What The Funk??!

I dont think you're high on his agenda,frankly

Reply 2

What's wrong? He's obviously still into you. "Thinkin might be better another night" = "sorry, as much as I'd love to, we're going to have to reschedule". Stop stressing about it being Valentine's Day... it's a load of crap designed to sell heart-shaped red things. Surely you can wait til thursday. :smile:

Reply 3

OP

Probably, but then he did say that we should maybe re-arrange. Should I mention that I'm bothered by it? How do I tackle the issue?! Help!

Reply 4

Kathica, when a guy keeps putting it gf off and asking to rearrange it seems to me that she doesnt mean all that much to him, i mean, if she did, im sure he'd be able to compromise other things

i'd find someone else that cant keep away from you, darlin

Reply 5

Well, meet up with him on Thursday, and you'll see by how he acts with you whether or not he's interested :P if he doesn't turn up, or cancels, or postpones, then unless he has a super duper reason, you've got your answer

Reply 6

OP

I wouldn't have bothered posting if I wasn't annoyed by it. The trials were for a professional club, so quite important. My issue lies with what I should say about it? He knows i'm annoyed because he noticed during the call, and I didn't say much. And i'm not officially his girlfriend either, we haven't had that conversation. Should I continue sulking? I'm being serious by the way!

Reply 7

OP

I wouldn't have bothered posting if I wasn't annoyed by it. The trials were for a professional club, so quite important. My issue lies with what I should say about it? He knows i'm annoyed because he noticed during the call, and I didn't say much. And i'm not officially his girlfriend either, we haven't had that conversation. Should I continue sulking? I'm being serious by the way! And I get what you're saying about Val's Day- but surely it wouldn't kill him to mention it?!

Reply 8

MissKathica

Well, meet up with him on Thursday, and you'll see by how he acts with you whether or not he's interested :P if he doesn't turn up, or cancels, or postpones, then unless he has a super duper reason, you've got your answer

If he turns up, its all well and good, but what about the other times, is she going to find herself trying unneccessarily hard to get him to go out with her? I think that since he seems to wrapped up in his rugby, he wont commit and going on dates with you wont matter all that much to him tbh, so i'd seriously consider finding some other guy.

Reply 9

OP

He's not likely to not show up, and he's always quite keen when I'm with him. However, I'm just really annoyed that he didnt have the curtesy to call me after I sent the last message. Also, surely there's something to be said for the factthat he hasn't mentioned the fact it's Valentines day?! I'm not the type of person to get caught up in the excitement of stupid things like that, but still!...

Reply 10

Steph!

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I'd say just see what happens on Thursday, but don't be in a mood with him then though or things def won't go well.

Reply 11

OP

THank you for both of your replies. Markus- he's never cancelled before. My problem is the fact that he didnt tell me sooner and the non-mention of you-know-what. The reason I posted was to get some advice on what I should say/do about it x x

Reply 12

If you're not officially his girlfriend, I'm thinking maybe you could just let it go. Seriously, guys don't like to be hassled, and neither do they like to talk about every little niggle that goes "wrong"...

if you think you can just take a deep breath and think to yourself "right, well that trial was really important to him, and seeing as we're not that committed, and if this had happened any other day it wouldn't be such a big a deal, and perhaps he is genuinely sorry he couldn't meet up and wants to meet on thursday instead.... it doesn't mean he doesn't like me anymore" then I would recommend you do that.

True, it wouldn't have killed him to mention Valentine's day, but seriously... if you get annoyed about little things like that, that's what's going to drive him away.

Reply 13

Steph has a good point, also dont worry about valentines, some guys are real romantics and love v days, but some just aren't, thats how things go,

Just see how it goes, you might find yourself getting bored with him and find someone who isnt so preoccupied with something else besides you :biggrin:

Reply 14

OP

I'm really not as desperate as I'm coming across- I swear. Was thinking of sending a message tomorrow. There's a new club opening tomorrow and my friend's got a guest list. Thinking of saying the following.. ''hello, sorry for being a bit off-ish last night, was just a little vexed that you didnt tell me sooner. Likely to be going to **** tonight, Sophie's got a guest list if you wanted to to come along? Hope the trial went well, couldn't ask last night, you see, as I was indulging in a sulk!'' Or something to that effect! Yes I know its sad that ive already written tomorrows message!

To send or not to send?!

Reply 15

kimberley1987

Send it, it's quite sweet. No doubt Markus will disagree- I love the guy's perspective, despite always being a let down.

Reply 16

Steph!

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hmmmm.... personally I wouldn't put in the bit about the sulking.

Reply 17