up next morning with deep bruises and cuts on my body and got really depressed so I cut myself (stupidly but I thought it could make my heart hurt less). I'm too scared to tell anyone and im also scared that if i were to tell someone, dad would never forgive me cos we usually get on so well. Is it normal for parents to hit their children like this?
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Reply 1
Er, no. It's called child abuse.
Call the police.
Call the police.
Seriously mate call the police, i know he is family but would you be friends with somebody like that? You also have a 4 year old brother to think about who will be subjected to this. He will get counselling and realise he is in the wrong hopefully and your relationship with him will be better.
This is really serious. If your dad has done that then it is child abuse. Also it means he must be mentally unstable in some way or another. What do you think you should do for the best? has he done similar in the past?
You could either :
talk to other family members/friends.
Talk to your dad (if you think that would help the situation)
Go to the police, though i realise that is a really hard thing to do and can cause almost as many problems as it can solve!
Don't resort to self harm, it is such a dangerous thign to do, i know i have done it, once you start you end up using it all the time to try to control your hurt and try to help with your pain.
Justtry not to suffer in silence, if this can be dealt with through friends, family or your father himself then it may be the best way. But if you or your brother is in danger then you need to make sure something is done about it, or it could happen again and it could be worse.
You could either :
talk to other family members/friends.
Talk to your dad (if you think that would help the situation)
Go to the police, though i realise that is a really hard thing to do and can cause almost as many problems as it can solve!
Don't resort to self harm, it is such a dangerous thign to do, i know i have done it, once you start you end up using it all the time to try to control your hurt and try to help with your pain.
Justtry not to suffer in silence, if this can be dealt with through friends, family or your father himself then it may be the best way. But if you or your brother is in danger then you need to make sure something is done about it, or it could happen again and it could be worse.
Reply 7
Just wondering if any of you that have suggested calling the police have ever had to report a family member to the authorities before... you make it sound very easy, but try putting yourself in that situation. I doubt it's as straight forward as you think.
You need to tell someone, but I don't think calling the police at this stage would help in the slightest. Try speaking to someone else in your family first, or even speak to your dad in person... make it clear that there is no way you will put up with that kind of treatment, and that if he ever does anything like that again, you will go to the police. If as you say, you've had a good relationship with him in the past, he'll hopefully realise how terrible his behaviour was and never do it again.
You need to tell someone, but I don't think calling the police at this stage would help in the slightest. Try speaking to someone else in your family first, or even speak to your dad in person... make it clear that there is no way you will put up with that kind of treatment, and that if he ever does anything like that again, you will go to the police. If as you say, you've had a good relationship with him in the past, he'll hopefully realise how terrible his behaviour was and never do it again.
Reply 9
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Ok well basically I'm really scared - had argument with dad about him teaching my little brother (who's 4) to call me a swear word and things got out of hand and he started to get really mad and beat me up by kicking me in stomach and legs, slapping me. Woke up next morning with deep bruises and cuts on my body and got really depressed so I cut myself (stupidly but I thought it could make my heart hurt less). I'm too scared to tell anyone and im also scared that if i were to tell someone, dad would never forgive me cos we usually get on so well. Is it normal for parents to hit their children like this?
no. Child abuse can and should be legally prosecuted. Call the police, talk to your mother, see a councellor. This isn't a healthy environment, your dad seems an immature violent jerk, and you should really try to get yourself and your brother out of this. I know it might be scary to do it, but things won't get any worse trust me.
was he drunk when he was beating you?
Don't call the police before you talk to your dad or mum about that.
Who will take care of you after you call the police??
Who will be living with you after all of this??
Who is earning money for your family??
What the police can do? The police can send him to jail or ...????
If they don't, then do you think your relationship with your dad will become better or worse??
What will happen after that? Think carefully.
I know he was wrong when he beaten you like that. But let talk to him honestly and seriously about what he had done. Ask him whether he loves you or not? Why a dad can beat a son that hard?? Ofcourse if he says something about your mistakes ..., just apologise him and ... you know ... thing becomes better if each person is concessive. Don't make your family's atmosphere become so stressful.
Don't call the police before you talk to your dad or mum about that.
Who will take care of you after you call the police??
Who will be living with you after all of this??
Who is earning money for your family??
What the police can do? The police can send him to jail or ...????
If they don't, then do you think your relationship with your dad will become better or worse??
What will happen after that? Think carefully.
I know he was wrong when he beaten you like that. But let talk to him honestly and seriously about what he had done. Ask him whether he loves you or not? Why a dad can beat a son that hard?? Ofcourse if he says something about your mistakes ..., just apologise him and ... you know ... thing becomes better if each person is concessive. Don't make your family's atmosphere become so stressful.
Reply 11
i think u should talk to ur mum or close relative abt this, be4 u go to the police
but i must say..don't stay silent...i always argue with my dad...and later evry1 blames me..for whtever happen in my family
but plz do something abt this stuff...coz he can't beat yaa without ny reason
and he was wrong in frst part..teachin a 4yrs child to swear
anyways good luck
God may bless yaa
but i must say..don't stay silent...i always argue with my dad...and later evry1 blames me..for whtever happen in my family
but plz do something abt this stuff...coz he can't beat yaa without ny reason
and he was wrong in frst part..teachin a 4yrs child to swear
anyways good luck
God may bless yaa
Reply 13
there r threads with 10+ anonymous users... even you can post anonymously you know... this is the health and relationships thread 
Reply 14
Its not as clear cut as a lot of people think. My parents are really gone for us in the past and left us with bruises, my mum has pulled me off chairs by my hair and things and I've had to pull my dad off my younger brother and sister. Yet I'm not sure if I really consider it abuse, things just got majorly out of hand. I still know that they love me.
You need to talk to somebody about it, I found my boyfriend a great help as he was very non-judgemental and just listenned and helped me understand. You could ring Childline just for some general advice without "reporting" them, or perhaps talk to a close friend?
The violence in my house is still on-going and I am 18 and in university now, so thankfully awayfrom the worst of it. Don't blame yourself and try to talk to your Dad about it calmly, just saying why you feel bad. I'm betting he is feeling absolutely awful, because the one thing that most parents can't stand is hurting their children.
You need to talk to somebody about it, I found my boyfriend a great help as he was very non-judgemental and just listenned and helped me understand. You could ring Childline just for some general advice without "reporting" them, or perhaps talk to a close friend?
The violence in my house is still on-going and I am 18 and in university now, so thankfully awayfrom the worst of it. Don't blame yourself and try to talk to your Dad about it calmly, just saying why you feel bad. I'm betting he is feeling absolutely awful, because the one thing that most parents can't stand is hurting their children.
Reply 15
well
i hate my dad
he does not hit me nythin like..so i get bruises or cuts..but yh evn i m 18 and goin to be 19 soon..he still slaps me..and its f*****g annoying..
i m just waitin to go t university away frm home..and wana relax...i cried 2 or 3 times in 1 week coz of my dad..and its really bad..if no1 else supports yaa frm ur family side
i don't wana take ny action against thm coz of the reputation n stuff..but still i will be reallly happy to stay away frm my family
i hate my dad
he does not hit me nythin like..so i get bruises or cuts..but yh evn i m 18 and goin to be 19 soon..he still slaps me..and its f*****g annoying..
i m just waitin to go t university away frm home..and wana relax...i cried 2 or 3 times in 1 week coz of my dad..and its really bad..if no1 else supports yaa frm ur family side
i don't wana take ny action against thm coz of the reputation n stuff..but still i will be reallly happy to stay away frm my family
Everyone seems to be ripping up the dad, maybe hes having a hard time at work, suffering from depression, i know that's no excuse, and i could be wrong, but that may be why hes doing it. I experience similar problems, but i talked to my dad, got drunk with him and everything was alright.
No its not normal at all, even him teaching your lil bro to call you swear words worrys me especially if hes only 4.
I strongly reccomend you call the police about this, because
1: You might not be so lucky next time if he does this again, and dont say "Oh no it wont happen again, he said so etc"
Because abusive people usually never mean it.
2:If hes done it to you, whats going to stop him doing it to someone else??? maybe he has already but you just not heard about it or they didnt come forward
I strongly reccomend you call the police about this, because
1: You might not be so lucky next time if he does this again, and dont say "Oh no it wont happen again, he said so etc"
Because abusive people usually never mean it.
2:If hes done it to you, whats going to stop him doing it to someone else??? maybe he has already but you just not heard about it or they didnt come forward
Reply 19
No, I disagree, don't call the police. Talk to your dad and find out what's wrong, talk things through, try to stop it from happening again. Adults are humans too and they make mistakes. You need to sort it out with him.
Even though there have been countless violent incidents in my house, I would never even consider caling the police. In my mind its almost like a betrayal. I wind them up, its partially my fault too.
Even though there have been countless violent incidents in my house, I would never even consider caling the police. In my mind its almost like a betrayal. I wind them up, its partially my fault too.
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