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Is it normal to think your special?
Ever since I was little for some reason I always thought i was a bit different and maybe special I think its cause im an only child and used to win a lot of things like sport etc in infant school I wouldn't mix with my age group well cause I didn't want the status 'normal', im just a plain loser now though with no life lol. Im not arrogant in anyway and I think Ive realised im normal in reality, well less than normal at the moment. Does anyone else think like this about themselves?
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I was quite ambitious as a kid. I was usually in the top few in my year group and things like that and got used to being successful. I presumed that being up there in my school would be my ticket to success and riches, but once I grew up I soon realised there were plenty of people with good grades in exams that noone cares about now, and I wasn't anything special after all! I'll just work in a mediocre job on a medicre wage and live a mediocre life I don't doubt!
I don't mean special as in better than everyone else, it was things like when I saw someone with a cold or something I thought it was disgusting and normal but when I had one I thought I deserved sympathy lol. Also when people used to bring toys into school I left mine at home cause I thought they were too special to let other people play with, I was the only one who should know about them. This was in infant/primary school btw, guess Im just selfish or somethin.
King Leigh
Would I be right in saying you were quite a solitary child? Doesn't sound like there's anything wrong with the way you are, you just preferred your own company to sharing everything (possessions, feelings etc) with other people?
Yup that was it, If I got excited about something ie going on holiday Id never show it or even tell my friends I was going, whereas a lot of them would jump around in excitement telling everyone, I just didn't want the fuss.
King Leigh
I was quite ambitious as a kid. I was usually in the top few in my year group and things like that and got used to being successful. I presumed that being up there in my school would be my ticket to success and riches, but once I grew up I soon realised there were plenty of people with good grades in exams that noone cares about now, and I wasn't anything special after all! I'll just work in a mediocre job on a medicre wage and live a mediocre life I don't doubt!
Same here lol teachers/parents always made it seem as though qualifications were the only thing that mattered when in reality Id say its personality.
King Leigh
I was quite ambitious as a kid. I was usually in the top few in my year group and things like that and got used to being successful. I presumed that being up there in my school would be my ticket to success and riches, but once I grew up I soon realised there were plenty of people with good grades in exams that noone cares about now, and I wasn't anything special after all! I'll just work in a mediocre job on a medicre wage and live a mediocre life I don't doubt!
Yes, you will, because you say so, although I pretty much doubt you mean that 100%, especially since you have an offer from Cambridge, meaning you have a pretty good chance of landing a decent job. While grades are not everything, if you continue to excel in whatever you do, and work using the best of your abilities to a goal with self-belief - then you will achieve. It requires ability and some luck to some extent, and few people will become millionaires or famous, but if you wishing and knowing you can achieve is the most important - if you float through life and feel mediocre from disappointment, then success can slip through your fingers.
However, success is only what you deem it to be. You could have a £10,000 salary job but feel more successful than an executive on 10 times the amount if you are a loving parent and raise children - everyone is "special" in the sense that they are unique, but not special because they are "superior".
Isn't it called narcicissm?
99% of the population live a mediocre life. It takes a lot to make the 1% who break the mould. A lot of people are happy and find contentment in mediocrity though. If you believe in yourself you can do anything really, a bit of a cliche but true none the less. i don't think you'll find contentment in mediocrity though you will probable just lose sleep over the what ifs and maybes all your life. Sad but also true.
Read Crime and Punishment.
I may add I too have such notions, but I realise if I am anything special, it is that I am specially cursed.
As for jobs, having a high paid one doesn't make you "special". Academics have got some of the most rewarding jobs around yet they are paid ****. I want to be a solicitor, but I know that whilst I could have good wages in the city, doing legal aid work in crime and mental health is far more likely to be an interesting use of the precious thing we have called life than endless contracts in the City.
I may add I too have such notions, but I realise if I am anything special, it is that I am specially cursed.
As for jobs, having a high paid one doesn't make you "special". Academics have got some of the most rewarding jobs around yet they are paid ****. I want to be a solicitor, but I know that whilst I could have good wages in the city, doing legal aid work in crime and mental health is far more likely to be an interesting use of the precious thing we have called life than endless contracts in the City.
Ferrus
Read Crime and Punishment.
That's uncanny, I was just about to recommend that very book!
Everyone when they are growing up has this idea they will do something really cool with their life and that they will have a great job, or find some perfect house, or do something unusual and groundbreaking, or become famous, or marry Brad Pitt...etc. There's nothing wrong with fantasising about really unrealistic stuff happening (like some of the things on that list) as long as you keep it as your enjoyable fantasy world that you delve into occasionally and don't expect it to happen, otherwise you'll be perpetually disappointed.
Now it's up to you to decide where to set your standards. If you want to become a supermodel then it's a 99.9% chance you won't ever achieve it. However some people would feel 'special' if they become a parent, get a good job, find a great partner..etc.
Most people when they are growing up think that they are invincible and that doors will open for them that will open for nobody else...you do grow out of it when you realise that life is lived day by day..the good, the bad & the ugly. Compromises are made in life. Sometimes ending up doing OK is the best you can do. Everyone has horrible, boring & depressing periods in their life and even those that get some amazing dream come true have the same issues as everyone else.
Now it's up to you to decide where to set your standards. If you want to become a supermodel then it's a 99.9% chance you won't ever achieve it. However some people would feel 'special' if they become a parent, get a good job, find a great partner..etc.
Most people when they are growing up think that they are invincible and that doors will open for them that will open for nobody else...you do grow out of it when you realise that life is lived day by day..the good, the bad & the ugly. Compromises are made in life. Sometimes ending up doing OK is the best you can do. Everyone has horrible, boring & depressing periods in their life and even those that get some amazing dream come true have the same issues as everyone else.
Riddy
Why should they read that
Why should they read thatRaskolnikov (the protagonist) sees himself as a Napoleon figure - a man above the confines of laws which bind normal men. It's fascinating. And exciting.
englishstudent
Raskolnikov (the protagonist) sees himself as a Napoleon figure - a man above the confines of laws which bind normal men. It's fascinating. And exciting.
Yes, and the novel fully fleshes out the effects of what it is to consider yourself "special". A brilliant novel, as well as Brothers Karazmov, which is also recommended if, like me you struggle with issues as to what is thiis thing we call life.
At least you have a head start over me, I'm merely at Birmingham, which means more of a struggle.
To OP - thinking you are special is an entirely normal aspect of growing up. The transition away from that causes much of the psychological difficulties associated with adolescence. I would suggest 'The Shadow Line' by Joseph Conrad is the novel to read on the topic since for some reason that is what people are talking about now - seeing as it deals explicitly with this topic.
Anonymous
Ever since I was little for some reason I always thought i was a bit different and maybe special I think its cause im an only child and used to win a lot of things like sport etc in infant school I wouldn't mix with my age group well cause I didn't want the status 'normal', im just a plain loser now though with no life lol. Im not arrogant in anyway and I think Ive realised im normal in reality, well less than normal at the moment. Does anyone else think like this about themselves?
well so long as ur not arrogant i think thinking your special is ok! I dont personally--i feel lucky(is that the same thing) Feeling special about yourself is a million times better than hating yourself!! So why not
Anonymous
Ever since I was little for some reason I always thought i was a bit different and maybe special I think its cause im an only child and used to win a lot of things like sport etc in infant school I wouldn't mix with my age group well cause I didn't want the status 'normal', im just a plain loser now though with no life lol. Im not arrogant in anyway and I think Ive realised im normal in reality, well less than normal at the moment. Does anyone else think like this about themselves?
As long as you don't strive to be special when you won't succeed then you will be ok.
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