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tempermental boyf

ive got a really nice boyf, does sooo much for me, hes always telling me how much he loves me and does things that makes me believe him, hates it when we are apart n therefore end up spending virtually all our time together. but sometimes he acts like hes a different person, like quite aggressive but pulls it of as tho he is jus playin about.

for instance if i wont tell him something n he really wants to know he will like twist my hand n it really hurts n then when i tel him hes really hurting me n he lets go he tells how much hes sorry n stuff n how much he loves me n gets abit upset wen i get moody wif him cuz of it.

im really confused sumtimes i feel like i dont kno him :frown:

help

Reply 1

MNBStyle

9

Anonymous

he will like twist my hand n it really hurts n then when i tel him hes really hurting me n he lets go he tells how much hes sorry n stuff n how much he loves me

You got to be really carefull of attitude like this, as its a common attitude of abusers and violent people,
Ie they will be violent like this then cover it up with a few nice gestures here and there until the next time.
I think you need to talk to him about this and tell him how its not right to force you into telling him things.

Reply 2

NathanM

14

dump him before he seriously hurts you

Reply 3

Apricot Fairy

16

First he twists your hand. Then one day he slaps you. Later on he punches you, which turns into full scale beating. Sooner or later he starts using various objects to beat you with.

They always start off small.

Dump him. If he does turn out to be a serious abuser, he's off your hands. If that was never really a risk, well you can find a better guy anyway, it's not your problem, and it might just stop him from doing it to someone else in the future.

Reply 4

Toscar

11

Airport Fairy

First he twists your hand. Then one day he slaps you. Later on he punches you, which turns into full scale beating. Sooner or later he starts using various objects to beat you with.

They always start off small.

Dump him. If he does turn out to be a serious abuser, he's off your hands. If that was never really a risk, well you can find a better guy anyway, it's not your problem, and it might just stop him from doing it to someone else in the future.

one word: DUMP

OP

thanks everyone.. i will talk to him today, i dont want to go straight ahead and dump him cuz i know that he does love me and probably is jus playing. i was thinking that cuz hes a guy when he 'play fights' with me he doesnt quite realise his strength against me :confused:

Reply 7

Clairehayz

5

The minor pain he causes you will get worse and worse, he is doing it to have control over you, right now it's over you not telling him something but later on it will become, you can't where that, you can't do this, and the pain will get worse but as he apologises everytime, you will still feel safe at the end of it.
You have obviously noticed it already so you know that you're not safe, all I can say is get out now before you're too under control and are too involved to leave him.

Reply 8

cleas001

1

talk to him- if it persists get some help for him and support for yourself...if you truely like him dont dump him just yet- get him help...
if you just dump him he will do the same to another poor girl- so just help him gt the help he needs- but keep telling someone close whats happening so that if its gts too much they can help and support you

Reply 9

HigheR

Next time he trys twisting your arms quickly do the Stone-Cold Stunner -

Kick to the chest and BAM

He'l learn soon enough

Reply 10

Introspecktive..

Tell him he aint gettin some and it'll sort him out

Reply 11

pink_lucie

14

no offence but he seems like a wife beater to be

Reply 12

JadedHippy

11

Anonymous

for instance if i wont tell him something n he really wants to know he will like twist my hand n it really hurts n then when i tel him hes really hurting me n he lets go he tells how much hes sorry n stuff n how much he loves me n gets abit upset wen i get moody wif him cuz of it.

If he did this once, then it is probably just an accident. If he keeps doing this you have a big problem. I'm not saying you should dump him without talking to him, but you have to understand that in some cases this is the first sign of an abusive relationship.

*Jaded

Reply 13

wendizzle22

1

Does he get possessive of you in any way? Hating the times you're apart is a bad signal to be honest - if he isn't possessive now he may become violently so as your relationship progresses.
If he continues to hurt you even when you make it clear that it really is hurting, then yes I would say dump him. How long have you been together? There are plenty of guys out there who love their partners, do things for them etc but would hate the thought of ever hurting them. Even if he is 'playing', it is a sign there is something wrong if he won't stop.

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