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Reply 1
Go halves on the dinner, unless he specifically says he really wants to pay..
If he offers to pay I'd let him, but equally be prepared to go 50/50. It's a tricky one, I would normally offer to pay and not mind if she accepted (obviously!) Then again there are some people who would say that was totally chauvinistic and say that it should always be split. Should be fun!
He is the type who will want to pay...

I get that impression very strongly, and the friend on my course who gave him my number is one of his best friends, and she says the same.

I always went halves with my ex, but then we were together and it wasn't a date, more like the two of us going out to dinner together. If you get what I mean... :confused:
I thought 50/50 was the "modern" attitude. I even read that somewhere.
Reply 5
Any guy that asks you out on a date has to pay in full. Its a sheer gentlemanly proposition that should be made. If not, i'd be seriously worried!!!!
Airport Fairy
He is the type who will want to pay...

I get that impression very strongly, and the friend on my course who gave him my number is one of his best friends, and she says the same.

I always went halves with my ex, but then we were together and it wasn't a date, more like the two of us going out to dinner together. If you get what I mean... :confused:

Let him pay then. Put it this way, go with how you feel but I wouldn't absolutely insist. At the end of the day if you think you'll see the guy again then you may as well let him pay and just think that next time you can pay for whatever you two end up doing (and just hope it's not sky-diving :p: ) If you don't really hit it off then politely offer to pay and if he accepts he does and if not then you got a free supper. Win/win situation.
englishstudent
Let him pay then. Put it this way, go with how you feel but I wouldn't absolutely insist. At the end of the day if you think you'll see the guy again then you may as well let him pay and just think that next time you can pay for whatever you two end up doing (and just hope it's not sky-diving :p: ) If you don't really hit it off then politely offer to pay and if he accepts he does and if not then you got a free supper. Win/win situation.


That works. :smile:

To be honest, I've met the guy once, so I don't have much of an opinion on him yet. I don't know whether I'm interested or not, and it seems a bit weird to be going out on a proper date when we don't really know each other! But he comes highly recommended by mutual friends and he seems really interested. That's not a reason to date him, I know, but it's not a reason not to either. In a way I'd prefer something a bit more informal, but hey, it could be good.
Airport Fairy
That works. :smile:

To be honest, I've met the guy once, so I don't have much of an opinion on him yet. I don't know whether I'm interested or not, and it seems a bit weird to be going out on a proper date when we don't really know each other! But he comes highly recommended by mutual friends and he seems really interested. That's not a reason to date him, I know, but it's not a reason not to either. In a way I'd prefer something a bit more informal, but hey, it could be good.

There are worse ways to get to know someone; I think it's a pretty cool idea. Hope you have a good time!
Offer to go dutch at the very least.

what other dating rules are there?


Be yourself... be honest... don't lead anyone on... have a backup plan to get out of there just in case and all men are scum :wink:

And I fully expect you to metaphorically 'beat his head into the ground until you're just pushing wet bone into the floorboards' should he say something outrageous :smile:
To be honest I believe that the bloke should always pay. Maybe I'm just old fashioned.
The first date, yeh, chances are the bloke will pay. Once dates become more frequent then start to pay half - especially if you're both poor students.

I'd pay all the time if I had a frequent income.
SpiralArchitect
I'd pay all the time

You only bought me one beer tonight though you stingy fatherless!

Then again I owe you three hot dogs...
TomInPortsmouth
You only bought me one beer tonight though you stingy fatherless!

Then again I owe you three hot dogs...


Before anyone starts thinking i'm a shirtlifter me and TomInPortsmouth weren't actually on a date tonight.
Reply 14
TomInPortsmouth
To be honest I believe that the bloke should always pay. Maybe I'm just old fashioned.


That's not old fashioned. That's the decent and right thing to do. Where on earth are traditional values going?

Maybe when in a steady realtionship can it then be discussed or accpeted that your partner may have some input. Even then, i'd rather not and never have.

I met an ex the other day and felt no duty to do anything for her, but still felt it fair and only right that I settle any bills. General manners. :smile:
SpiralArchitect
Before anyone starts thinking i'm a shirtlifter me and TomInPortsmouth weren't actually on a date tonight.

No, but we did share a meal, followed by beverages.

Kiss kiss.
walshie
That's not old fashioned. That's the decent and right thing to do. Where on earth are traditional values going?

That's what I want to know too mate. Still, if a prostitute was willing to go halfs then I wouldn't be complaining.

But seriously, I would feel really uncomfortable if a woman was adamant that she wanted to contribute to the bill. As if they haven't got to earn their way in the bedroom.
Reply 17
It depends on how he asked.
"would you like to have dinner with me?" <- seems like he wants to treat you
"do you want to go out for dinner?" <- halfsies
"can we go out for dinner?" <- halfsies
"can I take you out to dinner?" <- seems like he wants to treat you

But be prepared to pay (i.e. bring cash!).
Damnit, I can't remember how he asked! Not in that much detail anyway! :redface: :p:
Reply 19
It's different for 2 men I feel. I always [although not recently :frown:] insist on paying because that's just what I'm like, but I think that in same-same eating out there is always more chance of splitting the cost 50:50.