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Cheating to be with me...

well i have a job, and me and a girl from work became good mates, and kept txting each other loads...and got really close, now she says she loves me, and i kinda feel the same... but despite this she is 21 year old but goes out with a 39 year old, who doesnt even look that old. She says she doesnt love him anymore, but they are living together, and she says she depends on him as she cant afford to pay bills herself. Well iv never really liked someone this much as i like her, and yesterday we arranged to meet, and we did, we went to the park and chatted loads, and then just sat on the bus and got really close, and we couldnt actually let go of each other... but when this happened my ''penis'' decided to get erect... but i covered it well, then she kinda had her hand in my hoodie pocket and grabbed the top of it, and said whats this, and i went all red...i had to quickly move away...and she kept asking what it was, but i just couldnt say, but im sure she didnt know what she grabbed...

well what im asking is, is it right for her to have feelings for me, whilst being with this older guy? what would your opinion be?

also how do i stop getting a erection around her, i cant help it for some reason...even when we are just holding hands... is there anyway to stop getting so excited sooo easily??

please can the MODs not close this as i really do need some advice on what to do... as im being serious :frown:
Reply 1
Anonymous
well i have a job, and me and a girl from work became good mates, and kept txting each other loads...and got really close, now she says she loves me, and i kinda feel the same... but despite this she is 21 year old but goes out with a 39 year old, who doesnt even look that old. She says she doesnt love him anymore, but they are living together, and she says she depends on him as she cant afford to pay bills herself. Well iv never really liked someone this much as i like her, and yesterday we arranged to meet, and we did, we went to the park and chatted loads, and then just sat on the bus and got really close, and we couldnt actually let go of each other... but when this happened my ''penis'' decided to get erect... but i covered it well, then she kinda had her hand in my hoodie pocket and grabbed the top of it, and said whats this, and i went all red...i had to quickly move away...and she kept asking what it was, but i just couldnt say, but im sure she didnt know what she grabbed...


Why the inverted commas? Do you employ some kind of artificial substitute; perhaps, a tightly-coiled solenoid or large pen?

Christ; if you're going to go to the (no doubt, considerable) trouble of euphemising, at least do so whole-heartedly: maybe, for future reference, "little man" might be more apt.
Reply 2
please Profesh, stop it, i just need advice...
Reply 3
Given that every subscriber to chance upon this thread will now surmise your true identity, I think it only sensible that the pretence be divested henceforth.
To sort out your "penis" problem I would try to contemplate something you find repulsive and hideous to such a degree that your "penis" becomes "flaccid" and then you can sort out the other issues at "hand".
Reply 5
:rofl: at Profesh's first comment.

Even though you like her, and she likes you, this is really really unfair on the person she's living with if he doesn't know. I assume she hasn't told him about you, and it seems to me like she's just using him and living off him. Sorry for being so rude :redface: I think the best thing to do at the moment is not to get too serious with her until she's made up her mind for sure whether she wants you instead of the other guy, and to be decent enough to tell him about it.

At the beginning you mention "I have a job". Does this mean you're willing to help her pay her bills if she were to live with you instead?
Reply 6
Anonymous
but despite this she is 21 year old but goes out with a 39 year old, who doesnt even look that old. She says she doesnt love him anymore, but they are living together, and she says she depends on him as she cant afford to pay bills herself. :frown:



Get shot mate, so she grabbed your cock, but most girls like cock.

You have the character of the girl wrapped up there. Shes using that bloke and she'll use you. Trust me when I say you're best off rid.

I've seen girls like this before.
Reply 7
Chances are she still loves the other guy but your "new" and "different" and she probably thinks she wants a change, but infact doesn't. What if her boyfriend finds out? She'll be homeless because of you. Dont go there.
Anonymous
i covered it well, then she kinda had her hand in my hoodie pocket and grabbed the top of it, and said whats this, and i went all red...i had to quickly move away...and she kept asking what it was, but i just couldnt say, but im sure she didnt know what she grabbed...

FPMSL :toofunny:
Reply 9
pianist
:rofl: at Profesh's first comment.

Even though you like her, and she likes you, this is really really unfair on the person she's living with if he doesn't know. I assume she hasn't told him about you, and it seems to me like she's just using him and living off him. Sorry for being so rude :redface: I think the best thing to do at the moment is not to get too serious with her until she's made up her mind for sure whether she wants you instead of the other guy, and to be decent enough to tell him about it.

At the beginning you mention "I have a job". Does this mean you're willing to help her pay her bills if she were to live with you instead?


i am not prepared to move in with her though... i still live with my parents whilst at uni... even when we were walking and holding hands... its wouldnt stay down :frown: thank god i wore my baggy hoodie...

then she asked for a hug when we were walking, and i still had a erection, so i gave her a hug, and kinda felt my penis touch her, but hopefully she wont have noticed that...:eek:
lol, don't worry, I don't think it's that much of a big deal. When my bf had the same prob, I didn't think anything of it. It's normal! :biggrin: