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Don't Want A Girlfriend Yet

Is is normal for someone of my age not to want a girlfriend yet? Im in Yr11, but I think all the girls in my school are too immature for me, or not my type. Am I right to wait to Sixth Form or Uni before i go out with someone? I've never had a girlfriend before either.

Reply 1

different?

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My friend doesn't want a boyfriend yet and hasn't had one yet, it's not abnormal but it's probably the minority.

Reply 2

*~vicki~*

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I think its perfectly normal... and about whether you are right to wait...of course you are... Its better to wait and go out with someone you actually like than go out with someone 'just to go out with someone'.
The fact that you've never had a girlfriend before doent matter either- speaking from personal experience, i'd never had a boyfriend, and had spent my entire time in school watching my mates going out with people, but i just didnt want to, then at the end of year 11, i met someone i really liked (outside of school), and 2 years later, we're still together :hugs:

Hope that helps...

Vicki x

Reply 3

starya

Of course it's normal. As different? said though it is probably a minority who feel that way but there's no rule that says you should have a girlfriend.

Reply 4

rosetinted

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and for those of us who didn't go to a UK state school...how old is year 11?

Who cares what is 'normal' or not? If you don't want a girlfriend then don't have one, simple as. You live your life by how you feel and what you want..you shouldn't be getting a girlfriend because everyone else does it. If the girls at your school aren't right for you and you haven't met anyone that is then why the heck would you want to be going out with someone who doesn't meet your standards? Do what feels right, when it feels right and stop worrying about what others think.

Reply 5

glisten

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It's normal, don't worry. Even though I fancied people in year 11 and sixthform I didn't go out with them. I only fancied 3 people in 3 years because the boys seemed really immature and stupid. I didn't get into a relationship until I started uni even though there were rare occassions when I wanted someone in year 11 and sixthform. It wasn't important to me though. All the heartbreaking rejections were very upsetting, (I'd fancy someone for months, flirt, joke and become friends with them, then they'd reject me). I stopped thinking about relationships and focused more on actually getting my GCSE's and A-Levels, they were more important. To me a if a relationship happened if it happened.

Reply 6

Phonicsdude

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Im 18, have had girlfriends in the past but certainly dont want a girlfriend at the moment.

Reply 7

Objet trouvé

1

Yes, it is normal not to want a girlfrieng when you are 16. However, if you're not wanting to get laid, then I'd be worrying...

Reply 8

-TMG-

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I sometimes wish I didn't have a girlfriend and had time to myself...to sort out my own things first. Other times, I like sex...On occassion, I enjoy having a girlfriend.

PMT is one of the reasons I think not having a girlfriend can be a good thing.

Reply 9

Ferrus

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No, you are not normal. Spend 12 months in penitance.

Reply 10

Dann

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hace to agree with rosetinted here. If you don't want a girlfriend, where is the problem? The problem with labels is that people feel they must get 'a girlfriend' or whatever, when in fact most relationships are much more organic than that. Your best mate might turn into something more, or you could well just run into someone which quickly develops into something else.

Don't worry, do what feels right and you can't go too far wrong.

Reply 11

Angel Interceptor

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Anonymous

Is is normal for someone of my age not to want a girlfriend yet? Im in Yr11, but I think all the girls in my school are too immature for me, or not my type. Am I right to wait to Sixth Form or Uni before i go out with someone? I've never had a girlfriend before either.

I think that's perfectly fine - waiting until you meet the right girl is very admirable, as at your age some people just go out with girls because they don't want to feel left out of the whole 'dating' thing. Anyhows, don't worry about it mate - you'll meet the right person at some point. :smile:

Reply 12

brimstone

7

Year 11 is aged 15-16.

Reply 13

HammerTime

I didnt want a girlfriend when I was in Year11. Far better to wait for the right person than to set age-related targets for yourself when you feel you should be with a partner in my opinion.

Reply 14

Wineblood

Objet trouvé

However, if you're not wanting to get laid, then I'd be worrying...

rofl

Reply 15

SamTheMan

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Anonymous

Is is normal for someone of my age not to want a girlfriend yet? Im in Yr11, but I think all the girls in my school are too immature for me, or not my type. Am I right to wait to Sixth Form or Uni before i go out with someone? I've never had a girlfriend before either.

If an amazingly attractive girl showed interest in you, you'd be surprised how fast you can change your mind...

You just haven't found anyone that attractive yet, that's all.

Reply 16

philjw

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Maybe my sixth form's abnormal, but I'd say at least 40% of the guys there don't have a girlfriend. At least. That's not even counting the ones that believably lie and say they have when they're single...

To be honest there's nothing wrong with it. I personally am not looking for a relationship either at the moment, and I know plenty of normal people who have first started a romantic relationship at university, so it's not weird.