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Friend Problems
Long story, so here we go:
About six months ago, I accepted into my friendship group a girl who’d been bullied, and had been treated horribly by her previous best friend. Since then, I’ve had the feeling that she’s trying to split my friendship group up. Since about January 2006, she’s been insulting me, calling me names, physically assaulting me, destroying my opinions and much more. I finally snapped last Friday, and told her (in an MSN conversation) that I was fed up of her. She retaliated by telling me that I had abused her trust, but I don’t think I have. I then told her that I didn’t want to be friends with her. Then she told me she was going to commit suicide if I wasn’t friends with her, so I just signed out and blocked her.
So what do I do? Should I go back to being friends with her, just for her own sanity? Or should I block her out of my life? My other friends agree with me that I should block her, as they have seen what she’s done.
Thoughts and votes please.
About six months ago, I accepted into my friendship group a girl who’d been bullied, and had been treated horribly by her previous best friend. Since then, I’ve had the feeling that she’s trying to split my friendship group up. Since about January 2006, she’s been insulting me, calling me names, physically assaulting me, destroying my opinions and much more. I finally snapped last Friday, and told her (in an MSN conversation) that I was fed up of her. She retaliated by telling me that I had abused her trust, but I don’t think I have. I then told her that I didn’t want to be friends with her. Then she told me she was going to commit suicide if I wasn’t friends with her, so I just signed out and blocked her.
So what do I do? Should I go back to being friends with her, just for her own sanity? Or should I block her out of my life? My other friends agree with me that I should block her, as they have seen what she’s done.
Thoughts and votes please.
What a simple answer! Thanks, that's what I've been thinking of doing. Any more advice?
Reue
block, delete, not your problem.
Simple
Simple
i totally agree!
what the hell?
Are you like 8 or something:
"I don't want to be your friend anymore"
"you have to be my friend or I'll kill myself"
Seriously mate, just block her. If she kills herself then she's obviously mentally unstable and that's not your problem. The fact that she even told you she'd do that:
1) suggests that she's unstable
2) suggests that she wouldn't follow it through
Or, perhaps if you don't feel up to blocking her, why don't you just do something really evil to her 'accidentally'? Carry a cup of coffee and accidentally spill it on her new coat then act like you don't care. Or something along those lines. This way, she'll break up with you
Are you like 8 or something:
"I don't want to be your friend anymore"
"you have to be my friend or I'll kill myself"
Seriously mate, just block her. If she kills herself then she's obviously mentally unstable and that's not your problem. The fact that she even told you she'd do that:
1) suggests that she's unstable
2) suggests that she wouldn't follow it through
Or, perhaps if you don't feel up to blocking her, why don't you just do something really evil to her 'accidentally'? Carry a cup of coffee and accidentally spill it on her new coat then act like you don't care. Or something along those lines. This way, she'll break up with you
The chances are, that because you said she's been bullied before, she is trying to gain some power by "bullying back", having control over your friendship group and your friendship with her. I think it's a normal reaction for someone who has been through an experience like this. Maybe you can try and help her, because it sounds like she's having psychological problems and these are the concequences of those problems. However, if you feel like you have no reason to help her because she's not that close or whatever, then don't feel like you're obliged to.
Don't suddenly start ignoring her, it will make her frustrated and angry. I would probably try and break away gradually if you don't want anything to do with her. If you invite her out less, and lessen calling or talking to her on MSN, then gradually she'll give up and cannot claim that you're suddenly ignoring her.
Don't suddenly start ignoring her, it will make her frustrated and angry. I would probably try and break away gradually if you don't want anything to do with her. If you invite her out less, and lessen calling or talking to her on MSN, then gradually she'll give up and cannot claim that you're suddenly ignoring her.
Tnank you a lot everybody. Your replies are all fantastic so far. Very speedy too!
Zakaz
what the hell?
Are you like 8 or something:
"I don't want to be your friend anymore"
"you have to be my friend or I'll kill myself"
Seriously mate, just block her. If she kills herself then she's obviously mentally unstable and that's not your problem. The fact that she even told you she'd do that:
1) suggests that she's unstable
2) suggests that she wouldn't follow it through
Or, perhaps if you don't feel up to blocking her, why don't you just do something really evil to her 'accidentally'? Carry a cup of coffee and accidentally spill it on her new coat then act like you don't care. Or something along those lines. This way, she'll break up with you
Are you like 8 or something:
"I don't want to be your friend anymore"
"you have to be my friend or I'll kill myself"
Seriously mate, just block her. If she kills herself then she's obviously mentally unstable and that's not your problem. The fact that she even told you she'd do that:
1) suggests that she's unstable
2) suggests that she wouldn't follow it through
Or, perhaps if you don't feel up to blocking her, why don't you just do something really evil to her 'accidentally'? Carry a cup of coffee and accidentally spill it on her new coat then act like you don't care. Or something along those lines. This way, she'll break up with you
I'm not evil enough to do that!
I also don't think she'd carry out her suicide threats. She's threatened it before, in different situations, and I think she uses it to bring people back to her and give her sympathy. In the same way, she's always moaning about how she was bullied in primary school. Although she has been bullied in secondary school, she's not had it as hard as some people, and I feel like telling her to get over primary school - it was five years ago.
Anonymous
I'm not evil enough to do that!
I also don't think she'd carry out her suicide threats. She's threatened it before, in different situations, and I think she uses it to bring people back to her and give her sympathy. In the same way, she's always moaning about how she was bullied in primary school. Although she has been bullied in secondary school, she's not had it as hard as some people, and I feel like telling her to get over primary school - it was five years ago.
I also don't think she'd carry out her suicide threats. She's threatened it before, in different situations, and I think she uses it to bring people back to her and give her sympathy. In the same way, she's always moaning about how she was bullied in primary school. Although she has been bullied in secondary school, she's not had it as hard as some people, and I feel like telling her to get over primary school - it was five years ago.
It'd be fun...If she's pulled such a stunt before then she's obviously just tryig to make you feel guilty and whore attention - ie. she ain't going to do it so don't worry (and even if she does then so?). I'd drop her like rotten eggs personally.
Zakaz It'd be fun...
If she's pulled such a stunt before then she's obviously just tryig to make you feel guilty and whore attention - ie. she ain't going to do it so don't worry (and even if she does then so?). I'd drop her like rotten eggs personally.
It'd be fun...If she's pulled such a stunt before then she's obviously just tryig to make you feel guilty and whore attention - ie. she ain't going to do it so don't worry (and even if she does then so?). I'd drop her like rotten eggs personally.
Gotta say I agree with you. After talking to my friends, we have decided she's not worth our time. Every chance we've given her, it's been thrown back in our faces, especially mine.
I think you've done the right thing in ignoring her, since she sounds like an overly-manipulative person to me, which is always a bit scary. However, please don't try and seek revenge, as some members have suggested; it would be awfully petty.
play_the_world
I think you've done the right thing in ignoring her, since she sounds like an overly-manipulative person to me, which is always a bit scary. However, please don't try and seek revenge, as some members have suggested; it would be awfully petty.
Trust me, I'm not planning to seek revenge. I refuse to lower down to her level of manipulative, horrible actions.
Yeah, well I accidently revealed who I was on the doubled thread, so it's not really worth it. But back to anon I go.
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