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guys, do you lose respect for a girl once you have slept with her?

Anonymous #1

my mom has told me this, and i have read it on alot of christian websites. is it true?

Reply 1

username47781

20

i don't lose respect.

Reply 2

silence

16

i'd guess it depends on the guy and his purpose/aim/outlook/character. and how long the girl waits, perhaps.

Reply 3

mipmapped

13

"christian websites"

ha.

If I guy hasn't got any resepect for her in the first place then nowt's going to change is it? If he has, he isn't going to change his opnions because he's got a shag is he?

Reply 4

username47781

20

Unfortunatly a lot of these guys sweet talk their way into bed then once they done the dirty that's it they're off to the next innocent girl to sweet talk her.

Reply 5

Margerie Dawes

if she just fell on the bed and opened her legs i would but if we had been dating for a while and she knew I cared about her I wouldn't.

Reply 6

HeadShock

Carl1982

Unfortunatly a lot of these guys sweet talk their way into bed then once they done the dirty that's it they're off to the next innocent girl to sweet talk her.

your jumping to the gun abit too fast their.

Reply 7

completely random

8

HeadShock

your jumping to the gun abit too fast their.

Yes but unfortunately some men DO do that.

Reply 8

*Katie*

1

Carl1982

Unfortunatly a lot of these guys sweet talk their way into bed then once they done the dirty that's it they're off to the next innocent girl to sweet talk her.

That's ridiculously irrelvant. If he wants a girl for his body, surely that suggests he didn't have respect for her before he slept with her?
In general
repect before --> respect afterwards
no respect before --> no respect afterwards..

And with most exceptions, other factors besides sleeping together come into play.

Reply 9

pink_lucie

14

personly i find the longer you wait to have sex the more the guy respects you, and it says alot if he cant wait a few months really. And then you relly do know if he just wants you for sex.

Reply 10

bluedreamer

1

lol my mum tell me that all the time.

I agree with mipmapped and *Katie*. It seems very unlikely he respected her before, then stops afterwards.

Reply 11

JadedHippy

11

Anonymous

my mom has told me this, and i have read it on alot of christian websites. is it true?

All these sources have a vested interest in you not having sex. So yes, they will tell you that.

*Jaded

Reply 12

Kilgore Trout

9

That sounds a bit silly. There are always going to be those total b******s in society that just want to use people, but that's by far the minority. In my opinion (and I hate to stereotype, which is exactly what it seems like I'm about to do), it seems that these people are attempting to scare you into not having sex for their (or your) religious beliefs.

I'm not saying that this is a good or a bad thing, but it just seems that way to me. (I don't want to be slated for expressing my views.)

If you're in a loving relationship, 'respect' should and in all likelihood always will stay there through sex, and if not, then you shouldn't be with him anyway - the other option is waiting until you get married before having sex, then him losing respect for you. I'm sure the first option is more preferable to the second.

If a boy's going to lose respect for you after having sex (I'm not sure why he'd lose respect... but anyway), then he's going to lose respect whether you've been going out for a week, a month, or a year, and whether you're just friends, are going out, or are married.

Reply 13

Kilgore Trout

9

*edits away a double post*

Basically, I agree with JadedHippy.

Reply 14

alej18

5

christian websites are full of so much "crap" that a lot of people visit them to have a laugh.

you cant deal in absolutes, but id say most guys in a relationship with a girl dont lose respect for them afterwards. if the relation ship has been goin on a decent amount of time there shouldnt be a prob.

Reply 15

El Scotto

15

Anonymous

my mom has told me this, and i have read it on alot of christian websites. is it true?

Your mum and christians are bound to go around telling you things like that so you dont go around sharing ur love.... lol

Reply 16

34253

2

I wouldn't lose respect for a girl once i had slept with her, i would have the same respect as before we slept together. Why would i stick my dick in somebody who didn't have atleast some of my respect.

Reply 17

bret

12

depends how long the girl makes us wait. If she's easy then she's probably been easy with loads of blokes. However, if I sleep with her on the first night and she's a nice girl (slept with fewer than 5 men), then I wouldn't lose respect for her.

Reply 18

SciFi25

1

Total fundamentalist ********.

Reply 19

sebbie

15

if i respect a girl ill respect her even if we hvae sex within an hour... if i dont respect her i wont respect her anyway.... all this is christian bull**** used to try and control people.....

guys, do you lose respect for a girl once you have slept with her?

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