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Say you've never met your dad.....
Say you've never met your dad....
You've not really minded as growing up without him, you dont know any different. but you've got curious over the past couple of years of what he looks like etc etc... so in the new year you email trisha...
and you get a reply from the researcher asking you to call to give more information.
do you believe the ends justify the means and its worth going on trasha to be able to meet the man?
the question is really, should I call back the researcher?
You've not really minded as growing up without him, you dont know any different. but you've got curious over the past couple of years of what he looks like etc etc... so in the new year you email trisha...
and you get a reply from the researcher asking you to call to give more information.
do you believe the ends justify the means and its worth going on trasha to be able to meet the man?
the question is really, should I call back the researcher?
if there is any other way, would you not prefer that? i mean, in years to come would you be happy knowing you discussd this on national telly and the nation shared your first meeting? i am in no way saying you should be ashamed to broadcast it, quite to the contrary. be proud that you are strong enough and brave enough to find your pa, but maybe it might scare him off if the first thing he hears from you is "can you meet me on trisha?"
what would make you happy?
whatever that is, is what you should do.
good luck in your journey, hope it all works out
xxx
what would make you happy?
whatever that is, is what you should do.
good luck in your journey, hope it all works out
xxx
Reply 2
No, really dont do it. There are other ways of tracking a person down, Ive recently done the same. Organisations like citezens advice or samaritans can help you with this. Its a very emotional thing and shows like trisha really are NOT the place for such delicate, highly emotional situations. There are plnty of alternatives. How much do you know about him? if you have a last know address or a name you could go to the relevant records office (this would be in whatever county or city he may live) and see if anyone under that name live in that area and then make a few calls, or get a friend to make the calls on your behalf.
Once again please dont lower yourself to trasha
Once again please dont lower yourself to trasha
Reply 3
yeah, I dont really want to lower myself to it, but i've tried everything else. the salvation army can't help as my parents weren't married (they went out through uni, then when she left she found out she was pregnant)
all I know is his name, where he used to live, the city he moved to and what he was doing in university, ive looked through friends reunited also. Im semi on last ditch. I've had the email for the past couple of days from the researcher, im quite a confident person anyway and am generally up for new experiences and things, but im not sure If i can do trasha. the only positive is that at least its on channel5 now and not itv.
all I know is his name, where he used to live, the city he moved to and what he was doing in university, ive looked through friends reunited also. Im semi on last ditch. I've had the email for the past couple of days from the researcher, im quite a confident person anyway and am generally up for new experiences and things, but im not sure If i can do trasha. the only positive is that at least its on channel5 now and not itv.
I don't know my dad either and sad as it may be, i've considered the same options as you.
My mum got pregnant with me after she had split up with my dad, and chose not to tell him. I know very little about him and it would extremely difficult to find him based on the information i have. I want to find him sometimes out of curiosity, but i don't need him and there isn't a large hole missing in my life.
I don't know what to advise you to do. Do what you think would be best for you.
Reply 5
Sarky
I don't know my dad either and sad as it may be, i've considered the same options as you.
My mum got pregnant with me after she had split up with my dad, and chose not to tell him. I know very little about him and it would extremely difficult to find him based on the information i have. I want to find him sometimes out of curiosity, but i don't need him and there isn't a large hole missing in my life.
I don't know what to advise you to do. Do what you think would be best for you.
I don't know my dad either and sad as it may be, i've considered the same options as you.
My mum got pregnant with me after she had split up with my dad, and chose not to tell him. I know very little about him and it would extremely difficult to find him based on the information i have. I want to find him sometimes out of curiosity, but i don't need him and there isn't a large hole missing in my life.
I don't know what to advise you to do. Do what you think would be best for you.
my mum sent one letter! not even thinking about if he'd get it or not!
what do you think? would you consider a tv show, as in ends justify the means? I have little information as well.
Reply 6
Sarky
I don't know my dad either and sad as it may be, i've considered the same options as you.
My mum got pregnant with me after she had split up with my dad, and chose not to tell him. I know very little about him and it would extremely difficult to find him based on the information i have. I want to find him sometimes out of curiosity, but i don't need him and there isn't a large hole missing in my life.
I don't know what to advise you to do. Do what you think would be best for you.
I don't know my dad either and sad as it may be, i've considered the same options as you.
My mum got pregnant with me after she had split up with my dad, and chose not to tell him. I know very little about him and it would extremely difficult to find him based on the information i have. I want to find him sometimes out of curiosity, but i don't need him and there isn't a large hole missing in my life.
I don't know what to advise you to do. Do what you think would be best for you.
PS: forgot to say, its exactly the same situation as yours. I dont need him and there isnt a large hole but its curiosity.
Anonymous
my mum sent one letter! not even thinking about if he'd get it or not!
what do you think? would you consider a tv show, as in ends justify the means? I have little information as well.
what do you think? would you consider a tv show, as in ends justify the means? I have little information as well.
I would want to find him more to say "you didn't get the chance to know me, but i exist. I'm doing well in my life and don't need anything but you should know you have a daughter".
Rather than:
"Lets play happy families and cry when we meet". Its a very hard decision. You don't know how he would feel about his private life being exposed on the tv. He may be fine with it, he may be very upset. I wish i knew what the answer was. Maybe you could contact the researchers and explain your concerns? Nothing ventured nothing gained after all.
Reply 8
Sarky
I would want to find him more to say "you didn't get the chance to know me, but i exist. I'm doing well in my life and don't need anything but you should know you have a daughter".
Rather than:
"Lets play happy families and cry when we meet". Its a very hard decision. You don't know how he would feel about his private life being exposed on the tv. He may be fine with it, he may be very upset. I wish i knew what the answer was. Maybe you could contact the researchers and explain your concerns? Nothing ventured nothing gained after all.
Rather than:
"Lets play happy families and cry when we meet". Its a very hard decision. You don't know how he would feel about his private life being exposed on the tv. He may be fine with it, he may be very upset. I wish i knew what the answer was. Maybe you could contact the researchers and explain your concerns? Nothing ventured nothing gained after all.
exactly the same as me, I Dont need him, I certainly dont want to play happy families. I just think that as i'm past the age now when he conceived me that he should be old enough to handle knowing that I exist.
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