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What should I do ?

I broke up with my girlfriend of almost 3 years recently, and at the time we decided to try and stay friends. This was because we got on soo well together and loved each other alot. The problem was the distance of the relationship after we had both been at uni for a few months. We gave it a go but it wasn't working as planned.

I was initially gutted about the split but then i thought i had got over it. We had chatted a few times since on MSN but not very frequently, and i was generally happy that we were still mates even though i did miss her occasionally.

Now she has told me she has started to see someone at her uni, which ofcourse is perfectly fine and i even probably expected it if im honest. Although i did not see it coming, and now i'm not sure whether being friends is a good idea, as i fell hurt by the news even though theres nothing i can do...

basically what should i do, carry on being friends because its just me being silly or just try and lose contact with her, even though shes probably the person ive got on with most in my life?
Reply 1
I think you have to accept that she's moved on. You obviously haven't and I think breaking off all contact is the best way forward as Pretty Boy stated. I'm going through this myself, except my ex left me for a guy back home from Uni. It takes a lot of time but you need to meet new people and move on so that you can go through your day without thinking about her.
Reply 2
Anonymous
which ofcourse is perfectly fine




^that reminds me of that friends episode where ross finds out joey is seeing rachael.... your perfectly....... FIIINNNEEE.

I agree with pretty boy Your best bet is to quit contact with her until you feelings go away, then you can consider being friends, as you're obviously not. F>I>N>E.
Reply 3
Wouldn't quitting contact raise suspisions though? I mean after all these years the both of you have been keeping in touch, although not quite frequently. It's a bit harsh to shut someone out completely, don't you think? I would remain supportive...You'll get over her eventually. You just have to accept the fact that you don't stand a chance with her anymore (sorry to sound harsh, but it's the only way you'll really get over her) :smile:. Good luck.
You gotta let it go. I know it's hard but u just have to try. Try to meet new people out there and participate in other social events. Hey, you might just get over it before you even know it.
Reply 5
give your self time,it's normal to feel hurt and jealous even. you'll get over the feeling,you'll move meet someone of your own,she'll get jealous,things might be awkward (Sp?) for a while and then things will settle and you'll be good mates. good luck :hugs: