Is it over?

Ok so basically I am quite scared right now. Basically have just been talking to my boyfriend on the phone, and he said he needed to talk to me next weekend when I go down to his univeristy to visit him about our relationship. This got me very upset, as I don't know what he meant, I think he wants to break up with me, or perhaps worse, he has cheated on me maybe? I asked him what this meant and to just tell me now and he said he didn't want to discuss it on the phone. He said it was nothing like that, he just wanted to discuss. I said well I think everything is fine, and he said yea so do i, but sounded unsure. I am not prepared to break up with him, I don't know what I wil do if he does (we have been together 4 years). What does he mean! What else could he mean apart from wanting to break up? It cant be good can it! :frown:

Reply 1

xelprep

Maybe he's cheated on you and wants to admit it.

Reply 2

xemilyx

2

Don't panic. It's probably nothing :hugs:

but prepare yourself just in case. prepare yourself for all eventualities.

Reply 3

sketchie

Maybe he likes boys

Honestly your guess is as good as ours!

Reply 4

Kittennffc

15

xelprep

Maybe he's cheated on you and wants to admit it.

Whats the point?

I'm sure its nothing to worry about :smile:

If you've been together for four years, then I doubt he'd want to break up like this, ie worrying you into thinking it will happen. Maybe he just wants to discuss how its going and see how you are about distance?

Hope everythings alrite chick :smile:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

yea maybe...i know he wont have cheated on me. Thing is we are really close, even though we are at different unis now, we always have been so good together and talk every day on the phone even now. I dont know, im hoping it is nothing and he wants to make sure we are ok..I dunno what I will do if it isnt though. Hes my best friend.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

anyone know how to deal with getting over him if he does say the worst? I mean iv been his best friend/girlfriend for 4 years, and we have shared everything. I think i would rather die than split up with him :frown:

Reply 7

CalculusMan

10

Who says this talk is going to be a bad thing?

Maybe he's going to pop the question.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

lol loads of people have said that....i know hes not the sort of person who would even consider that!

Reply 9

shinyhappy

14

How long have you been at different unis? Maybe if thats a new development (you both went off last september, i mean) he might just be feeling a little unsure about that, and be wanting a bit of reassurance that you still want him.
If he just says that he wants to break up, and doesn't seem to have done anything wrong, cheated or anything, then try to save your friendship at least. It will seem so so hard, but its better in the long run to still have someone you can talk to and confide in, than to lose him completely! :smile:

hope you're ok anyway xxxx

Reply 10

pikaboo

13

Matt_2K

Who says this talk is going to be a bad thing?

Maybe he's going to pop the question.

Lol I was just thinking that. It's nearly Valentine's Day after all!

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

yea id hate not to be friends with him but not sure if i could, would hurt too much. yea we went to uni in september, it has been fine sofar, altho we dont see each other often, about once a month. Maybe he just wants to see me more? but like he cud say that on the phone but i think maybe he wants to see where we are going? I really don't know, wish he hadn't said that though because its worried the **** out of me when it was probebly unnessisary!

Reply 12

randdom

20

I know it is hard but try not to get stressed about it, this could be anything and it won't do you any good to assume the worst. Try to keep it out of your mind untill you see him. I hope that everything goes ok :smile:

Reply 13

sketchie

Matt_2K

Who says this talk is going to be a bad thing?

Maybe he's going to pop the question.

You may have just completely ruined his suprise :tongue:

.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

no no no he wouldnt do that! he told me not to get him anything for valentines and he said he hasnt even got me a card so I was like maybe you dont care and he said maybe i dont anymore...i dont think positive right now!

Reply 15

Lauren Hart

3

maybe he has something special to do/say. I mean, he might want to put a pretty ring on your finger. I assume after 4 years you've already had the "L word" said. so it cant be that.

Maybe something did happen. be prepared. be brave. If he did, at least he loves you enough to tell you. And if he wanted to break up, he probably wouldnt invite you down to do it.

Reply 16

Helenia

20

Anonymous

anyone know how to deal with getting over him if he does say the worst? I mean iv been his best friend/girlfriend for 4 years, and we have shared everything. I think i would rather die than split up with him :frown:

Deal with that if/when it happens. I couldn't say whether he's going to propose, break up or simply say something in between, but whatever it is, don't panic yourself by worrying about how you'll cope now. Maybe let a friend or two know that you're worried, that way if anything does happen then you'll have them to fall back on.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks for all your help...im looking forward to going i think, but I hope he does'nt break up with me, I dont know how do you cope with losing someone you have shared 4 years of your life with, and practically grown up with...oh god

Reply 18

ciara

13

I hate it when people do the "we need to talk.." thing, but try not to worry! It's easy to expect the worst, but men are strange creatures and often it's just a minor worry they want to share or something. However, it is quite dangerous to become that dependant on someone I reckon. I mean, are you saying you would refuse to consider breaking up if he's cheated on you? It's cool to have a sort of mutual dependancy with boyfriends but always remember you would cope without him, eventually.

Reply 19

JaF

1

Why not tell him how worried you are about what he has said and that you need to know that he still wants to be with you?

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