Inexperienced guys

If a guy is inexperienced (i.e. only had sex a couple of times/a virgin) would that put a girl off sleeping with him if she was much more experienced?

I'm 22, male, and inexperienced, yet I am confident and happy in myself. I love to tease, and generally act quite dominant when I am with a woman but I am held back by my lack of experience.
I don't really know what is acceptable talk with a girl in regards to sex, when you should broach the subject, how you should relate it to the two of you, who should bring it up first, blah blah blah.

Thoughts and opinions are gratefully received, especially from the ladies! And just to clarify, I don't need feelgood answers, tell me how you think it is.

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Reply 1

wednesburywench

no! if the girl cared why shud it matter!

Reply 2

Marie05

i prefer guys that are virgins/inexperienced

Reply 3

Misogynist

Every experienced person was once unexperienced.

Reply 4

girl afraid

Sometimes girls love an inexperienced guy, it gives them a power trip. :smile:

Reply 5

Lirael Abhorsen

surely being experienced can be a turn off plus issues of jealousy about your bf/gf being with lots of others? at least you know where the inexperienced have been and should be less likely to be pushy about things

Reply 6

Profesh

girl afraid

Sometimes girls love an inexperienced guy, it gives them a power trip. :smile:

I can only hope; something tells me that that's exactly what she'd appreciate most.

Reply 7

zoea85

Personally, I would prefer an inexperienced guy, preferably a virgin, but don't know how likely that one is! A guy who had slept with a lot of girls would put me right off because it is likely I'd just be another notch on his belt. Someone who has not jumped into bed with anyone available would be more likely to have higher morals/values and be likely to stick around, so no, for women like me, inexperience is more attractive than experience.

Reply 8

Keybolasosa

Alchohol usually gets rid of the initial panic. It's pretty smooth from there on after.

Reply 9

oceane

girl afraid

Sometimes girls love an inexperienced guy, it gives them a power trip. :smile:

You don't want to end up with a girl like that.

Some girls may expect the guy to lead the way so you might end up having to be more forward than you might feel.
Otherwise I'd only have respect for someone who felt able to say they didn't have much experience. Plus, what do we really mean by experience - after a few times you pick it up quite easily and just go with the flow!

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Thanks for the feedback! Very helpful indeed, I've been getting suckered in so much to one point of view that I've left others out. It's nice to find out what other people really think. :smile:

Reply 11

warranty-ideal

Read Maxim, seriously, the articles and *tips* in there used to be so damn good!

Kegels.

A guy I fancy is a virgin, I personally find that quite...attractive. Dunno though, I'm not sure that it would bother me if a guy had experience, unless he was the ultimate slimebag, because I'd be being a bit of a hypocrite.

Reply 14

Apricot Fairy

I'm put off by 18 year old guys who are inexperienced, but last year I was involved with a 24 year old who wasn't a virgin but had only had sex a couple of times, and I found that attractive.

Reply 15

dan1982

Might be an idea to claim ur a virgin then by the sounds of it. Or not considering im 23, might not work so well :biggrin:

and im a bad liar too.

Reply 16

Ferrus

Profesh

Kegels.

Is, as you would put it, being a irredeemable onanist an adequate substitute?

Reply 17

Apricot Fairy

No, of course not. But I don't want to be the teacher. And to be honest, I don't really want to go out with an 18 year old anyway. I was going out with an 18 year old three years ago. It would seem like regression.