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Problem with housemates boyfriend...

I live in a shared uni house with 4 girls, all of them have boyfriends apart from me, which doesn't bother me at all. One of my housemates boyfriend has really started to annoy me, and i'm not sure what to do about it. Hes always round at our house, and I mean, he literally stops over everynight and is here all day, he uses our electricity, our water, and is pretty much living at our house.

Its not just me that thinks this because i've asked my other housemates and they think hes here too much as well, but because hes her guest, we can't really say anything.

Hes a really nice lad, and i've not a problem with him personally, just the fact that hes at our house all the time! I even have to ask him when hes finished on the internet because he uses ours all the time, even if I or my other housemates need it.

I'm sure my housemate doesn't want him around her all the time, because shes a very independent person, and hes like a little puppy dog always by her side. Its not as if he lives far away, he lives a 5minute walk! Hes not a student by the way, and doesn't have a job, so my housemate pays for him to go out, buys him clothes, uses her food to feed him, and gets nothing in return.

I don't know what to do!! *sorry about how long this is!*

Reply 1

pikaboo

13

Tell your housemate in a tactful way that with her boyfriend in the house so much it's starting to get too crowded and inconvienient having him over so often. Suggest she could see him at his house just as easily and they'd probably have more privacy there!

I live in a house with 3 others who regularly have guests over, and one of them sometimes invites her whole family to stay (now that does cause problems)...so I'm kinda used to these situations. Good luck!!

Reply 2

Kittennffc

OP

15

Could do, but my other housemates have their boyfriends over, and i'd feel a bit tight saying he can't come over, or not as much.

He doesn't get on with his family, and his mum has boyfriends over at their house so I guess that would be weird for him.

Am I being unreasonable?!

Reply 3

Segat1

16

I say you talk to him about about where to send the energy, water, council tax and food bills?

Reply 4

Kittennffc

OP

15

Hmm, I still feel awful asking! Ive never had to wait for the shower, because i'm normally up early for uni and get a shower then, but stuff like the internet really bothers me.

Were having a girly night in soon, no boys, no phones, pizza and a movie, so hopefully we'll get something sorted. We need to talk to my other housemate about her boyfriend as well becaues he treats her like crap, and shes too in love to see it :s-smilie:

Reply 5

Segat1

16

*sings* cos it's ladies night, oh what a night ..........

Reply 6

evil groove

segat1

I say you talk to him about about where to send the energy, water, council tax and food bills?

Reply 7

Tarts_n_Vicars

13

Kittennffc

I live in a shared uni house with 4 girls, all of them have boyfriends apart from me, which doesn't bother me at all. One of my housemates boyfriend has really started to annoy me, and i'm not sure what to do about it. Hes always round at our house, and I mean, he literally stops over everynight and is here all day, he uses our electricity, our water, and is pretty much living at our house.

Its not just me that thinks this because i've asked my other housemates and they think hes here too much as well, but because hes her guest, we can't really say anything.

Hes a really nice lad, and i've not a problem with him personally, just the fact that hes at our house all the time! I even have to ask him when hes finished on the internet because he uses ours all the time, even if I or my other housemates need it.

I'm sure my housemate doesn't want him around her all the time, because shes a very independent person, and hes like a little puppy dog always by her side. Its not as if he lives far away, he lives a 5minute walk! Hes not a student by the way, and doesn't have a job, so my housemate pays for him to go out, buys him clothes, uses her food to feed him, and gets nothing in return.

I don't know what to do!! *sorry about how long this is!*

You and the other 2 girls should go to her in a group and explain the situation...that way none of you is singled out for being a cow (not that you're being unreasonable but some people don't take these things well do they!). If she is a bit narked at having him following her about all the time it gives her an opportunity to say he shouldn't come round so often and blame you girls for it :biggrin:

Reply 8

Kittennffc

OP

15

I'm too much of a weed to actually say anything lol!

Reply 9

lazydays

12

Exactly the same happened to my sister. They basically had to get together and say you know..if you're gonna stay all the time, you start paying rent, paying towards the bills etc. It's your water/ Electricity/ Gas he's using!

Reply 10

Apricot Fairy

16

He's not your responsibility. I suggest you ask your friend (since she pays all his bills) whether she would be prepared to pay an increased rent, to make up for the fact that she's effectively two people. It sounds like he's using her anyway. I mean, she's a student, and she pays all his bills, because he can't be arsed to get a job? Who wants a boyfriend like that? And even if she does, it shouldn't be your problem.

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