What do you think of this behaviour?

Two of my friends at school - guy and girl - they're really good friends, and recently I and some other girlfriends have had suspicions that the guy, Tim, really likes the girl, Abi. I'm sure I'm right, there's little hints, like the way he talks to her, and he always plays with her hair, stuff like that. I told Abi what I think, and she disagrees, and says even if he does like her, she's just good friends with him and wouldn't go out with. So that's fine, right? But when she sees him, she acts overly flirty, even more so than normal. It's as if she's leading him on?! But why - she doesn't like him like that, and she knows he does. I don't know why, she is the type of girl who would do something like that to seem popular I think.... but is that not a bit mean?!

Edit - I should add, she's done stuff like this before, she acted so flirty with a guy she knew liked her, when she didn't like him back, and when he asked her out she said no, saying they were just friends and he had totally the wrong idea.

Reply 1

*Katie*

There are *some* people who are just naturally flirty - and I did have a friend who would flirt shamelessly with guys after she found out that they liked her. Don't judge her too harshly - some people can't help it!

Reply 2

shinyhappy

Tis just natural, so don't judge her too harshly. I've done it, sometimes.But then again, as far as I'm aware, only 3 lads have *ever* shown any interest in me, so I suppose its not too bad :P
And one of them's my boyfriend now. I stopped when I met him! :smile:

Reply 3

lil_sweetie

Hmm I guess if it's natural...but it still doesn't seem right that she's so obviously leading him on, as if she wants him to ask her out so she can just go and reject him because it gives her kicks! Ugh sorry I sound so retarded! Just doesn't seem right to me :confused:

Reply 4

shinyhappy

Well, it isn't the nicest thing to do, no. But, if she's single, she can do what she wants really. If she really is that bad, she'll start to get a reputation as a flirt/tease, which might make guys a bit more cautious anyway. Seems like you're in a difficult position - because she isn't doing anything wrong, at least not in a way that you could confront her about without sounding fairly rude. Just leave her to it. You could speak to the guy/guys involved, but it only risks it getting back to her.

Reply 5

MNBStyle

No offence, but your friend just sounds like a typical user, who will use a guy who likes her to get good compliments from him and other stuff so she feels better about herself.
Also to just enjoy the fact she can control a guys feelings, ive had that problem before and its pathetic.

Reply 6

latentcorpse

maybe she actually likes him and just doesn't wanna admit it to u

Reply 7

Leigh

Perhaps give Tim a quiet heads up?

Reply 8

strawberry

at least you can tell they're flirting. I don't even flirt and people say I flirt so well. i'm like "does this mean I flirt with my girl friends too?" cos I treat them the same....o_O

Reply 9

xoxo_GossipGirl

Haha strawberry I'm the same, I flirt with everyone I meet apparently, I think I'm just very touchy feely and smile a lot but thre ya go =p. Some people are just flirts, she probably doesn't even realise she's doing it. I've been told I should stop plenty of times before and I didn't even know I was doing it. He shouldn't jump to the conclusion that just because she flirts she must be interested.