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Watching porn & masturbating when in a relationship

does anyone stil watch porn and masturbate when in a good relationship?
my partner and I have fantastic sex but i still like to masturbate and watch porn... is that normal?

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I would say it is yeah - your partner can't be there all the time and if you have a high sex drive and feel the need then erm..yeah!

that means ur partner is crap in bed.

dragonlance

that means ur partner is crap in bed.

A second class shag is better thana first class w@nk though :wink:

:wink:

Anonymous

does anyone stil watch porn and masturbate when in a good relationship?
my partner and I have fantastic sex but i still like to masturbate and watch porn... is that normal?

Probably; with a view to purely physical gratification, and provided that the sex really is as "fantastic" as you purport it to be.

Hmmm I don't know about this one. When me and my ex were living together we had pretty good sex but he still masturbated using porn when I wasn't there. That was fair enough because I understood that men need to do it to get it out of their system and it isn't a threat blah blah blah. The thing that has threw me is that now we are no longer together (although we still have sex occasionally :redface:

:redface:

) he says he can't look at porn because he loves me too much and misses me... this may just be a lame attempt to get me back but if he's telling the truth, then perhaps it does mean something... :confused:

:confused:

yeah, I see no problem with it. So long as your girl/guy don't mind then why not?

Yep

:biggrin:

I did even when I was having amazing sex. In fact, even more than when I was having not as amazing sex, since the better sex I had, the more often I got turned on thinking about her. It's just not possible to have sex enough to not need to!

(ok,the last part does make me a bit of a freak :redface:

:redface:

)

I've often masturbated and watched porn when I'm in a healthy relationship. It's not at all hidden from my partner and we often both enjoy telling each other our little secret and seeing the other get excited over the thought. As long as your partner is not uncomfortable & is getting the satisfaction they need then there really is no problem. I'd consider masturbation part of a good sex life. The orgasms you have are different from when you're having sex with your other half. Who doesn't want a variety of great orgasms?!

Question, why must one always watch 'Porn' to be able to masturbate. If a person is feeling in that mood and even by themself, do they really need porm to help them along...........Not sure

Sure. Especially if you don't see eachother much.

bluejeansdave

Question, why must one always watch 'Porn' to be able to masturbate. If a person is feeling in that mood and even by themself, do they really need porm to help them along...........Not sure

Visual porn is the easiest and most dependable stimulation for a man. Women tend to prefer porn in the form of erotic fiction. But there is always the good old imagination, which is more effort but can also be far more rewarding sometimes, and there are usually some times when porn is not readily available. Masturbation is very different from sex, the two are of course complementary, and you can learn a lot about yourself and your sexuality through masturbation and erotic fantasies or daydreams. I pity anybody who never uses their erotic imagination. It can be nice to masturbate with your partner sometimes as that can often help you learn more about each others bodies and how to stimulate them better than sex can.

Of course even in a relationship everyone should make time for some personal masturbation alone. Most people do masturbate, whether in a relationship or not, though many if not most girls would never admit to it. Masturbation allows you to explore your sexuality and discover new things in safety and security. When you know what you want and like, and what fantasies you would like to enact with your partner you can share them and persuade them to fullfill them for you (so long as you do the same in return). Of course most erotic fantasies will not make it into the real world, some are not even physically possible. Still its rather pathetic to limit your sex life to purely vanilla sex forever, that can get boring and monotonous if you are in a long term relationship. The key to good sex is to make it "rich, abundent varied and prolonged" (Tolkien speaking of food in LOTR) and if you experiment without worrying about it it will get better. It takes time for two people to jell sexually, even if they are already good at sex each encounter is different and noone is born knowing everything about sex. Everyones body is unique and slightly different, which you will know if youve had more than one partner.

Women can experience more intense orgasms and understand what works best for them through masterbation particularly if they experiment with a good vibrator. Men can learn to control how long it takes them to orgasm by varying the visual and physical stimulus. To be able to achieve greater control improves sex a lot, men can learn to prolong sex and also how to bring themselves quickly to orgasm after their partner, and it takes a lot of practice and control to achieve the elusive simultanious orgasm. Everyone has the right to masturbate in a relationship, and really everyone also has the right to view pornography (so long as it is legal), though some people will no doubt have problems with this one, but it is not cheating and you should make it clear to your partner that thats the way it is if they want to be in a relationship with you. Strip clubs are of course another matter, you need your partners permission or tacit consent for that, unless its a friends stag/hen party.

theres nothing wrong with hittin the peddle and crank when you are havin your boat race kissed daily and further more indulged in a sexual relationship.

yes it's normal :rolleyes:

:rolleyes:

you can even incorporate to form part of the relationship, re-act scenes and stuff. i do it with my bf and we've been together for more than a year now,love each other very much and something we both like. nothgin wrong there. the only problem is if ur partner prefers porn to you or spends more time on porn than you,then you've gotta have a talk.

dragonlance

that means ur partner is crap in bed.

It does not.

dragonlance

that means ur partner is crap in bed.

not always... as ..someone.. else said, if you have a high sex drive, you are going to need to relieve yourself more.. hmm.

pleasant thread.

Firebird

I agree. If a girl is into you she'll want to have just as much sex as you anyway, so why masturbate when you can have the real thing?

Sex and masturbation are different, its best to have both. And girls dont always want as much sex as guys just because they love them and are into them (the opposite can also be true of course). Also sometimes you are in the mood and they are not, you cant expect even a devoted girlfriend to give you as many orgasms as you want on demand. When you have sex most of the time you should try and make it satisfying for both of you (its ok to be selfish occassionally if you allow your partner the same treatment at other times), and while trying to pleasure your girlfriend is highly rewarding, sometimes guys want a bit of easy gratification. The best girfriends will give them a quick blowjob or bend over for a quickie, at least early on in their relationship, but no girl can be expected to do that whenever their bf feels like it. Some of us have very large sex drives. Also masturbation can be a lot faster than sex, and whats wrong with having some extra orgasms in addition to regular sex? You might not have time to have sex twice a day or more when your both busy, or for some middle aged people more like twice a week or more! Quickies are usually less satisfying for girls as they are unlikely to orgasm, so a guy has to be pretty lucky to get them whenever he wants, especially if youve already had a longer sex session that day.

dragonlance

that means ur partner is crap in bed.

obviously a 15 year old whod oesn't know anything about adult sexual relationships.

My ex used to love watching porn and masturbating, and I knew about it. Most times I'd join in and help him on his way! But its a private thing and I think it would take a lot of trust in a relationship to be able to do those kind of things together.

with some much open talk on this subject, I wonder how our gran's and grandad's would have view this subject. Did they do it, my feeling were yeah that did, but in there day ' mastbating, masturbate or just saying 'having sex' was very bad and naughty. Can't help thinking reading these topics must be really making guys on there own wanna rush to the bathroom, yeah true lads, cause it does me. But wonder would we all be have doing and saying it their days

Lets put it this way, I'd much prefer my boyf to be watching porn and spanking the monkey than shagging someone else.

I don't think there is anything wrong, so long as you both are happy with it.

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