splitting up with my boyfriend and becoming a single mum

I have recently felt very unloved by my partner so I have decided to end our relationship. I'm sick of trying so hard to make him happy and not getting anything back in return. We have tried to resolve this so many times but it just hasn't worked. The main problem is that I want to get married, and my boyfriend agreed so we booked our wedding and he called it all off last month....gutted :frown:

I still love him but I can't go on wasting my life on someone who doesn't love me the same. I do believe he loves me in his own way but hes so unemotional that he isn't able to make me feel loved. His own words were "I can't make you feel like a princess, its just not who I am....I don't know how." He also won't make the effort despite the amount of times we've talked about it. I met him when I was 17 (he was 27) and I've changed so much and I need different things from a relationship.

On friday I went out with my friends from college and the attention I got from a male friend made me think that just because I am a mum it doesn't mean I won't ever find Mr Right. I guess I've been sticking with the father of my children because I didn't think anyone would want me. I live a very comfortable life and part of me wouldn't have wanted to give that up a few years ago, but now I know that money has not brought me happiness. It makes things easier but it certainly does not fill the void that an unloving relationship brings.

Anyway we've been together for years and have 2 children together but I'm so scared of being on my own. The thought of being a skint, single mum really scares me and although I've got uni to look forward to in September I do worry how I will cope on my own.

When my boyfriend comes home tonight I am going to talk to him, but its so hard ending a relationship with someone.....even more so if you have been together for nearly 6 years and have children together. I am crying as I write this and I am heartbroken but I simply cannot waste my life on someone who will make me even more unhappy if I stay with him.

The last thing I want is to end up hating my boyfriend and then not being able to split amicably. My main priority is what is best for the children and they will have everything they need even if me and their Daddy do split up.

can someone please send me a virtual hug :frown:

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Cirsium

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Dutchess of Doncaster

If it helps, i was brought up by my single mum from the age of 6 to 10 and i can honestly say they were the happiest times of my life. We had no money at all and times were incredibly hard for my mum but it made me really appreciate what i had, learn to make something out of nothing and formed a really close bond between my mum and my sister and I. What being brought up on 9p beans and 36p bread did to my health however, is another matter...but i havn't dropped dead as yet so :yy:

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Anonymous #1

robinhood, that must have been very difficult. Your must be very proud of your mum for doing such a good job on her own. I know that I won't be skint, but I certainly won't have the lifestyle I'm used to.

As much as I say having money doesn't bother me, it will be difficult having to watch every penny. My soon to be ex will support us more than adequately, financially speaking, but I am scared of having to deal with things on my own and not having someone around at night to keep me company.

I'm sure I'll be happy one day soon, but right now I just want to carry on with my life and get through this one day at a time.