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Reply 1
Please help,
I'm having heart palpatations...
I'm having heart palpatations...
Reply 2
Just try and be yourself. Perhaps go armed with a couple of questions to ask them, they may have some for you (most likely to get an idea as to what you'd be like to live with). Good luck!
Reply 3
Have you signed a contract? If not and you don't like them, you don't have to live with them. Don't forget, whether you like them is just as important as whether they like you.
From their point of view, they want someone who will fit in with them, so they're unlikely to be cliquey or exclude you. I'm sure they will be friendly and welcoming.
I've been offered a place in a house next year by someone who is currently living in the house and graduating. He may or may not be there (depending on whether he stays on to do research for a year). Basically I went for dinner at his house and his housemate (who I only know vaguely) asked me if I fancied living there next year. The people there all know each other through music groups (I'm in symphony orchestra with a couple of them) and they wanted to fill the spaces in their house with people who have music in common. At the moment there's Vickie, who's the one I only know a little bit, and Emma, who I met for the first time last night, and Greg, who may not be there. But I'm not worried because Vickie and Emma seem really nice. They'll be third years and I'll be a second year, and we still have spaces to fill, but I think it'll be fine.
Remember that who you live with doesn't matter all that much. You can always have your friends/boyfriends over, and go round to other people's houses. And in any case, these people might turn out to be your best friends.
From their point of view, they want someone who will fit in with them, so they're unlikely to be cliquey or exclude you. I'm sure they will be friendly and welcoming.
I've been offered a place in a house next year by someone who is currently living in the house and graduating. He may or may not be there (depending on whether he stays on to do research for a year). Basically I went for dinner at his house and his housemate (who I only know vaguely) asked me if I fancied living there next year. The people there all know each other through music groups (I'm in symphony orchestra with a couple of them) and they wanted to fill the spaces in their house with people who have music in common. At the moment there's Vickie, who's the one I only know a little bit, and Emma, who I met for the first time last night, and Greg, who may not be there. But I'm not worried because Vickie and Emma seem really nice. They'll be third years and I'll be a second year, and we still have spaces to fill, but I think it'll be fine.
Remember that who you live with doesn't matter all that much. You can always have your friends/boyfriends over, and go round to other people's houses. And in any case, these people might turn out to be your best friends.
Reply 4
Firstly don't panic!! Yeah it sounds slightly daunting, but all you can do is act friendly and be interested in meeting them.
I remember a situation like this a few months ago and i was also terrified of not getting along with everyone.......await cheeseinfested line........
Just be yourself and hopefully all will be good x x x
I remember a situation like this a few months ago and i was also terrified of not getting along with everyone.......await cheeseinfested line........
Just be yourself and hopefully all will be good x x x
Reply 5
:dito: just be yourself and try not to get too nervous. I know it's easier said than done 
It might help to compile a list of possible questions you want to ask them, so then you don't forget anything and you get all the answers you need
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It might help to compile a list of possible questions you want to ask them, so then you don't forget anything and you get all the answers you need
.Reply 6
you could try taking them out to lunch or something to chat informally rather than standing somewhere with your hands in your pockets not being able to think of anything to say
Reply 7
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Yeah, I agree with all the things said above. I've been meeting potential housemates for the past couple of weeks, and we have always met up on common ground like a pub. Ask them what their favourite music/food/movie is, that generally generates conversation. Ask them if they are in societies, where they like to go on a night out, what their course is like, what they think of the uni, when they go home etc.
If you are all looking for a house together, ask what they are looking for, price range etc, so you dont start off being incompatible and waste each others time.
Generally its a get to know you thing like meeting any person for the first time. Most of all, try and enjoy yourself! You want to live with people you get on with as much as they do, so you want to be yourself and be cheery!
Good luck!!
If you are all looking for a house together, ask what they are looking for, price range etc, so you dont start off being incompatible and waste each others time.
Generally its a get to know you thing like meeting any person for the first time. Most of all, try and enjoy yourself! You want to live with people you get on with as much as they do, so you want to be yourself and be cheery!
Good luck!!
Reply 8
What I would say is don't change to try and suit them, because yes, they would choose you, but you'd probably be really unhappy living there. So if, for example, you're really quiet but act really loud to fit in when you meet them, you'll kick yourself next year when you can't get a minute's peace.
Reply 9
I'm changing flats now and interviewing loads of people to take my place. Some people are fussier than others with who to accept. I would have said yes to about 4 or 5 girls who came this afternoon but my flatmate didn't like any of them. My advice would be to be yourself, but very friendly and open. I don't know why people come to see the flat and just sit there looking at us, not showing any personality and not telling us anything about themselves! That's a definite no. There has to be a connection of some kind. I personally would like someone friendly, talkative but not loud and obnoxious, pretty easygoing and tolerant.
You're only going to meet them right? If they don't like you, they won't ask you to stay so don't worry about that
If you don't like them, carry on looking for somewhere else!
You're only going to meet them right? If they don't like you, they won't ask you to stay so don't worry about that
If you don't like them, carry on looking for somewhere else!Reply 10
Smile, and have a nice bottle of wine and some chilled beers handy! 
Nobody could possibly dislike you
Nobody could possibly dislike you
Reply 11
as for next years accommodation, I don't know any of the people around me, I'm slightly anxious about it, but also looking forward to it. I sometimes think should I go in with low expectations with the possibilty of a nice surprise, or the opposite, with the chance of bitter disappointment. I'm looking on the bright side of life (du dum), like people say, be yourself. Interesting times ahead for us all . Best of luck.
Incidently, I can't take my alcohol so it'll be a nice coke with a slice of lime.
. Best of luck.Incidently, I can't take my alcohol so it'll be a nice coke with a slice of lime.
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