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Oh man I feel awful, I just read a post by a girl whos b/f just broke up with her after 4 years, it reminds me so much of the situation Im in, except Ive only been with the girl 3 years. I really care for her and love her, but I dont see the relationship in the same way she does, alot as changed and I feel we're dragging eachother down, which is never a good thing. Shes even admitted this herself.
A good friend of ours suggested a break but my g/f went mad at her, saying theres nothing wrong, we're fine. The truth is we're not fine but neither of us are prepared to fully face up to it, she doesnt want to loose me and I dont want to hurt her or loose her friendship but the fact is things just arent working out.
In truth I geuss I had the feeling things were not quite right 6 mnths into the relationship, but I thought we could work things out, unfortunatly its not been that easy, we've both had a lot to deal with over the past few years, one of the biggest problems is she has a very short temper and also suffers from OCD, I have tried so hard to ignore her temper and deal with her OCD, but its becoming so hard, its also worrying my family as I suffered with the condition myself and they have noticed me reverting to my old ways. Her temper has got worse lately as I have just started uni but all my class mates are female so when it comes to group work my girlfriend gets really angry and says I should just try to work alone!. I dont know what to for the best, we cant go on like this but I dont want to hurt her. Anyway sorry this is so dam long!
A good friend of ours suggested a break but my g/f went mad at her, saying theres nothing wrong, we're fine. The truth is we're not fine but neither of us are prepared to fully face up to it, she doesnt want to loose me and I dont want to hurt her or loose her friendship but the fact is things just arent working out.
In truth I geuss I had the feeling things were not quite right 6 mnths into the relationship, but I thought we could work things out, unfortunatly its not been that easy, we've both had a lot to deal with over the past few years, one of the biggest problems is she has a very short temper and also suffers from OCD, I have tried so hard to ignore her temper and deal with her OCD, but its becoming so hard, its also worrying my family as I suffered with the condition myself and they have noticed me reverting to my old ways. Her temper has got worse lately as I have just started uni but all my class mates are female so when it comes to group work my girlfriend gets really angry and says I should just try to work alone!. I dont know what to for the best, we cant go on like this but I dont want to hurt her. Anyway sorry this is so dam long!
enigma2506
Oh man I feel awful, I just read a post by a girl whos b/f just broke up with her after 4 years, it reminds me so much of the situation Im in, except Ive only been with the girl 3 years. I really care for her and love her, but I dont see the relationship in the same way she does, alot as changed and I feel we're dragging eachother down, which is never a good thing. Shes even admitted this herself.
A good friend of ours suggested a break but my g/f went mad at her, saying theres nothing wrong, we're fine. The truth is we're not fine but neither of us are prepared to fully face up to it, she doesnt want to loose me and I dont want to hurt her or loose her friendship but the fact is things just arent working out.
In truth I geuss I had the feeling things were not quite right 6 mnths into the relationship, but I thought we could work things out, unfortunatly its not been that easy, we've both had a lot to deal with over the past few years, one of the biggest problems is she has a very short temper and also suffers from OCD, I have tried so hard to ignore her temper and deal with her OCD, but its becoming so hard, its also worrying my family as I suffered with the condition myself and they have noticed me reverting to my old ways. Her temper has got worse lately as I have just started uni but all my class mates are female so when it comes to group work my girlfriend gets really angry and says I should just try to work alone!. I dont know what to for the best, we cant go on like this but I dont want to hurt her. Anyway sorry this is so dam long!
A good friend of ours suggested a break but my g/f went mad at her, saying theres nothing wrong, we're fine. The truth is we're not fine but neither of us are prepared to fully face up to it, she doesnt want to loose me and I dont want to hurt her or loose her friendship but the fact is things just arent working out.
In truth I geuss I had the feeling things were not quite right 6 mnths into the relationship, but I thought we could work things out, unfortunatly its not been that easy, we've both had a lot to deal with over the past few years, one of the biggest problems is she has a very short temper and also suffers from OCD, I have tried so hard to ignore her temper and deal with her OCD, but its becoming so hard, its also worrying my family as I suffered with the condition myself and they have noticed me reverting to my old ways. Her temper has got worse lately as I have just started uni but all my class mates are female so when it comes to group work my girlfriend gets really angry and says I should just try to work alone!. I dont know what to for the best, we cant go on like this but I dont want to hurt her. Anyway sorry this is so dam long!
Aww *hugs* I have kind of been at the receiving end of that situation. Me and my bf were together for just over a year but towards the end he realised that we wanted differnt things and felt pressured. I suffer from depression and am quite insecure so he felt quite burdened, he also has a hard full time job and it got too much, I refused to admit things had changed and wern't working but in the end you can't keep going with this relationship if your're feeling like this, my Bf told me how he felt and even thought we tried to make it work it didn't and I had to acceot it.
As you say, its not doing you any good if you might be reverting back to your OCD. You might end up resenting her for being with her and might feel oliged to be with her rather than because you want to
You need to talk to you're gf about this dude
Yeah I know, we have tried speaking a few times but I kinda sugar coat it or somtimes when I do get the point accross the nexts day she acts like the conversation never happend. I know that really I need to be firmer, for both our sakes. And yeah in a way I do kinda resent her, well not her exactly but I had to fight soooo hard to break through my OCD, it took 4 years, and at the time I was a total recluse, I dont want to go back to that.
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Yeah everyone just wants to be happy and if you're not happy then try to be happy but then you have to think about other people then OH CRIKEY you're stuck.
enigma2506
Oh man I feel awful, I just read a post by a girl whos b/f just broke up with her after 4 years, it reminds me so much of the situation Im in, except Ive only been with the girl 3 years. I really care for her and love her, but I dont see the relationship in the same way she does, alot as changed and I feel we're dragging eachother down, which is never a good thing. Shes even admitted this herself.
A good friend of ours suggested a break but my g/f went mad at her, saying theres nothing wrong, we're fine. The truth is we're not fine but neither of us are prepared to fully face up to it, she doesnt want to loose me and I dont want to hurt her or loose her friendship but the fact is things just arent working out.
In truth I geuss I had the feeling things were not quite right 6 mnths into the relationship, but I thought we could work things out, unfortunatly its not been that easy, we've both had a lot to deal with over the past few years, one of the biggest problems is she has a very short temper and also suffers from OCD, I have tried so hard to ignore her temper and deal with her OCD, but its becoming so hard, its also worrying my family as I suffered with the condition myself and they have noticed me reverting to my old ways. Her temper has got worse lately as I have just started uni but all my class mates are female so when it comes to group work my girlfriend gets really angry and says I should just try to work alone!. I dont know what to for the best, we cant go on like this but I dont want to hurt her. Anyway sorry this is so dam long!
A good friend of ours suggested a break but my g/f went mad at her, saying theres nothing wrong, we're fine. The truth is we're not fine but neither of us are prepared to fully face up to it, she doesnt want to loose me and I dont want to hurt her or loose her friendship but the fact is things just arent working out.
In truth I geuss I had the feeling things were not quite right 6 mnths into the relationship, but I thought we could work things out, unfortunatly its not been that easy, we've both had a lot to deal with over the past few years, one of the biggest problems is she has a very short temper and also suffers from OCD, I have tried so hard to ignore her temper and deal with her OCD, but its becoming so hard, its also worrying my family as I suffered with the condition myself and they have noticed me reverting to my old ways. Her temper has got worse lately as I have just started uni but all my class mates are female so when it comes to group work my girlfriend gets really angry and says I should just try to work alone!. I dont know what to for the best, we cant go on like this but I dont want to hurt her. Anyway sorry this is so dam long!
better do it sooner than later. shes going to be upset and hurt either way. (wait till after valentines day though... lol )
I was that girl who got broken up with...it was actually 3 n half yrs so not that much longer...but anyways do what is best for the both of you, if that means ending it then do. It will be so hard for both of you, but may be for the best. I know it was what my boyfriend wanted, and if it will make him happier then i accept it, although clearly am heartbroken by it all, I have to accept it somehow...I dont think I will ever get over him properly though, but then again we hadnt had to fight ever, we had always gotten on so perfectly...thats what makes it harder!
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